I can only climax by "rubing off"...and sometimes if i get fingered i don't mean to sound disgusting, but how come no matter what i can't do it during sex?
2006-08-13 03:57:58 · 41 answers · asked by cindy l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i meant rubbing
2006-08-13 03:58:32 · update #1
Just relax and don't pressure yourself so much. Maybe the guy isn't getting where he needs to. Help him out wither by directing his penis there or just move your hips around some to help him get there. Just take some pressure off some. Let it happen on it's own.
2006-08-13 04:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by ?Shannan? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon... most women CAN'T climax from penetration, and can only have an orgasm by clitoral stimulation.
So... don't feel strange.
What I recommend (and man... I could get really pervy here... but I won't) is to come to orgasm FIRST by clitoral stimulation (rubbing off) and THEN trying it by penetration. After the first orgasm, the your 'orgasm' threshold is lower... and the nerves down there are highly senstitive... and you're typically not 'thinking' about it any more... then try everything else and see where it goes.
I would also read up on G-Spot orgasms... and practice that.
Here's a link in Wikipedia so you can learn about it. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-Spot
2006-08-13 04:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Village Idiot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only a portion of women climax with intercourse alone.
You NEED that rubbing; the clitorial stimulation to get you to the point of climax. You may have to do the rubbing during intercourse to get you there. So practice & find what works for you.
2006-08-13 04:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cindy, I want to let you know that you can climax times and times again with a right guy. It is only then you will feel fulfilled as a gurl. Even if you try to do it alone, as you're doing it presently, you still feel an emotional vacum. Because having sex is sharing one's emotions and passions with the other person. Please, take your time and find an understanding guy and this story shall change for the better - I'm very optimistic. You may contact me through my profile, if you can. Cheers!
2006-08-13 04:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try different positions girl on top? Is your man impotent? That is not hard enough? Is he small sized? Is he really fast in terms of not lasting? Does he come too fast and not wait for you? It seems like your equiptment is working fine. Perhaps reading some books and experimenting more and you will be able to. How about asking him to perform oral sex on you? Try being on top experimenting with your body. Have him not move and just you move. Have him hold positions and you move and experiment. Read some book with him and learn some more educate both of you. Just try to relax and be open minded and it will happen. Your body is working so it is possible. Move slowly and think about the sensation. Concentrate on the senstaion and try not to worry about anything. I hope that helps.
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2006-08-13 04:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult for me to climax during actual intercourse too, and I think this is very common. When rubbing or fingering, the clitoris is stimulated and that's what women need. Maybe you can try a different position where you are getting stimulation of your clitoris. Experiement, but don't worry; I think this is very normal.
2006-08-13 04:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by mab5096 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sweety
Well what can i suggest to u is that try to having sex in doggi style & ask that lucky guy to thrust it real hard & when it go inside fully that time repet this action again & again i'm sure that u will be getting ur climax that time. U also can ask him to do it hard & keep doing it like for 5 to 10 minutes trust me u will get what u want .
2006-08-13 04:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by dm_pak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's simple. Your clitoris is full of nerve endings that are directly responsible for sexual arousal. Your vagina is not nearly as sensitive. The only way to experience an orgasm by penetration alone is with g-spot stimulation. Look into that, find yours and work on it. It's not something that comes easy for everyone. (no pun intended!!) Either way, just rejoice in the fact that you have a clitoris and rub away!!
2006-08-13 04:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
90% of women can't climax with out clitoral stimulation! So best thin to try is first Getting off with just clitoral climax before sex and see if that helps if not what i find helps for me it to get either a small enough vibrate to do clitoral stimulation at the same time OT they sell cock ring with the vibrate right on it!
2006-08-13 04:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by lori b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
About 90% of women are the same as you, so don't worry about it. It's a gal thing and the way we're made. You just can get your thing going first before any penetration, then maybe you'll enjoy the rest. You don't have to climax with penetration to enjoy it after you have already had an orgasm. Just go with what your body does and don't worry about it.
2006-08-13 04:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋