If he isn't willing to try new things in the bedroom? I was with my ex husband for 7 1/2 yrs and our love life was dull as could be. Once I got divorced I found more to the bedroom and I enjoy trying new things. I've been dating this guy for a little over a month and I'm starting to find out that he isn't willing to try new things. Example, he has never giving oral but yet he won't even try it. It just makes me wonder what else he won't try. He is very stuck on not even trying it. So my question should I end a relationship because he isn't willing to "try" new things in the bedroom? I just feel that this is something important to me because it really did hurt my marriage and I don't want to do it again. Let alone that was not the only thing that hurt my marriage so please don't make any comments about that. I just need an open minded man in the bedroom.
2006-08-13 03:57:15 · 10 answers · asked by browneyegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know sex isn't everything but it is important in a relationship.
2006-08-13 04:07:49 · update #1
You need to sit this man down & talk with him. Tell him just HOW important this is to you. If he isn't too concerned about your needs, I think you know what the answer is.
Right now, he has his "company manners" on. What's it going to be like when he gets r-e-a-l-l-y comfortable with you??
Ps. I realize you are an adult, but you might want to wait to get to know a person a bit better before introducing sex into the realtionship.
2006-08-13 04:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you regret the past 7.5 years of settling with a man that wasn't exactly satisfying in the bedroom. It also sounds like you are trying to make up for lost time in experementing with what you like. I think you should move on for the time being and explore this new side of you. If it is meant to be you will meet again when you are ready. You never know what will end a relationship but if you aren't happy don't spend your life settling. If you do decide to stay or leave then be honest and open with him. Maybe he is shy and takes sexual exploration slowly. It is possible that he might not be as quick to become sexually expressive with a new partner. If this doesn't work move on and let both of you find what you both deserve.....true happiness. Good luck.
2006-08-13 04:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it would be more exciting for him....But to me it sounds like you are basing your relationship on how they are in the bedroom ..While that may be part of it..it isn't the only thing ..What he may be lacking in the bedroom he may excel at in something else..give him a chance maybe he will lossen up but if it still bothers you then I say put and ad in the paper ..Wanted An open minded man in the bedroom...
2006-08-13 04:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the old saying is if i don't feel right don't do it. if your Friend isn't or doesn't want to give you oral, and you really enjoy that part of foreplay, and want to try different things in the bedroom then i think you should get out now before you are stuck in a non oral situation. some guys can't handle giving oral and some guys love it . you want to find some one who loves giving you pleasure and who is not afraid and wants to try other things to please you
2006-08-13 04:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by dreamwvr69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you need an open minded man in the bedroom, i think you've already answered your question. sex is a very important part of a relationship and if it means that much to you that he is adventurous, maybe it's time to move on before it gets too hard to leave.
2006-08-13 04:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy now, you won't be happy 3 years down the road....
2006-08-13 04:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by baciandrio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,it's not wrong.there are lots of men that like to try new things in bed.go find one that you like
2006-08-13 04:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by Big boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want a man or you want a penis ? if you want a man to love you, then it doesn't matter if he doesn't want to try new trick. if you want a penis, there are plenty on the road.
2006-08-13 04:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by yiwei_tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-13 04:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋