Then she called her yeastrday & said her Mom decided to go & she didnt need My mom to go any longer, how do I help keep this from becoming a war in whats to be the most special time of my brothers life.
2006-08-13 03:39:42 · 18 answers · asked by osu_fanz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The 'new mother to be's needs to decide who she wants in there and who she won't be able to stand. She has to feel comfortable at all time.
Your mother will not feel bad and will most likely understand as she had to go through this at least 2 in her life (you and your brother).
2006-08-13 03:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Shaana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, traditionaly it is usually the girls mother that is with her. It really depends on what the woman having the baby wants, and what the couple has decided on that will work for them. If they don't want your mom in the room with them, there is always the possibility that your mom could wait in the waiting room and come in after the baby is born and your brothers gf is settled into her post partum room. Just being at the hospital is a neat experience, even if you aren't in the room to see it happen. Try to explain to your mom that just because she can't be in the room, doesn't mean she can't enjoy the babies birth. Maybe talk to your brother and see if he can't hold a little sway on this subject. If nothing else, he can explain to your mom how they want it all to work. At the very least, this will help your mom understand why she wants it the way she does.
2006-08-13 03:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by odd duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your brother's girlfriend's call. If she only wants her mother there, then that's who she should have. She's the one doing all the work during the delivery. It's not a sideshow, for crying out loud. Your mom can be at the hospital IN THE WAITING ROOM, and can still be one of the first people to see the baby.
Your mom needs to get over it, and realize this is out of her hands. She needs to do it graciously & realize that this is nothing against her, the girl just wants her own mom.
(Although in my opinion, the only one who needs to be there is the boyfriend. Everyone else, mothers included, should stay out.)
2006-08-13 03:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by oh kate! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be the g/f's choice, but I think it's a bit unfair to change like that. Why can't each mom take turns, then they'd both be there. I really do think it was unfair of her to do that. I can understand her wanting to but I do feel bad for your mom.
On the big day maybe you and your mom could hang out at the hospital. Or go to lunch or something.
I don't know, but I know it's not your responiblity to keep your mom happy. The gf needs to have a talk with her and explain it. Not you.
2006-08-13 04:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by dlfoster67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are mature grown ups there shouldn't be a problem...Everyone needs to step back and relax...This is the birth of their grandchild and they really need to concentrate on that other than who goes into the delivery room...Tell your brother he needs to settle this by telling both moms that neither of them are going in and that he has chosen someone else..That way no ones feelings get hurt and if they are oh well...They need to grow up !!! Besides they will have plenty of time to be with the child after he/she is born and should concentrate on that
2006-08-13 03:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that both Moms could be included here. This is not a time for contests, or for hurt feelings. Suggest to your Mom and brother that you all have a family get-together. Someone who can be the mediator should begin. Remember, the mediator needs to keep calm and not let tempers rise.
2006-08-13 03:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her mom decided to go, then fine. It's her daughter anyway. Although it's a bit awkward after asking your mom to go and then changing her mind. Oh well. It doesn't matter who's in the delivery room. Best of luck!
2006-08-13 03:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it should be the person delivering the baby to decide who should be there. She wants her mom to be there, and prefer to avoid having a whole theatre show? well, what is so strange?
I feel your mom should be able to understand. In a delivery room, there is no place for family quarrels nor for chit-chat. It is still a birth, in steryle environment, and in most hospitals presence of others is limited to one or two others.
Otherwise, why not a full filming crew????
2006-08-13 03:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd cut your brother's gf some slack, this is a difficult time for a woman to go through and sometimes thinking isn't too clear. Your mom should understand this.
2006-08-13 03:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by Answers1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom will be relieved that she doesnt have to be there. Or...maybe everyone should take on a mature attitude about it and realize that the pregnant girl is probably going through a lot of emotional "things" right now and she may have her own reasons why she doesnt want her there. I'm sure it has nothing to do with her hating your mom.
2006-08-13 03:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋