i am 44, just divorced. the love was just not there. now i live alone in michigan and am very lonely. i feel the one for me is near but how do i start to find her?
2006-08-13 03:09:46 · 8 answers · asked by jasman357 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she's out there you'll find her. you can't go searching her out...it will happen for you when you least expect it
2006-08-13 03:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by raylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some ideas to help you out :
1)Join a health club: solves two problems; you'll become less of a couch potato and more fit. Think of all the people you will meet. The friends you meet here will most likely be healthy, athletic and attractive. You'll look better and feel better at the same time.
2)Take a class, any class: again a two in one tactic; you'll learn something new and make new friends with similar interests. Conversation is easier if you have something in common.
3)Go to Museums: Many museums have special events and members only events. Become a member and meet lots of cultured people.
4)Got to sporting events: Go to sporting events of any kind; soccer, football, basketball, etc. Go to professional games or college games, guaranteed to have fun.
5)Go to Flea Markets and Antique Shows: While you're browsing the finds, you can people watch.
6)Play a Sport: Have you ever wanted to play soccer after watching a game on TV? Lots of towns have adult sport programs. Volleyball and tennis are common town recreational sports you could join.
7)Join a Book Club: Check this out at your local library. Reading books and sharing them is another great way to get to know people.
8)Join a Singles Group: Self-explanatory, there are many singles organizations out there that plan singles dances, get-aways, etc.
9)Volunteer: Help build houses for Habitat for Humanity; give out beverages at marathons, or join one of the many volunteer organizations.
10)Have a Party: Invite your friends and have them invite two friends and so on and so on.
11)Learn a craft: take craft classes at your local community center.
12)Join a Business Association: If you are a professional, join your local association. Network for your business and your personal life.
13)Go to High School/College Reunions: A great way to reconnect with your old best friend!
14)Get a Dog and Walk Everywhere: go to parks and the beach with your dog. Dogs are great people meeters!
15)Go to every Party you are invited to: even if you don't want to go...go. You never know who you'll meet.
16)Join an Investment Club: make money and friends!
17)Travel: go to the islands; Europe; talk to everyone. Learn about their culture.
18)Go to seminars: lots of people go to seminars alone; great place to start a conversation.
19)Go to Wine Tastings: sometimes local restaurants have a wine-tasting night.
20)Go skiing, snowmobiling, snowboarding
21)Take a yoga, Tai Chi class: relieve tensions and meet other enlightened people.
22)Get a new job: Is your job boring, going nowhere, maybe you need a change. A new job is a great place to make some new relationships.
23)Join a women's or men's group
24)Take up acting; go to acting workshops, help create scenery.
25)Talk to everyone, everywhere
As you can see, these are not difficults methods.
Good luck !
2006-08-13 03:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. But if we look at ourselves really well, how many offers have we rejected. I guess I live in a fantasy world. I get attention and somehow develop a crush, then a fantasy in my mind that "wow, he likes me." Reality is hard to handle and I cannot see myself with someone just to be nice. I want to feel in my heart for someone, as well as an attraction. By the way, I'm sorry for your divorce and hope you find what your looking for real soon. :) 39 here in IN and looking as well!
2006-08-13 03:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by m6bonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one knows where to find their soul mate. You just need to put yourself out there and open yourself up to love, and you will find love. Just be patient and remain optimistic.
2006-08-13 03:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well theres someone out there for everyone u just gotta hang in there and dont give up u could just start going out more often and someday ull find her just dont give up and NEVER EVERput yourself down dont worry shes out there u just gotta find her oh and hint hint always smile and keep your chin up itll happen just give it some time
2006-08-13 03:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by skflaramee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let God be your first Love and then you can be lead by his spirit to find the right one for you.
2006-08-13 03:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by HolyDovePraise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel I'm going threw the same thing. you just have to learn to live by yourself. and while you are doing that she will pop into your life.
2006-08-13 03:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE'S NOTHING I CAN SAY, JUST WAIT UNTIL THE TIME COMES.
2006-08-13 03:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~MECR~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋