i thought having space was important in a relationship remember nothing in life is a guarentee except death
2006-08-13 02:21:46 · 15 answers · asked by manny d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it depends on the couple whether they both choose to share accommodation together or not. I am not married, yet have spent 17yrs with my partner, we can still have our own space you just have to find it.
2006-08-13 02:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 20:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. There are no guarantees in life. Even if the couple gets married before moving in togeter is no guarantee that the relationship will end.
I have a friend that lived with his girlfriend for 6 years. They had a five year old son, and were basically married in every sense of the word...short of actually putting it on paper. Finally they decided to get married and had a wonderful wedding and moved into a better home. Four months later they were living apart and had filed for divorce. It's been over a year and they have both remarried....other people.
No guarantees.
2006-08-13 02:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the stats on this are pretty clear. Couples that live together before they are married have less then a 10% chance of lasting.
It is mostly due to the fact that after marriage the wife expects the husband to change and take on the role of a husband while the husband still acts like a "live in" boy friend.
and this is due to the fact that the marriage was a consession or compromise by the boyfriend to get the girl friend to shut up about getting married so that he can still live with her and get the free sex and have a little peace around the house.
When the fighting starts the new husband is dump-founded because the former "live in" girl friend, in the past, accepted his lack of committment as a temporary consession in order to get his to marry her. Now she no longer accepts it and negs him to change for boy friend to husband.
The act of getting marriage was not a committment on his part like it was on hers. There has been a lot written on this.
But.... Some times the husban will come around to the fact that he is now married and that this girl in not his girl friend but his wife. this happens some time after the first child is born and society starts giving him the respect that the role of father (not just husband) generates in the American culture.
That is why most first babies born in this situation are a cause of the wife "forgeting" to take birth controll.
Men are "off the hook" now-a-days if he getts a girl pregnent before marring her because her uncle will pay for the baby . HIs name is Sam (Uncle Sam) No one expects the father to pay for the baby but at the same time no one give the young man the respect of a married man and father
If you don't agree with me let me know. I get all of this from radio talk shows and stuff like that.
Your Friend,
Tomz
2006-08-13 02:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tom Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with my boyfriend and we have the best relationship. We don't have to spend every second of everyday together, we have our friends and we either go out together or sometimes we go out by ourselves. Space is important but as long as ur with someone who wont stand over you every second of the day your relationship will be fine. Just because you get along with your boyfriend or girlfriend before you get married doesn't mean you will once your married. Once your married you get to see all there habits ( the things you didn't know about ) It will either drive you crazy or you'll be ok with it. I'd rather know everything about that person and by living with then u know all there bad habits.
2006-08-13 02:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by fairy_tale_dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having some space IS important, but a lot of couples choose to live together before marriage to make sure that they can get along living together *before* they make the marriage commitment.
2006-08-13 02:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting to know each other would be key and space would allow you that - i'm not from this 'try before you buy' era but would like to have been.
marriage may end in messy court battles but with all the new laws coming into place living together may soon be just as messy to end.
yep, the only thing certain in life is death.
2006-08-13 02:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by littleminx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no marriage is.you hardly see anyone married for more than a year! plus,most people get divorced. yes having space is essential in a relationship but sometimes moving in with your mate shows how compatible you two are. it all depends on what kind of relationship you two hold.
2006-08-13 02:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by onedivinekiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my other moved in together... it just made us closer because you learn alot about each other in the process... its better to find out you can live together then to get married and find out there no-way things will last and get a divorce.
2006-08-13 02:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by skeemergyrl9056 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I'm glad I lived with my husband before we married. It gave me the opportunity to see how he lived and to see if we can get along together.
P.S. We've been married over 10 years now :)
2006-08-13 02:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by catwymn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋