I am not able to do so many things I would like to do. How to accept that?

Question

I am sad that I am limited. However hard I try to develop you will develop faster than me. Therefore I am looser.
Who will like me such except my mother?

Answer 1

You are not a looser.

Everyone has limitations.
Everyone has challenges.
Everyone has things they excel at.

Find the things your good at and build on them.
If you want to achieve something else, understand that it will take time and work. But what is more impressive someone who is a natural tallent who just walks up and does well or the person who may not be the best but works hard and puts in an honest effort and over time builds skill and ability. To me the second is the truely impressive person.

Don't worry so much about others liking you. That will come with time. First you have to learn to like yourself. That does not mean to be conceeded. But think of it in these terms:
If your thin and can't gain weight, think of all the heavy people that would love to trade places with you in a second. If your heavy and would like to loose weight but are having difficulties... think of the thin people who can't gain weight and would trade places with you in a second. Remember the grass always LOOKS greener on the other side. The poor man wants money, the rich man wishes he didn't have to work so hard to keep what he has and wishes for free time.

Learn to be happy with the things you have. If nothing else are you healthy, there are millions of people who just don't have their health. Are you whole? There are millions of people who have lost limbs but have learned to cope.

You can always find someone better than you, don't worry about it and realize so can they. You can also find people in greater need.

Learn to work through your faults. Forgive yourself and fix what you can fix but recognize not all things can be fixed, it is the way it is. Be responsibile.

And always remember your only a looser if you CHOOSE to be one.

Answer 2

Consider starting a journal. Write down 3 statements each day that are true about you, that are wholely positive, and that are about things that you are, or things that you can do. Such as - I can read. I am a helpful person. I can change the oil in a car's engine. (These are true - about me.) Try to write down 3 new things each day - but if you can't think of anything new, re-read your prior pages and write ones you have already written. It works to help you understand yourself.

Every person has good in them, even if it is developing slower for you than for anyone else. Don't put yourself down for that.

Answer 3

Aleksander, there are so many examples of people who have achieved great things in life with some serious limitations. If you are able to use a computer, as you seem to be, then you can do anything. Many people will come to love and admire you in your lifetime and your reaching out now on the computer is only the beginning. Check out some of the people who have achieved things inspite of their limitations, starting with Stephen Hawking - http://www.physik.uni-frankfurt.de/~jr/gif/phys/hawking2.jpg . You can achieve great things in your life. You are limited only by your imagination. Don't give up.

Answer 4

That does not make you a looser it makes you a winner for continuing to try and the more you work on things the more you will figure out how to do in your own way.What you need to change is the way you see your self.Being limited does not mean your not as good as everyone else it just means you have to work harder then most!

Answer 5

Aleksander, everyone has things they cannot do as well as someone else. That doesn't make you a loser at all: Only YOU can make yourself into a loser.

You need to change your focus away from the things you can't do to the things you can. And if there is something you wish to do, learn and practice. You might surprise yourself one day.

Find things that you enjoy, and don't worry about the rest. You'll feel a lot better!

Answer 6

Your a winner for trying. As the saying goes"Nothing beats a failure but a try." We can't all be Einsteins.
Not everyone is an honer roll student. There is a talent within you that you are good at, you have to tap into that and use it to your advantage.

Answer 7

We are all limited in some ways. Concentrate on what you can and enjoy doing. Being the best you can be makes you a winner. Compare yourself only to your own abilities, desires, and goals not to others.

Answer 8

try to do things that you can do, and make the most of them. dont keep putting yourself down over this otherwise you wont have fun. stop the negativity altogether. people would get turned off by that. be the person that you would like to be instead of the person that people would expect you to be from knowing you, and whatever you do, dont go and do something stupid like going to kill yourself or start taking unprescribed drugs. you'll be only hurting yourself even more and it will not solve anything

Answer 9

It's stupid of you to think like that!!!
Look, my sister is a math genius, and what takes her two minutes to do, takes me two hours. But I still get it in the end. And it doesn't make me a looser!
I mean, how much things would you LIKE to do? That makes it a whole lot easier when you say LIKE instead of HAVE to. Set your priorities in life.
Don't give up that easy. We would all like to do many many things... But than again, we can't. And we live on...

Answer 10

If you think like that then no one will like you! People will like you if you think on the bright side! Think of things you can still do! You can still get onto the computer and type! Thats a good thing. Change your way of thinking and you will go alot farther!