I discovered that my 6-year old son is looking at sexy girl pictures at wikipedia. How should I talk to him?

Question

I taught my son to search at wikipedia stuff that usually interest him, like cartoons and super heroes and he seems to enjoy it a lot. Lately, when I look at the history log for wikipedia, there is an extensive list pages that are showing sexy and even semi-nude pics of ladies. There aren't anybody else using the pc at the house, so I know it's definitely him. I'm worried because he's too young to be looking at those stuff... Technology is indeed a double-edged sword :(

Answer 1

Boys will be boys. Have you talked to him about the birds and the bees yet? If not, maybe now's the time.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First thing everyone tells you I have heard it a thousand times is to place the computer in a central location,like the family room or kitchen.Okay and he is 6 I have a 6 year old and I have to say I never leave him unsupervised when on the computer and he is playing games that I install for him.You should not let him on the computer but for a certain amount of time and he should not be surfing all by himself.He is only 6 and look at the innocence that your letting be took from him.

Answer 4

You really do need to discuss this matter with your son in a calm manner. The door has already been opened. You can't shut it now. Just try asking him questions so that you find out why he is interested in these pictures and possibly even find out if there is something else going on. You never know.

In the future, I would monitor him very closely. Perhaps Internet time can be time that he spends with you. With both of you at the PC, he can see what is appropriate. Try obtaining some type of monitoring software for your PC as well. I wish you luck!

Answer 5

YOU ACTUALLY LET YOUR 6 YEAR OLD ON THE COMPUTER UNSUPERVISED? Get him books!!! That way you can pick what he sees. A 6 year old does not need the internet period!! If you are busy and can't sit with him. Have him work on a project or something. Try Legos, Modeling clay (sculpty brand is the best), lincoln logs, hot wheels, electronic snap kits from radio shack (these are really cool and you can expand the sets) Please do anything but let him play on a computer at this young age. I would also limit the amount of the ultimate babysitter. The TV.

Answer 6

Curiosity is expected but online is dangerous. You have parental controls on your computer and now is the time to use them. Wikipedia is a great sight so I wouldn't block it but you can set your filters at a higher level so language and any nudity, suggestive material is filtered. If you have XP you can even give him his own user access that has only child friendly sights available to him. Set yourself up as the administrator so only you can change any settings, make your stuff password protected. We went through this when mine was 11. It will get worse if you don't clamp down on it now. Move the computer to where you can see it easiest most of the time. Talk to him about why it is not appropriate to view that stuff. If you are timid about bringing it up don't be! IT will make it easier for later conversations about sex.

Answer 7

First of all, you don't want to make him feel shameful, or create negativity regarding something that is human nature. But, I do strongly recommend you talk to him about why he finds those images interesting, answer any questions he may have, (in his terms, no need to over-inform until he's ready), and explain that those things should wait until he's older. And definitely put up parental controls to block graphic materials that you and Dad feel are inappropriate. I have 2 boys, 10 and 15. As a parent you must monitor their activity always. As they get older, it can get alot worse, especially with all the deceiving websites out there. Even I got stuck on one recently out of an innocent search. It wanted to re-route my opening page to porn, and I had to jump a lot of hoops to delete in from my system. Parental controls are a MUST for his age.

Answer 8

Hun, you are starting late, but at least you are. Anyhow, I restricted my daughter at that age to only websites that I was sure she would not find sexy pictures. I made a folder on My Favorites that had her name and the allowed websites (she felt so special to have her own folder). This might work for you. She is 8 now and just yesterday I told her "I'm allowing you to go to other websites as long as they don't have pictures of naked/almost naked people or sex content in it. Oh, and you have to use the living room computer when seaching. If she wants any of them permanently in her room computer she must let us know and we will research the website and if approved it will be on her favorites files. We also disconnect the internet from her room on nights. That might also work if you are worried that he might do it at nights.

Answer 9

well...he probably doesn't really know anything about girls, and he is not yet interested in stuff like that, i mean, he is 6 for goodness sake. But it is also important that he stops and i am sure you agree. He is probably just curious, or he heard some of his friends talk about stuff that they thought. Kids that age are very confused about that kind of stuff, and it is still a mystery to me on how to deal with it. Maybe it will just all blow over soon. If it is because he is curious he should stop soon. But if it continues i would just let him know that he is invading those girl's privacy and he wouldn't like it if people were looking at pictures like that of him.

Answer 10

So he is starting a little late, heck I was looking at girls panties in Kindergarten. Go on line with him, check out the sites he was at and ask him why he went there. If he won't talk, ask him how he feels, is he getting a feeling down below etc. He most likely will say it makes him feel good but doesn't understand why. Then explain it to him. No need to get really graphic yet, but let him understand why he is getting those feelings. Then I would get some kind of software that prevents this from getting worse to early for him and you before he gets on hard core sites that would really mess him up at that age.

Answer 11

First, maybe there's a program you could install to filter sites with adult content.



Second try to lead him to other kid friendly sites. I think if you ban him straightforwardly from these sexy pics will just arouse his interest in them.

Lastly, he really should have adult supervision when online. Maybe you two can bond and enjoy surfing the net together, playing games and stuff.