Is she hiding something?

Question

Ok i've been having an online relationship with a single mother of 2 for nearly a year now but although she constantly tells me she has falling inlove with me she has still yet to meet me.
Right before all the retard comments come heres a few pointers.
1. I know she is who she says she is as we webcam chat all the time.
2. I know she is single because i can randomly call 24 hours a day and she will always answer(even if i wake her in the middle of the night).

Now i have arranged a few times now to meet with her and she has agreed but at the last minute she has told me something important has come up(kids are ill,her dads poorly,sisters got by problems etc etc).
I have tried to arrange to meet her with and without my kids and her kids but still no joy yet even today i have calls off her telling me how much i mean to her and how much she wants me.

Do you think she is hiding something and tagging me along?

Answer 1

I do believe that you can have feelings for someone online even if you have not met them, it may sound stupid to some but if you think logically, you talk to this person perhaps for hours every day and fall for the person they really are, the part that is missing is physical which can always come later.
She does sound to be trying to get out of meeting you alright and there must be a reason. Perhaps even if she is separated from her husband / boyfriend, she may depend on him for child support and does not want to upset him and put herself in a vuinerable position.
There is a lot of suspicion still about meeting people from the internet and in some cases its probably a good thing. If she is on her own she could be nervous, she may have people telling her its not safe.
I know you agreed to meet with children which was a good idea but now that you have tried every compromise you can think of and she still has a problem you must firstly ask yourself do you really want this woman, forget for one moment her professing her love for you, how do you feel about her?? Are you happy to just go on chatting or do you want more..
You need to ask her to put her cards on the table and be honest, tell her as you have done here that she is making rather a lot of excuses, you can say that you understand there may be a problem and you want to help her get over it but first she must be open with u.
I hope this helps a little..

Answer 2

Seems like she's nervous of meeting you, maybe incase the online relationship would be better than the real thing for both of you. She maybe feels a bit insecure incase you don't like her once you meet her for real. Does she live far away? If she's a single mum, she might have money difficulties as far as train fares etc are concerned. She might not be able to find someone to look after her kids, or maybe doesn't want to have to tell someone why she's going away. Also, perhaps she feels a bit scared of meeting you what with all the stories going around about meeting people online (this is not a view i share myself as i'm having a great relationship with someone i met from a chatroom and have met up a number of times and want more!) Good luck anyway - but tell her that you really do want to meet her.

Answer 3

I don't know if she is hiding something but you know i think she is just scared that everything she will expect is wrong when she meets you personally, she is just scared but if i were you give her time and assured her of things that there is nothing she have to scared of, I met my husband through Internet and it was a bit scary at first because I don't know the person I am meeting it is just behind the computer, but I realise that i have to meet him and anticipate that what i was doing was right 'cause we get along very well in the computer and I wasn't wrong after all and now we've been together for two years and enjoy each others arms. So assure her and give her time and tell her that you are meeting her to know her more not just at the end of the computer but to know her more deeply and tell her that you want a serious relationship that's if you are serious with her, and tell her things you really feel for her. Best of luck.

Answer 4

Your relationship has been this way for nearly a year!
It's more than natural that she's afraid of changing the way things are.
Do you know where she lives? Her address?
Why don't you surprise her in the most romantic way you can think of?
And ask her if she'll be home at such-and-such time, because you want to call her and talk to her. Or find out in some other way if she'll be home at a certain time (preferably without the kids) and show up dressed nicely, with flowers, dinner reservations (or a picnic basket or something). Just have something prepared.
And say you're there to take her out on a date.
And tell her how you feel. Be romantic. Be kind. Even if she's wearing dirty pajamas, tell her how gorgeous you think she is in person.
You know the rest! ;)

Answer 5

Do you think she is scared/nervous? Since she seems genuine in other ways thats what occured to me. Or she could be a very busy single mum.

I think the only thing you can do is be honest, tell or email her that you really like her and have been dying to meet her, now you are worried about the cancelations. You could say that you may be being a little paranoid, but could she reassure you that there is no problem it has just been unfortunate in the past?

Ask her to let you know when she is free to meet you, if she doesn't, you have your answer.

There is a possibility she is using you for emotional support without committing to a real relationship.

Answer 6

Well not wanting to throw a spanner in the works, she does seem to have a lot of 'last minute hiccups' doesn't she. OK she might be hiding something, on the other hand she might just be not really ready to meet despite saying she is. Its one thing communicating online/phone etc but something else entirely face to face. I think that rather than get your suspicions going ape, that it would be better to stick with it & why not see if you can arrange to meet for a drink say but for you to take a mate along & for her to do the same, that way she isn't as vulnerable as she might feel alone, and as a foursome you will all feel more comfortable with the situation & if all goes well, then the next meeting who knows........

Answer 7

Either yes, shes hiding something or no, shes too shy/nervous.

I reckon shes probably nervous. The reality of actually meeting you rather than chatting online maybe a bit too much for her.

Chatting online is like a release for some people, they see it as a getaway, or fantasy in order to escape from a mundane life/situation.

Maybe she never thought the day would come that you'd actually meet and now shes feels exposed, as if shes told you far too much about herself and thats made her wary?

Try asking her only a couple of days in advance next time, shes less likely to be able to come up with an excuse. If shes does, I'd ask her if she ever intends meeting you. You need answers so don't torture yourself, just ask.

Answer 8

Dear Mr Abstaining from Retards and their answers to your problem. If you don't want sarcasm don't ask stupid questions. Obviously she has no intentions of meeting you because most people are afraid of meeting someone they don't know over the internet. Or she already has someone and like some sadistic people they enjoy head games. So if you haven't hit it by now you never will so go find someone else. Try getting out and meeting people take little kids or cute puppies the good ones like this. Good luck.

Answer 9

Not really. Most people I met on an internet sex site only wanted to IMAGINE meeting me. Some of the excuses I have had at the last minute have to be heard - never mind the ones who stand you up. So this is not unusual. Get a hooker - safer and more fulfilling.

Answer 10

It depends how many times you have arranged to meet up and shes bailed ... more than 5 times maybe she's hiding somthing from you or maybe she's just worried about meeting you .. okay she's falling in love with you but what happens if you meet up and it totally doesn't work .. it could just really break her heart ... i think she's just nervous .. Good luck and i hope you do meet each other soon!