Okay, So I know this sounds like a shallow and possibly weird question, but here are the details. My boyfriend had been hinting the past couple weeks that he wanted to ask me to marry him. The other night we started talking about it, and I told him that I was really nervous of marriage and that I wasn't ready to be asked that question. Its been a couple of days and I've had time to think about it, and really go through the emotions that I was feeling about it, and I can't think of a better person to spend the rest of my life with. I love him alot!!!! And I do want to marry him. My question is how do I let him know that I'm ready without it sounds like I'm being pushy. That's the last thing I want is him to feel like I'm forcing him into it. We've only been dating 8-9 months, and I just moved in a month ago. Now what?
2006-08-13 01:21:08 · 20 answers · asked by s_tina_1999 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like your rushing it, just let it happen,If your not over 25 wait.You both will be different people by the time your 25
2006-08-13 01:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally : before all this feminist crap
Men would court the lady in motivation to win her love
and marry her. This is mostly gone today for several reasons
which i dont have enough space on this page to explain
( Read: A Return To Modesty:by Wendy Shalit that will
answer that for you )
Traditionally women did not move in with their betrothed
either, sure these are different times, but they were better
times in which romance and courtship thrived! now what do
we have? Hooking up, unplanned pregnancies,relationship
hopping, and complete lack of modesty and romance!
( believe it or not im only 24 )
Basically you let him come to you, act like a lady, act
like someone he cant live without! Be as feminine and
coquettish as you can! Also maybe telling him you want
to hold out sex until marraige might also pique his
interests! Oh yah, and you should only accept a formal
proposal. not just talking about it. He needs to honor your
woman hood. But first you need to be a woman to be honored.
Work on your femininity, your beauty, your kindness...your
modesty! Deep down inside this is what all men want. Why
do you think asian women are so popular? They are subservient,
beautiful, feminine and for the most part modest ( outside of tokyo)
Good luck!
2006-08-13 01:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him how he feels about your relationship and where he wants to go with it. If he asks you in return(which he probably will), you can just be honest. You should not feel pushy, as he were hinting it to begin with. Or you could just use some hinting too.
2006-08-13 01:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u could start talking about the futur and drop subtle hints that u are ready for marriage, tell him that you have thought about it and that u are not nervous anymore about marriage and that u cannot think of anything better than to be married to him...
2006-08-13 01:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by vedz666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very easy !! In between a casual meeting and chat just tell him that my parents are always talking about my marriage and are looking for a suitable person. He should get the message!!
2006-08-13 01:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jetu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that now you have thought about it some more you dont find the idea so scary . also TELL HIM what you have said here. thing is even though you may both feel ready for it now- you dont have to get married immediately
2006-08-13 01:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just explain that you've had time to think about it and that you "can't think of a better person" to spend your life with? Direct honesty is always the best.
2006-08-13 01:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by juicylucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi friend!
i'm not a maried woman and i never have boyfriend.i tell u this cos i want you to know how my feeling if i want to let my bf that 'm ready to marry him.In case you should show ur fellin to him that u are not afraid to meet his parents. but dun show that u are forcing him cos he want to marry u no need to force him.ok?and talk to him about ur future plans to do wit him.if u love him alot u can tell the truth that u hav considered to marry him.
2006-08-13 01:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's plenty of time for marriage give your self's a chance for the two of you two become as one save your money live together its the same as being married you just don't have his last name that's all just live every day like there is no tomorrow God Bless you
2006-08-13 01:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by Libra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply just tell him the way you feel now. Its not as hard as you're making it. Next time you guys get to talking, slip it in the conversation.
2006-08-13 01:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋