How do you learn to trust again, when you've been burned TOO MANY times in the past. This may sound pathetic, but im stable, self employed, and have a great career, that involves traveling, partying, and finally having fun. I should've been at this point a LONG time ago, but always lost it due to relationships with women that I eventually found to be "opportunists". The problem now is that I would really like to share what I have, but cant trust anyone to just enjoy it with me, without taking control over it, or doing something to jeoperdize a good thing that I have going. Any hints????? A.K.A. ... (How do I share what I have with someone yet still let them know that there's NO WAY in HELL that i'd trust them to be involved with what ive worked so hard to get, that provides for me, and hopefully them too, if they dont get greedy). This may sound pretty sad, but it's genuinely sincere. I cant STAND opportunists, and most people in general, tend to be. How do I communicate this???
2006-08-13 00:36:41 · 7 answers · asked by john 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Better to love and lost then to not love at all. Just don't let anybody use you financially. Only at your discretion (i.e. eating out, gifts.) Keep trying, don't give up!
2006-08-13 00:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John, I do feel for your dilemma. But I truly wonder what type of women you are finding and where, myself and a good percentage of my woman friends do not fit that bill of being opportunists when finding a mate. They are out there, this is for sure....but the ones I have encountered are generally young and naive. The older ones can be read across the room it is so obvious. There really is no easy way to communicate this mistrust you have, but to maybe not let on (if there is a way to hide it) to the wealth you have acquired. Take it slow and see if she is genuinley interested in you first. Only take her to free events, etc. If your home shows the wealth you have...that my good man I can not help you with :) Good luck to you, there are women out there who could care less about money.
2006-08-13 07:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like someone I know...
It sounds like you've always picked up the wrong women. You know the ones I mean. They sure look good from the outside, but they only look that way to get someone like you. You should try different approaches to picking up different types of women.
Also, by saying that there is no way in hell you'd share your "stuff" with a woman is really wrong. If you find the right lady she's not gonna care about all your "stuff". Find someone intelligent. Someone who has her own "stuff" and doesn't need anything from you. Stop picking up women while you party (your word not mine). Find women through working relationships, church, friends, book stores, grocery stores...
Finally, how about not showing your partner how much money you really have. Don't flaunt it, act like an average person. Then when you know that they aren't into you for your money, you'll know you've found the right person.
Like I said I know people like you...heck I've taken advantage of people like you. It's easy because you like to party and show off all of your money and toys.
2006-08-13 07:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have asked myself the same question over and over..there is no way to predict what the "next" is going to be...I am a trusty person and I don't think I can trust again after all the people I have been tricked by...I guess we just need to hope and be more selective and wish for the "one" to come....Good luck..
2006-08-13 07:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by maru_artmarina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you have been burned haven't you? I guess I would suggest finding a suitable companion to have occasional dinners with and or travel with but make sure you have no ties too. But honestly we all aren't dishonest or gold diggers. Some of us are really great people, you just need not to give up, we're out there.
2006-08-13 07:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be open and honest tell them what happen in the past and you dont want to repete it most will understand
2006-08-13 07:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no other alternative.
2006-08-13 08:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by mohd s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋