Iam "friends with Benefits" with this girl I really like.She also likes me...but I can't help but almost freak out when she is with other people! I can't stop her or anything because we are not going out because she doesn't want a relationship right now. But because I like her sooo much I just can't seem to handle it very well. I hide my feelings about it most of the time but sometimes alittle anger comes out. I like her so Iam not going to give her up but what do I do about the jealous part?
2006-08-13 00:10:26 · 9 answers · asked by Faye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Regarding your question about jeaolousy --
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Okay , back to the question.
First, some jeaolousy is normal and healthy. That's a mistake that lots of people make -thinking that jeaolousy is bad or unhealthy.
The type of jeolousy that you describe seems unhealthy for you and for your friend.
Know this, that each moment you pursue that kind of thinking and take any action on it, you are pushing th is girl so far away from you and you might never get to have a relationship with her.
IFshe, as you say, is NOT ready for a relationship, then you need to accept that and stop obsessing over the thought of being with her.
You can stop this by getting more of a life yourself, take up a hobby or something and go spend your time and energy and money there and RIGHT THERE you'll meet the girl of your dreams.
WHICH couild be her or someone else.
But this won't come to you till you stop that obsessive thought pattern.
The more you try and push someone towards you and push someone into a relationship with you --the more they can't stand even being with you.
People want to be with people that will allow them their freedom adn with people that accept the answer NO.
By not accepting the word NO from her you are showing her to her face that you have no control over y our own emotions..
AND every sensible , successful girl -if they want someone- wants someone who has CONTROL over their own emotions.
SO, here by acting out on any of your jeolousy you are proving to this girl that you are so unworthy of her friendship.
So, DO SOMETHING HAPPY for yourself, get a hobby, and you'll be happier.. You will meet the person you were meant to meet .
YOu just need patience and time.
2006-08-13 00:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you say that you want to still spend time going out with her etc, then you maybe just need to get yourself into the right frame of mind before doing something with her, as in thinking through the facts beforehand and trying to tell yourself what could happen on that evening etc, and that its ok if you feel upset about it and think of other positive things about the evening, like thinking you will also make an effort to talk and spend time with other people. Other than that it will probably be a matter of time. As in you will either get together with her in the end, or not, but I know from experience that it does not matter what anyone says, these things just need time to work themselves through.
2006-08-13 07:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by i dont know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit sleeping with "hoes". Like it or not, any woman that contributes to "friends with benefiets" is nothing but a f**kbag.
If you really like her, tell her, then watch her laugh at ya. (If not to your face, then to her other boyfriend, or girlfriends. I dont say this to be a prick, but just being honest).
Meet a woman that you really like, that wont put out until it means something to her. Thats not advice.... that's realistically the only ultimadum. The sad fact is that MOST women are nothing then "friends with bennis". Only other advice is to find a woman in her mid 30's with her biological clock ticking. She might be a keeper.
Good luck. if you find a better answer, please let me know.
2006-08-13 07:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by john 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL LOL LOL...If you're a woman (and I hope so with a name like 'Gena') you might as well try to stop breathing. Female jealousy is as much a part of women as periods and breasts. You could try not being with her around people or blindfolding yourself while you're with her at social occations, or ask her out and make it offical.
2006-08-13 07:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better let it go and let her go. Your feelings will grow and if she is with others. I dont think it would be a good idea to start a relaionship with her.
2006-08-13 07:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound like a wimpering puppy baging @ the table, u'll have to get over her, move on & maybe she change her mind.
2006-08-13 07:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we don't own people , we love them and they loves us
we support them when they need and ready to help them.
but we don't own them.
friends are not slaves living with us , they are people who has their own life.
2006-08-13 07:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by pianitta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
praise and worship to GOD a lot,pray a lot,read the whole bible a lot!
2006-08-13 07:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by whatever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think You should trust upon her.
2006-08-13 07:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by PeaceKeeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋