Am saved and i have a fiance whom we are ready to marry but his dad says it's a must we marry in Catholic caz he goes there. What shall we do because am not ready to marry in Catholic and my fiance doesn't go to Catholic?
2006-08-12 23:26:39 · 9 answers · asked by Mutinda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Do what YOU want. Your fiance's dad has no right to impose his will into your life. He can't make you do anything.
2006-08-12 23:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Keith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
--is Catholic--
To me, it sounds like you are not ready to get married. There is way too much that you have yet to hash out in terms of both who and what you are about as individual persons, let alone as a married couple.
A Catholic, MUST get married in the Church (unless a dispensation is granted) or the marriage is considered invalid. Because the fiance's father is requesting that the marriage be done in the Church, there will be problems if it is not. If it bugs you, look for the dispensation (which will be granted if you agree to raise your kids Catholic and not to harm your future husband's faith or your children's Catholic faith.)
You should know that a person's faith becomes more pronounced when children start and as the person ages. Usually this is more pronounced in females as they are the ones that raise the children, but it does occur in males.
As such, I cannot recommend that you marry until you know, not necessarily agree with, what the Catholic Church teaches. Thus future problems are dealt with now instead of later.
Given that you made a big point of saying "your saved" I figure that you are quite confused.
Buy these books
A FATHER WHO KEEPS HIS PROMISES by Hahn
COMPENDIUM TO THE CATECHISM (on line)
2006-08-16 18:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by Liet Kynes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what being saved has to do with this as a problem. Catholics are Christians too. The Catholic church has counseling for a few months before marrying anyone in the church. Maybe the two of you could sit down with a priest to discuss your hesitations to marry you. He could guide you in the direction you are supposed to go. If he feels you would be better off to marry elsewhere, you might want to listen. If you are an adult, you don't need your fiancee's father to tell you what to do.
2006-08-16 03:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by bamjam630 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding, but if you want to get off on a good footing with his dad, you will need to at least have a priest present for the wedding. My husband's father was very happy when we had our wedding, because we had 2 priests present for our wedding in my Lutheran church. Basically all you have to do is get the blessing of the church and do this by lying to the priest, agree to have the children christened in the Catholic church (which we did do) agree to what they want, keep your mouths shut and live your life your way. It seems that the Catholic church is out of step and have not noticed that they are losing members as fast as new ones are being born. Churchs are closing because they don't have the people to fill them or the priests to run them.
2006-08-13 08:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off his Dad has no say in where you get married. Most of the time it is the future wife that decides where marriage is going to take place.
Next does it really matter where you get married? Tell his Dad to flip the bill for everything and you two will marry anywhere he wishes. If he doesn't want to pay then tell him to butt out. He isn't getting married.
2006-08-13 06:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your fiance catholic? Catholic religion says that you MUST marry in a Catholic church. If you get married by a civil court, or something like that, it is NOT recognized as real marriage by the catholic church. If his family is catholic, you NEED to get married in a catholic church because catholicism says so. his father is correct.
2006-08-14 03:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by Alexis Samira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a complicating Question, I suppose it all depend`s on your fiance`s relationship with the parent`s? because if you went against their wishes, it would mean a rift in the family, can you both live with that, if you can, get married where you both want too
2006-08-13 06:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by madge 51 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you where you wish to be married. Go talk to a minister or priest.
2006-08-13 06:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO WHAT YOU AND YOUR MAN WANT TO DO....ITS YOUR DAY
2006-08-16 23:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by flowerspirit2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋