every time i have my period, i have a recurring dream, that my daughter is being kidnapped, i always find her, but then i have to watch her being abused, last night however i dreamt that my son had also been kidnapped. when i was young my dad abused me, and i always felt that my mum should have known, and don't know if this is in any way connected to my dream, if this happens to anyone else, please let me know, feels like i am the only one in the world.
2006-08-12 23:00:18 · 19 answers · asked by tina t 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Poor you! I would say that your dreams are because you have not yet come to terms with what happened to you, and so you are worried that it will happen to your children.
IT WONT! because you are in control of what happens to them, and you would never let it happen again.
When you go to sleep you brain uses dreams to help sort out the problems in your unconscious mind. It is quite natural, it doesn't mean those things are going to happen, it just means that these are the things you are worried about.
Talking to your GP will help, or maybe try hypnotism, but either way, don't get superstitious and start thinking they will come true, they wont.
It wont last forever, and you will be fine.
God bless, XXXXXXXXXXX
2006-08-12 23:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you are the only one in this situation with these nightmares.
I do know that perhaps 1/3 to 1/4 of children are sexually violated. most often by a stepfather, followed by other family members.
This is why I am always concerned about single mothers dating, especially if they bring their children into the scene before they know the potential partner and his family quite well.
Yes, your mum should have known. Guess what. Abuse is often inter-generational. She may have hooked up with an abuser because that is what she was accustomed to. Don't judge her; I'm not, but I am pointing out possibilities for which she may have had no control.
I don't meant to sound harsh. I feel it is important enough to break the cycle of abuse to occasionally say or write things that will cause others to fully examine their situations and themselves.
If it doesn't apply to you, there is no reason to take offense.
If if does apply to you, there is reason to take caution that your children are freed from the cycle. The past isn't your fault. The future is your responsibility.
I really hate seeming rude, but it is a very important issue.
You may find it hard to trust others, and this may create some serious difficulties. Take responsibility and learn to trust yourself. Then you can avoid pitfalls and learn who to trust and to what extent.
You are concerned. Are you concerned because of the past or because of the present?
Best wishes.
2006-08-13 08:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis Y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course it does have something to do with it. Know that and it should reduce the impact of the dreams.
I think you can compare the kidnap bit with the abuse and your mother not knowing. Like it's something out of your hands. You had no control over it.
It is obvious that you worry about your children suffering the same experiences.
Although I was not sexually abused as a child. I was married to a woman who was, and she had a daughter. She had the same fears about her.
It's scant consolation but the only way to look at it is that you will never change the past. You are who you are now. Nothing will ever change that. The only thing you can change is how you look at things and events in your life, and there is the solution to problems and worries.
2006-08-13 06:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by JeffE 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a dream the other night that I asked my daughter to answer the door and she was taken by a man and abused along with many other girls including his daughter in some farm buildings. It played on my mind all day and I wouldn't let her out of my sight.
But I wouldn't worry too much.
Your sleep is disturbed whilst you menstruate, you sweat in bed and are anxious. This will give you unpleasant dreams about things that are on your mind, subconsciously you must worry about your kids going through what you went through, you dream about these things and because your sleep is broken and you wake up more during your period, the dream is fresh in your mind and you remember it.
I would suggest some counselling though, if you haven't already had some, your obviously still affected by your childhood.
Good Luck
2006-08-13 06:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very, very sorry to hear about your bad dreams. The subconscious mind is telling your conscious mind that you are suffering. Sometimes, time will heal us, and sometimes you need to repair the damage. It won't do any harm to speak to a professional counsellor. You are NOT the only one in the world. It's quite normal to feel this way and you are coping well by talking about it. Talk to someone, don't be ashamed to ask and seek help.
2006-08-13 06:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brain is trying to organise itself. You unconsciously worry about your children - you are worried about how you can protect them and ensure nothing like what happened to you happens to them. So when you go to sleep your unconscious mind tries to sort out a protection plan. I think that the bit in the dream where you watch your child being abused is your own abuse telling you that you couldn't do anything. Try to force yourself in your dream to do something.
I do think you need to see a psychologist to talk these fears through - they will be able to explain so much to you.
Believe me it is not easy for a parent to know that their children are being abused, the abuser is very smart in hiding it, even if it is within a family.
2006-08-13 06:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Curious39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your dreams are about a problem you at present and it is making you think the worst thoughts so your dream are showing you what you would dread the most also it does have something to do with your past it is all connected once you resole your problem your dream will eventualy change and slow up i dont think it will go for good
2006-08-13 06:10:38 · answer #7 · answered by terry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the only problem you're having is dreams, you're doing great! Go talk to a counselor (or preacher, or similar) and try to work some of that stuff up into your conscious life, to be able to handle it better.
2006-08-13 06:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by Qwyrx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this means u have unresolved issues obviously u dont want what happened to u to happen to your kids. u need to tell ur mother an speak to her about u need to get every thing out of ur system. write it all down every bit even if no one reads it get it all out of ur system an when u are ready to let go burn the letter but dont just let things build up r the dreams will get worse
2006-08-13 06:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by Twiggie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your dream of kidnapping and pain to your family mean there is trouble ahead for you. nethereless,it is important to remember that the dreams are very personal,and it is only the knowledge of the dreamers own mood and feelings,also his/her or own circumstances past present that dreams become truly meaningful.
2006-08-13 06:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by private 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋