my cuzin is pregnana but she doesn't want to get married. her bf is ready to get married wit here. she already has the job.
2006-08-12 22:19:56 · 6 answers · asked by nelli 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
just because she's pregnant doesn't mean she has to get married. they should be in love and both should want it. it can't be a one way street deal or this be a failed marraige.
2006-08-12 22:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by angel eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're talking about 'parenting', there has to be a 'father' and a 'mother'. It's only 'wise' that a child has both the presence of his/her mother and father.
As for your cousin's dilemma whether she should get married or not, well, if she does love the guy and that both of them are 'serious' about starting a family especially that she's expecting her firstborn child, then, it's only rightful that they should get married. In fact, they should have done it first before having a baby. Anyways, whatever her situation is, or whatever is stopping her from getting married (especially that her boyfriend is really serious about tying the knot and sharing his life with her), the future of her baby lies on her decision today.
A thought to leave with you (for your cousin rather)- it's a hard life living without a father. And if they DO live in (and not get married), by the time their baby is growing, they may not be setting a good example for him/her
If they want to raise their child in an atmosphere where family values are important, then, they should make things straight NOW. This is for their child's sake and for their sake, too. If your cousin and her BF are not bonded by marriage, they would always have an excuse to leave the other. Also, marriage is not about 'cornering' the other (if that's what she thinks) but marriage is letting the grace of God shower upon the couple and blessing them. It is binding them together as one in mind, spirit and body. If your cousin can't seem to understand the importance of marriage, she's lost. And if she does have a valid reason on WHY she doesn't want to settle down, well, she'd better face the consequences of raising a child as a single parent.
2006-08-13 08:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by Charlize101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to get married, then she shouldn't get married. That would be unfair to her, the bf and the child. There is no reason for all three people involved to be miserable. If they can work out the relationship with out them being married then good for them, after all a marriage certificate is nothing but a tax and a piece of paper. It means nothing. But whatever happens you should be supportive and happy for her.
2006-08-13 05:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your cousin doesn't want to get married because she is pregnant is doesn't matter as there is alot of people out in the world today that just lived together and still have children and bring them up together as a married couple do any way.
2006-08-13 10:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by debbie_dixon19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnana? Is that pregnant by a banana?
2006-08-13 08:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Answers to Nurse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ! for the child's future, she must marry
2006-08-13 07:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by tan_kaa_milan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋