He sometimes tells me that I'm great, and that he enjoys talking to me. We get on very well. We laugh a lot together, and have various in-jokes. We tend to think in the same way, and often say things the other was about to say. We're friends, but I can't tell if he likes me as more than a friend. He's a few years older than me, and he says he's shy and he doesn't meet many women in his normal life. I once told him that no one ever likes me as more than a friend and he said 'I'm sure there are those who care deeply but don't express it'. How much should I read into that? He's the sort of person who everyone gets on well with, and he has lots of friends, but I think he talks to me more than a lot of those, and we have more deep and meaningful conversations! He says I'm a good listener, and he wants me to be his 'sounding-board'. We talk on MSN quite a lot (I know him in real life too). Short of asking him (which I don't have the confidence to do), how can I tell what he thinks of me?
2006-08-12 21:53:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I definitely think he is interested in you more than a friend. I think you have to take the 'bull by the horns' and ask him. Maybe you could word it in such a way as to say 'would you go out with me as more than a friend' and see what his reaction is. Or you could simply say that you have feelings for him as more than a friend and ask him if he feels the same way. Not easy I know, but you have to risk it to find out or spend the rest of your life regretting that you never made the move. Good luck and I really hope it works out for you.
2006-08-12 22:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask me, ask me! I do feel the same way!
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But seriously... is there somewhere close to work that you two could meet? Like a coffee shop or a sandwich bar? Somewhere less intimidating that just being alone? And, at the same time, it's innocent enough not to draw too many jibes from co-workers...?
I wish you both the best!
2006-08-12 22:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rob K 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, I think the best thing to do is ask him. This sounds an awful lot like a love story waiting to happen and I think that he is very much into you. You should ask him what kind of girls he likes or something having to do with romance to see if you fit his attraction type. I think that you will.
2006-08-12 21:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by trombonegirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just talk to the guy, you said you have deep and meaningfull conversations so why dont you talk to him about it, if he is that nice guy and you tell him you want to further the realtionship then he will either say he does too or will say no and go on being friends, if he ignores you because of it then hes not even a good friend
2006-08-12 22:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
atleast from ur side u seem to be wanting more.so go for it.get a good friend to ask him if he's interested in u mentioning that he thinks u feel like that about him.ask that friend to watch his reactions carefully if he evades the question.afterwards watch his approach towards u.if he seems reluctant or withdrawn,he's not interested or confused.continue being friends and leave it to time.but for ur sake and his i pray to god he'll reciprocate positively.all the best.
2006-08-12 22:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm dificult one,
You mat be better off not knowing, if you get together and it goes wrong you would have lost a best mate and that sucks.
2006-08-12 22:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by grahame d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur relationship is a bit complex..better ask somebody..
2006-08-12 22:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by cul attitude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋