She still loves me, but is afraid to be THAT involved again...see she was VERY clingy, a virgin before me. and i broke up with her, i basically kinda got annoyed....so i broke up with her, she went through absolute HELL...****** up, and now she changed and i RELLLLLLY want her back, im totally alwayyyys thiking bout her, but when i mention gettting together, she says shes not ready for another bf. She doesnt want that person to be her everything....i know she wants too, but shes thinking with her brain, not her heart. i know how it feels now to be on opposite sides, and i think we can actually be better....help pleeese
2006-08-12 21:39:01 · 17 answers · asked by under_score1490 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u need to take it real slow.shes right in thinking with her brain this time.remember u didnt like it when she did that with her heart?u felt she was clinging.now that u realised ur mistake and she also seems to want u dont get aggressive and pursue her.try being friends first.chat her up,laugh with her,listen to her,take her out,establish a sense of security in her,make her see that u really mean it this time.dont rush her.be her friend,she just might want u back.this time u think with ur heart.
2006-08-12 21:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should of thought about that before you broke up with her for something that stupid. Of course people can change you just didn't want to stick around and wait for her to and now that the hard part is over you want her back. I don't mean to be rude but honestly you don't deserve her back. And if she does happen to take you back then you're probably going to break up with her for another stupid reason. What are you actually looking for? Being clingy is a good thing if you really loved her because at least you know that she wouldn't cheat on you.
2006-08-13 04:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally once you have dumped someone, no matter how much you may think you can get back together, your just lying to yourself. Save yourself alot of grief and move on. Just learn from the experience and don't do it again. i had a friend who tried what your suggesting and could never make it work. Three marriages to the same girl...You may be a better man, but then again...he was a decorated war hero, had a cushy government job as a supervisor...he married a totally different girl finally, had children and retired happy.
2006-08-13 04:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her a lone. I don't blame her. You might break her heart again. She is being cautious now. Frankly I wouldn't take you back. You must had done something bad to make her feel this way about you now. Maybe she has moved on and is completely over you. Well you got what you deserve, Now look who's pinning! HAHAHA!!! The tables have turn!
2006-08-13 04:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crawl on your knees.
Grovel, Beg, Send flowers, Cards.
She might not want you anymore and I wouldn't blame her. You were wrong to have sex with her and then leave her.
So even if she doesn't go out with you you will give her some healing, which she deserves by the way, for the awful way you treated her.
If by chance she does go out with you be pure in your relationship. Do not have any kind of sex and don't do things that could get either of you aroused. The quickest way to mess a relationship before marriage is by having sex.
Get your head on straight.
God Bless You,
2006-08-13 04:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Deena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, I don't think that you will be better this time. There will always be that horrible vision in your mind of her being clingy or in her mind of you being mean or something that I don't think will let you both express your true feelings for each other. THe best thing to do is find a new girl
2006-08-13 05:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by trombonegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude u really screwed up man.u hurt her real bad and if i was a close friend of hers i would have completely broken ur neck.anyway im not going to tell u u messed up cuz u knoe it .u dont deserve 2 get her back.maybe the person that you like now was in her all along but u just was a hormonestuffed loser 2 notice it.or maybe u just did not knoe her that well
2006-08-13 04:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jai S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok dont be offended but you seriously should back off, wait a while dont try to jump on her straight away, be a friend first, if she says she dont want another bf at the moment shes basically saying back off, she still isnt over her, she will see you as the guy who put her through HELL.
in all truths u dont deserve her, instead of dumping her maybe you should of done something called.. umm. idk... TALKING, you can solve a lot more by talking to each other and no-ones heart gets broken, and dont ignore her if you are talking!!!
2006-08-13 04:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be her friend...be there when she needs u the most. always start with a friendship first and then slowly work your way up to a relationship.
my bf and i were together for 3yrs and i went through HELL with this guy. we broke up eventually...for 2yrs. he WAiTED for TWO YEARS to get a second chance with me.
if you're not playing around...show her that you care and you want a second chance. she wont give you that second chance until she sees change.
good luck...
2006-08-13 04:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by mizs_sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hhahahaha, and SHE is the clingy one? Keep flattering yourself.
Respect her decision, there are 3 billion other women on this planet and you wouldn't be complaining if you had other options.
2006-08-13 04:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by d.anconia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋