I think children learn the most of the others - you cannot prevent them from anything. You can try to mention a lot of times at home that fighting is not right at all, but once they see a fight in the kindergarten, they'll try it themselves. On the other hand you don't really have to worry about it, it's absolutely normal, and they can be loving sisters and brothers anyway.
2006-08-12 20:59:27
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answered by Brooklyn :) 2
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Watch one of those Nanny shows on TV, they are great. She says to tell the kid what is expected of them, and fix a place for a time out, and explain that. When the kids fight, get down on their level, make eye contact, and briefly firmly tell them how it was wrong, it is not acceptable behavior,and it is time out time. Little kids get put in the time-out, so do bigger kids. The Nanny has a chair or mat, in the living area, the kid is not sent to his room.. If the kid leaves the time-out before his time is up, he gets put back in, every time he leaves it.
The trick is to be consistant, everytime, without fail, time out for fighting, and all the authority figures in the house have to do this too. The Nanny makes a list of expectations, chores, and house rules, and posts it. Even the little kids have jobs. Nanny says that kids left to their own devises for most of the day get bored, and fight and misbehave for attention. So Mom and Dad set up the chores, and play with the kids.
And wow, it works. The Nanny says it, and follows through with the time-out.. The kid screams the first time, and part of the second, but by the third time, it is quieter. By the end of the show the kid is smiling, and not doing whatever rotten thing he was doing, before the Nanny showed up and corrected it.
Try it. It might work, sure does on TV. Maybe you should write the show, and see if you could win a Nanny visit.
Good luck.
2006-08-12 21:10:20
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answered by riversconfluence 7
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By creating an atmosphere of calm, explaining unacceptable behaviour, having sticker charts for success and sanctions for rule breakers.
Sibling rivalry is very common but they must not be left thinking that fighting is the best way to solve differences or you're likely to be bailing them out of jail.
Or of course they will become the next prime minister and be fighting on a grand scale :)
2006-08-13 00:31:13
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answered by Anonymous
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I actually have the very similar difficulty - now I in straightforward words nap the more youthful one (2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous) and he or she is going immediately to sleep contained in the afternoon (besides the shown actuality that i could attempt to get her down nicely in the previous a million). I then positioned on a video for the very almost 4 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous so as that even besides the undeniable fact that she isn't drowsing she is resting and having quiet time. I keep in mind that you've a youthful infant i myself have one which has merely became 12months previous, besides the undeniable fact that it truly is a lot a lot a lot less confusing than struggling with with them both. Then at evening time the very almost 4 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous is so waiting for sleep she is going very really. reliable success with all of it, it will be a nightmare till you get it looked after.
2016-11-24 22:41:03
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answered by Anonymous
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You can't. Sibling rivalry is normal process through which children learn human socialisation. Leave them to it, intervene if you foresee any real danger. If it gets too bad for you to cope with, sling them outside to fight, so you have less breakages. If you get involved, they think you're taking sides and you come out of it the baddie!
I come from a family of 8 - first up best dressed, and he who shouts loudest gets heard! Pecking order established and accepted! WHAAAHHH!
2006-08-13 04:26:59
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answered by copperyclover 3
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you won't be able to prevent your children from fighting as sibling rivalry is a natural behavior. However, as parents, we can remind them that with every wrong choice or action, there are consequences. Just remember to also reward them for their good choices.
2006-08-12 21:04:58
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answered by angel eyes 2
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You don't; it's healthy. Look at it like lion cubs fighting, which in essence is simply preparing themselves for the real world. I know it doesn't make the fights easier to bear, but let them sort it out themselves mainly; they're just getting the pecking order sorted! Earplugs, star charts and nerves of steel required for the out of hand fights....
2006-08-14 02:59:40
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answered by madfairy 4
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You cant prevent a fight but you can try to minimize the bad ones. Send them in their rooms (no TV or Vgames) until they decide to behave.....
2006-08-12 20:52:25
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answered by IRA 2
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I have two boys 7 and 14 they hardly fight. AS soon as I hear a tiny bit of squabble I 'm right in the middle SCREAMING! STOP
IT NOW!
If they have disagreement it is resolve in two seconds! They figure out to leave each other alone they play together etc etc..they are very close too.
MY oldest is very sweet to his little brother he takes good care of him. I teach him to LOVE HIS LITTLE BROTHER....HE IS LIKE A BIG DAD TO HIS LITTLE BROTHER ALWAYS SCOLDING HIM...
IF YOUR CHILDREN ARE FIGHTING SEPARATE THEM RIGHT
AWAY AS SOON AS YOU HEAR THEM FIGHTING!
2006-08-13 03:02:16
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answered by +++++ SPOOK ++++ 4
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You can´t prevent it...but you can make it less fun. Stay out of it, and let them sort it out by themselves. If you must intervene, treat both kids the same...no matter who you think is to blame.
2006-08-12 22:06:25
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answered by Anonymous
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