I am a little bit overweight. Whenever I try to lose weight, or even make a decision to eat healthy and exercise, my friends jeaporadise it by saying, "You don't need to lose any' or "You're just big boned". They say I need to as well, when I buy a new outfit, but invite me to eat all this fatty food they won't let me refuse. They buy me all this fatty and sugary food and when I refuse to eat it, they insist even more. They are not skinny, yet they give me advice on how to lose it, but when I am serious about it, it's like they are threatened. What can I do?
2006-08-12 20:37:43 · 13 answers · asked by I ♥♥♣UUU♥ 1 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
I think you're right, and that they do feel threatened. Don't let them deter you from your goal. I'd make excuses for awhile why you can't see them. Don't make them feel that you don't want to see them, just try to nicely stay away from them, and follow your diet. Find away to stay away from situations where you're eating with them, like lunch or something like that. Make a point of saying that you have to be somewhere else, at lunch time, so you won't be tempted by them, or make them feel threatened, and lose that weight. If they're your real friends, when you lose that weight, they aught to be happy for you, just don't say things like you can do it if you want to too, or you will lose them as friends.
2006-08-13 04:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by virgiinia r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends always stand behind their friends and support them with their aspirations.
I don't know what you look like but if you want to lose weight then go for it. Don't acquiesce to them insisting that you need to eat more. They can pressure you, but only you can swallow it. To be honest if I were you I would bring the point up to them and let them know that if they really care about you that they will support you and heck maybe even join you.
I think you guys might have the problem pinpointed though... if there is a group of friends who aren't in-shape (not saying this is true of your group) then they will definitely give resistance to any given individual in that group losing some weight. It gives a juxtaposition such that if someone sees your group and you're the "skinnier" one... then they think that will make them the "fatter" ones or something to that effect.
Either way you can't keep living with your friends trying to stop your life goals. If you're looking to lose weight in a healthy way then it sounds like you're getting your life together and you just plain can't stop to satisfy other people who gain satisfaction at the cost of your happiness... you just can't.
I say confront them about it (not a big dramatic confrontation or anything) and if they don't become supportive then they really aren't true friends. Good luck with everything... wouldn't mind an update to be honest when you decide to take action.
2006-08-12 21:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by d.anconia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would agree that you should seriously evaluate (from a MEDICAL perspective) whether you really need to lose weight. If you decide that you would be a healthier and happier person if you dropped some weight, then you need to decide to do it no matter what. It does sound like your friends are threatened by the possibility that you will succeed; especially if they have failed and resigned at their own attempts. Try encouraging them to try with you; maybe you can reverse the pressure a little; if not, though, I strongly suggest you distance yourself at least a little; a true friend wouldn't seek to hold you back so they could feel better about themselves.
2006-08-13 03:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if your overweight or not but if you want to eat healthy then do so. Tell your friends to respect your decision to eat foods that are good for you. Don't make it about the weight make it about feeling good about yourself.
Since your friends seem to want to give you all this advise, and then try to sabotage your efforts, I would say "I appreciate and love you guys but I am instituting a ban on food advise for the sake of our friendship".
2006-08-13 02:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give your BMI or height and weight. Maybe you don't need to lose weight. Or maybe your friends are threatened thinking if you lose weight you won't be their friend anymore.
Don't accept food from them. If they insist, throw it away. Throw it away in front of them if you can. Or pour salt on it. Yes that's a waste of food and money but it will get your point across. Carry a ziplock of salt with you.
Or maybe you just need some new friends. Real friends support you.
2006-08-13 03:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie Young 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell or invite them when you are doing activities to try to loose weight. Exercise alone, and often. And dont hold back too much on eating, eat the same foods just less, and say you are full when you dont want to eat anymore.
2006-08-13 00:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by korn_issues_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call them friends. This is your first problem. I would call them acquaintances.
Here's a rule of thumb. If you can count the number of friends you have on more than one hand then more than likely you are kidding yourself.
Why is their company so important to you that you let them dictate your life? Seek others on your level.
As the saying goes...with friends like this who needs enemies.
2006-08-12 20:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dirtt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need to lose weight? Maybe they are concerned you will be too slim if you lose weight. Or if you do need to then maybe they are jealous you will be slimmer than them.
2006-08-12 20:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by georgia1980 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps they are right. Perhaps you dont need to loose weight. If you stop looking at yourself with your own eyes, and looked at you with a grandmothers eyes, would she say looose wieght? Don;'t starve yourself for anyone!
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2014-07-26 01:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋