welll this is this guy that say that he stopped evrything for me... given up girls... tlaking to them..everything... but i never asked him to do any of it. i love that he did but now he gets mad that i talk to other guys... they are my best friends but wut do i tell him.. to get over it and suck it up.. or should i jus change for him since he changed for me without asking..
2006-08-12 19:00:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RUN! What you are describing is how abusive relationships start. It's not cute. It's not romantic. It's called "controlling" and it sound like your boyfriend may have it. If you give into him now his demands will grow. Someday you may look back and realize you gave away some of the best years of your life to be a "relationship prisoner". Enjoy your youth. Be free and anyone that tries to take that away from you is not a friend.
2006-08-12 19:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by YahooGuru2u 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are very sure he is the one for him... if not he should accept you as you are. If he wants to change for , then let him be... you din ask for it... If he changed for you and expects you to do the same. He is not changing for you, period. Its to set and example and hope you do the same... thats is totally selfish behaviour but at the same time, cunning and carefully planned out. Just imagine, if you do the same and one day you 2 cant get along and decide to call it quits, you would be the one that suffer, trust me. In a relationship, you treasure one another, encourage the merits and cultivate the cons. Never ever give up your current life, you make adjustments but you never change it. Moreover, would you be reli happy changing for him? Did he reli stop talking to girls??? its impossible, everywhere there are female, can he totally ignore them even on a platonic basis... If a waiteress comes and take order, can he ignore them...I think its more on a calculated plan from him... He does it first, so that he can demand that you do the same citing that he already did it, that way, it leaves not point for negotiation.
2006-08-12 19:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by hersheys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say tell him to suck it up or move on. Because you didn't even ask him to change his ways for you. So y should you change yours? I've been in this situation too. But I told the guy that even though it was nice and all but sorry I didn't ask him to do it, so I really shouldn't be heroic and give up my guy friends for him. Besides y be with someone that is taking you away from ppl you have been best friends well before he came along? So if he can't hack it tell him to move on.
2006-08-12 19:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a happy relationship, you must be yourself! Do not change for someone else, because why would you want a relationship with someone who wants you to be someone else, and how could you ever be happy in a relationship if you feel forced to change in it? I am not sure how old you are, but also note that being yourself does not necessarily guarantee a happy relationship, either of course. The best way to find a fulfilling relationship is first by being true to yourself, and loving yourself and treating yourself how you want someone to treat you, and also by knowing what you want and taking action. Would you rather be with someone just for the sake of having someone or would you rather be independent and true to yourself? Its a person answer for everyone. But, if you don't like that he gets mad if you talk to other guys, first maybe ask yourself WHY you are talking to other guys. It could be just platonic friendship, or you could be searching for something else in these other guys you are not getting from him, or who knows. But, also, remember your feelings are just that and someone else can't demand you change how you feel. So you can't help how you feel, you can't help if you get upset or irritated or whatever it is when your boyfriend gets mad at you for taking to guys. That also brings up the point that you cant control how he feels, either. He might be insecure in the relationship or unsure if you like him. Just first, ask within yourself how invested you want to be with someone who gets upset at you for taking to your friends. You are the only person who can answer. You are the only person who knows what you want and what you think you deserve. If youre young, remember you are respsonsible for your choices and youth is a time to explore. That doesnt end after youth! We are always learning! Good luck
2006-08-12 19:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by klp_kpo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he will be mad if you choose them over him quite a bit. So to me it seems like he's giving you a choice best friends or a boyfriend. That's your decision but I'd rather have my best friends than a boyfriend.
2006-08-12 19:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you change? did you asked him to change? hes so selfish, why always ask something in return...people should love & accept you for who you are
2006-08-12 19:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by gillette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you never actually made him do all those things...he did them cuz HE wanted to ...so why should you?? if he's being possessive or a control freak then i think you should just leave him?
2006-08-12 19:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by relayruntoday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you realy wana be with him a gues you gota give it up
2006-08-12 19:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by salsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋