He's mean sometimes. He gets tempers, hits, and whines and doesn't listen. What should I expect from him age? What do I do to correct his actions? I feel like I'm failing as a parent because of how he acts now. Before he was so sweet and kind like a 14 months. help please
2006-08-12 18:54:55 · 7 answers · asked by ~*STARR*~ ~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When he acts this way, say "No" sternly. Not yelling it, but saying it sternly. Then put him in a play pen or his crib for a couple minutes, only a couple minutes, and then let him out. Every time he behaves like this, all play stops for a few minutes, he gets told "No" and then isn't allowed to play for two minutes. There isn't much else you can do until he is older. Some parents find that one slap to the top of the hand when saying no works too, but not too firmly, just a slight slap, as the shock is all they need. Don't aim to hurt them. :( Good luck, he just needs to know that he's gone too far, and saying "No" and ending play for a few minutes, if done consistently should do the trick. :)
2006-08-12 18:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is immitating what he learned. Someone taught him, well not taught him but is mean to him and he is immitating this action. Try to find out where he is learning this from, and start hugging him more and play with him but in a way that he is learning to be nicer. Children do not come into this world doing mean things. They learn and then reflect what they learn. But work on it now before he reaches 5. I have 4 girls and they don't have a mean bone in their body, but if I watch how I act, they can not immitate the bad things I do, they will only act the way that I have taught them. I am a stay at home mom and have never, never left them at a Nursery or with a babysitter. So my husband and I can take full credit for how wonderful they are and for any mistakes that they have made. I also hate the phrase ( terrible 2's) I never experienced those. Thank goodness. I don't know what your situation is, if you have to work, or if you have to put them with a babysitter, but be the best example with certain limitations and rules for your child, the quicker you do the faster he will change.
2006-08-13 02:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by meeeohmyyyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion (which is not part of the majority) a child that young dosen't even know what being mean is. He is angry or upset about something and this is the only way he knows how to communicate it. As adults we know how to speak. As for the hitting, try saying "ouch, hitting hurts and we don't hit" and then try to divert his attention to a toy or a book. Try to look at it from his point of view. I have also found that it helps to get to their eye level when talking to them. Let him know you understand that he is mad and just be close to him while he lets all the frustration out. There are many articles about "gentle discipline" on the web. Try Ask Dr. Sears or Mothering.com. I hope this helps.
2006-08-13 15:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is startin to grow n' express his feelings, don't worry!! If his does smth bad like hit u just tell him: "bad boy!!!!!!" he will get the message! all kids at this age act strange n react strange!!
2006-08-13 01:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by maria32greece 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter went through the same thing... He will get over it, it just takes some time.. Set him in his room when he does something bad
2006-08-13 02:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mary W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to begin strict discipline. Whatever method you decide to use you must be consistent with it.
2006-08-13 02:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
temperament is a genetic inheritance.. maybe you spoiled him too much thats why he's acting that way,,
2006-08-13 02:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by gillette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋