Ok my mom was in a car accident 3yrs ago December 11,2003.. well my brother's dad died when he was 8. and our mother is in the hospital with brain damage.. well shes starting to slip away and i dont now how 2 deal with that plus if she dies my older brother would have no 1 just his wife and me... how should i keep him strong when im sad that she's starting 2 die???
2006-08-12 18:41:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
You would have each other! Be happy that your mom will not be suffering anymore. You three can get on with your lives. Your bro is probably worrying about you! Give your worries to God and have peace.Best wishes.
2006-08-12 18:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as if you and your brother do not share a father, even so you cannot help anyone to stay strong except by just being there and offering love and support. But since you say he has a wife , he probably needs her comfort more than that of a half sister. I am sorry for your pain but we all suffer loss at some time and it is part of being human that we learn to cope with. There is no easy way to do this . Everyone handles the situation differently there is no book of rules . Just do what you can to cope , Nobody can help you here . In the depths of grief you are alone to cope as best you can, and everybody has a different way of BUT YOU WILL survive -----everyone does
2006-08-12 18:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by virginia o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes what you need to do does not involve so much energy. Be with your brother, spend time with him, talk with him, and allow him to talk with you, about anything, it might be preferable not to always talk about your mother, but every word and moment shared, is a little bit of bond that will provide a healing process for both of you. If she dies your brother will have no one but his wife and you, but -!!! he will have his WIFE !! and his SISTER! That is not too bad off. And you have HIM! Your brother! You are still a family. Be strong, and be with your brother. What you give, you will get in return.
2006-08-12 18:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by TwilightWalker97 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear for your loss. Encountering death is a hard thing with which to deal; I myself am faced with the problem as well, though it's not nearly as similar to yours. However, it is important to realize that life goes on & people do in fact die for unfortunate reasons.
Psychologically, I'd like to think that the day I die, I hope nobody mourns over me for the rest of their life because it detracts from the quality of their life. I want people to move on, and make more happy memories. Sure, they won't ever forget someone who may have been a major influence in their life, but the important things is to apply that to your life rather than just holding on to it.
Emotions will get to you, and everyone deals with it in different ways. At best, your mother should be relieved of her position & you can try to feel happy for her in that aspect. It may seem to belittle the situation, but try to think of your emotions as a "phase" . Once you are overwhelmed, think of all the positive things you can do to make your life and everyone else's a great impact, and you're sad feelings will eventually pass by. Try your best to just think of the greater comfort your mom would be knowing that she isn't a burden financially and physically. You may also pass on this message to your brother as well.
Religiously, you're mother is moving into a happier place as well.
Good luck to you and your family. I know it's tough.
2006-08-12 18:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by olea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. When my mom became ill several years ago and I had to watch her slip away it was the most difficult experience I'd ever been through. You need to take care of yourself during this time, too. Please find someone you trust to talk to and share your feelings. There are grief counseling groups that can help you deal with this. Ask about them at the hospital or hospice and they'll refer you.
2006-08-12 18:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think of it as keeping both yourself AND your brother strong as a package deal. Talk with him. It will help you, it will help him. No one knows better than the two of you, who have shared the experiences and life with your mother. The bond of your past will be greatly beneficial in getting through this painful ordeal. But do realize, please, that you are in need of help just as much as your brother.
2006-08-12 18:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should really think about who you talk too. What you need is a real man or woman of GOD to give you real advice. Be strong and GOD will help you throw. I will pray for you and you family
2006-08-12 18:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by HONEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please find a counselor, a minister or Rabbi and talk with them, this is too much for you to deal with alone.
2006-08-12 18:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no deal straight ask God...incase of me i will fight.
2006-08-12 18:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋