what does spare the rod and spoil the child mean??

Answer 1

Discipline is important. Even if it requires an occasional spanking. All you need to do is look around, and you can tell the difference between "time-out" kids and "spank" kids. The time-out kids run roughshod over their parents and others. Why? There is no reason not to. The spank kids for the most part, know how to behave themselves, they don't whine as much, they don't demand candy at the checkout aisle.

We have a society that is insatiable when it comes to "me." The lack of discipline in people's lives growing up results in rowdy neighbors who only think of themselves and not their neighbors. Kids who cheat on tests, because there are no real consequences, and so on ad infinitum.

Answer 2

If you don't punish the child for doing wrong then the child will be a spoiled brat. Just look at the kids today. The government has made it impossible for a parent to "properly" discipline our kids. With the threat of Child Protective Services looming over our heads it has turned into spoil the rod and spare the child.

Answer 3

It's an interpretation of the actual quote, which is from Proverbs 13-24 - He that spareth his rod hateth his son.

However, the phrase “spare the rod, spoil the child” is actually from a burlesque poem from the 1600s by Samuel Butler, and it’s actually about sex. The whole phrase goes like this: “Love is a boy by poets styled/Then spare the rod and spoil the child.” It’s a love poem, well, “love,” between a fat man and a widow, and this is hardly a good source for parenting advice.

Answer 4

typically, it means that you are not disciplining your child, and because of this neglect, the child will grow up to be spoiled. In the strictest of terms, it means that you don't believe in spanking a child when they purposefully act out of rebellion, and so you allow the seed of rebellion to continue to grow in them, unabated. There is one mention of this in the Christian Bible, an Old Testament scripture, I believe in the Proverbs (I am not looking it up so could be wrong). Most people who are against anything to do with God or the Bible try to make you believe you are abusing your children, if you (A) discipline them, and (B) spank them. Some parents have silenced social service workers by threatening to dump them off on social services when they are teenagers, if they won't let the parents discipline them and by spanking if necessary. When done correctly and in love, this type of discipline is a last resort, and usually given more as the age is lowered. Or to say it a different way, as the child grows, there is less and less spanking, and more and more responsibility is given to the child as they prove they can accept it, and by the teenage years you want a relationship built on equality and trust, not on innequality and distrust, or worse, by manipulation or control. Research shows that children WANT boundaries, and many parents who are using weak techniques are not establishing boundaries that children want and need.

Answer 5

The rod referred to is the rod of correction. This is given as a metaphor for correction itself and basically means that if you do not corret your child when he or she strays, then they will become set in the ways they have strayed to. It means put them back on the correct path. Sometimes this may reuire punishment of some sort, but that should only be to get their attention. This should then be followed by the correction and love.

Answer 6

It means if you don't discipline a child they will be spoiled. Children need boundaries and guidelines. You don't want a spoiled child. Spoiled brats grow up to be selfish out of control adults.

Answer 7

In general interpretation, it means that if one does not punish bad behavior, then that behavior will continue and get worse.
"Sparing" the rod means not using an instrument of corporal punishment. And therefore, the child is not punished and becomes "spoiled"...

That phrase is a corruption of part of a bible verse that goes to raising children to be righteous...
PROVERBS

13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.

22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame

Answer 8

It means that when you have a child,you should never hit or inflict abuse towards the child,instead you show the child unconditional spoiled love and attention...tom science

Answer 9

It means that if you dont have firm discipline the child will be spoiled. It does not mean to beat the child, but I am a firm believer in spanking. I know my mother did not spank me enough! But, believe me, when she did spank me, I paid attention and I am a better person for it.

Answer 10

It means that if you do not discipline your child with firm guidance your child will grow up spoiled and undisciplined, ill mannered and disrespectful. One must have a firm foundation when raising children to guide them in to responsible adults.