i got a few girls in love with me and i dont really belive in the romantic kinda of love. i think that love is just another illrational emotion that one fells, kinda like depression. i dont feel the need to see any one girl everyday or even talk on the phone to them everyday ( i have a life) but the girls feel the need to be all klingy ( if that is a word) i want to share with them but im not looking to be as close as they would wish. i just want to keep going to college, and handleing my business. they both are younger then me 20/24 to my 28, And i dont know how to slow them down in the whole relationship. i give them the freedom with out the hassle of rage or anger due to the people they hang out with.(other guys) but i dont get the return. i wish to keep seeing them maybe a few times a week but im not really the love-ie dove-ie type.... what would you do? help
2006-08-12 18:26:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to tell them what you just said here. You need to tell them your feelings on love. If you do that, surely, no one will get hurt...and all of you will be on the same boat.
2006-08-12 18:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Samster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To my understand u are leading a person on!Which really the gurls could be lookin for a relationship because maybe they have feelings for u!What u need to do is, be honest w/the gurls and let them kno u dont want anything serious,even though they may get mad, u gotta keep it real at all times!!Just back off a little,and tell them the truth,but maybe is sex involved??Because if so,u might of messed up!!!
2006-08-13 01:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by playagurl062003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is be honest. i'm into guys and girls so i've had to do this once or twice. Let them know you are not 'in love'... if you don't believe in it, then you've never felt it, meaning.. you don't love them the way they love you.
you can use what I use..
"I really care for you, and I want to keep seeing you. I do love you, but I don't think it's the kind of love you are looking for. I have alot of things going on in my life right now, and I need to stay focused. I'm sorry if this hurts you, I'm just trying to be open with you."
hope it helps.
2006-08-13 01:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u don't become the "love-ie dove-ie" type they will easily get sick of u and move on. BE ROMANTIC and they will return the action. maybe a few times a week b romantic to ONE of them but explain that you have to study and u will still spend the time u get off with her.
2006-08-13 01:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
B more direct and let them kno u just want their friendship. I kno, girls can appear v klingy/needy too. But u must let them kno their position and help them keep "at arms length" until u r ready. Meanwhile, ensure u don't give them wrong signals
2006-08-13 01:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be completely honest with them and if they are still being "clingy", I'm sure you can find some other girls who just want to "be with you" without all the stupid relationship hassles.
2006-08-13 01:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by jrsygrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to quit seeing them.
Explain you don't want a relationship and see where it goes.
2006-08-13 01:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone that shares your ideas of love.
dont keep talking to these girls if they are not what you are looking for its not fair to t hem or you.
2006-08-13 01:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE TRUTH HELPS. TELL THEM WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS ARE COOL AS LONG AS BOTH PARTY'S ARE ON THE SAME PAGE.
2006-08-13 01:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them. Be honest.
2006-08-13 01:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋