2006-08-12 18:14:44 · 19 answers · asked by Lepolion H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Because we are taught in today's society that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about your relationship, that it only matters what you two think. This is blind thinking. I'm not saying that all parents have the right to answer for their children, but a groom should have enough respect for the woman he loves, and vice versa, to ask those closest to them to give their opinions on the relationship, and when you ask, really listen. Anyone thinking of marriage should think about these things. Those closest around you that you and the one you love really trust, can often see things you can't. I think it's a very good idea to find people close to the one you want to marry, and ask them openly what they think about the two of you, and if they think it would be a good idea for the two of you to marry. Listen to their answers, and really pay attention to what they say. If they give you negative answers, don't get mad and upset, listen and weigh what they say, and see if there is any validity to their statements, and then see if it is something that needs to be worked on.
2006-08-12 18:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm not sure on that statistic, but I would say that a decline in asking for permission has to do with the age of the brides.
It used to be that a woman would move from her family home into her marriage home. (most of the time). Woman now, move away from home to attend school, start careers, travel, and many lead a full life and many years before they choose to get married.
Asking the father of a 30 year old woman whether she can marry would be more out of tradition. A woman that has been on her own should have enough facilities and life experience to decide on her own whether or not she wants to marry.
2006-08-13 05:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by ceemcee05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My bf is wanting to ask my parents. I guess trying to find time for both to sit down and discuss it is a pain. But he says "soon". I know his "soons'....which is very near lol.
I think in some situations, it is a good idea. Other situations, it isn't due to the relationship the bride to be v.s parents stand on. same with the future son in law too.
2006-08-12 19:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part chivarly and code of ethics went out the window long ago. I didn't ask but here parents were not objected to the idea
2006-08-12 20:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by millitary007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but i told my bf if he was going to ask me to marry him, that he would have to ask my parents first. its a respect thing, and it lets them know its coming before the bride to be knows. kind of a little secret they keep until it happens. its sweet
2006-08-13 19:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by married1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple.....coz most of da guys 2day don have da guts to stand up to the father of da girl...ho is not head over heels in love with them....but tests n challenges them
2006-08-12 21:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by kali_ks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did you get that statistic? I would have guessed that it's a lot less than it used to be, but that seems awful low even for today's generation!
2006-08-13 03:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by Andy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they're loosing the tradition, and i feel that they're loosing respect for their elders, their soon-to-be-in-laws.
I'd really love it if my guy asked my parents for permission first.
I also think that once we're standing together at the alter, we'll BOTH feel comfortable, knowing we have our parents consent.
2006-08-12 19:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by Alexis Samira 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is a confusing one. i am going to work out arguments for both in the previous identifying to purchase the hoop and after identifying to purchase the hoop. i imagine present day custom is that it merely occurs in the previous the formal theory. i recognize my brother secretly took a weekend and went to his destiny in-regulations and met with them personally and then at the same time. It replaced into after he picked out the hoop yet in the previous he amassed it. an in intensity chum of mine merely were given engaged and chosen to ask/tell her mothers and fathers. He already had the hoop yet hadn't chosen a date to ask yet, and in reality slipped it out really rapidly at the same time as his then gf left the room, besides the undeniable fact that it grew to change into torture for her mom now to not celebrate and communicate about it. something else to judge, he could make certain that you do giver her mothers and fathers adequate time to "imagine about it". If her father/mothers and fathers asks to imagine about it in the previous answering, it is going to likely be very disrespectful to expire and ask her the subsequent day in the previous the mothers and fathers provide their blessing. they could also ask him to do something in the previous they provide their blessing. So a minimum of a few weeks and under no circumstances more effective than 2 months, may slip out with the help of that element.
2016-11-24 22:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe becoz the age of couples who are married are today are to old to get permition from their parents
2006-08-12 18:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by phantom17583 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋