I love him(my on again off again boyfrined) but I can't be with him because he treated me badly. I was so scared because we were arguing about sex and he wanted to have sex without a condom but I told him no. He got real mad at me and tried to undress me but I keep on moving his hands away. Then he grabbed my hands and tried to pin me down. I was so scared and I started to cry. I kicked him in his groin and I ran out of his apartment. I haven't talked to him in days and he keeps on calling me and sending me flowers but I'm ignoring him for now. I still love him from bottom of my heart but I don't really want to tkae him back after this. What should I do?
2006-08-12 17:53:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't take him back because eventually he will want to have unprotected sex again and he will try to undress you again. He's trying to mentally control you. When you do answer he's gonna ask why didn't you want to have sex with me? He's not going to see it like you do, because his state of mind is really messed up to attempt to disrespect a woman like he tried to do. He'll have to learn this is a mistake that has consequences and one of them is losing a girlfiend that was willing to make it work. Please don't make this mistake of taking him back into your life as a boyfriend. Its GOING to lead to either an STD or an unwanted pregnancy by either party. So keep him on your extended network. Explain friendship is all you seek from him. And please don't make the mistake by having sex with friends and then the friendship is ruined also. So please allow yourself some time to think about the way you were treated and if this is how you would like to be treated on any given day.
2006-08-12 18:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Niinnaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact me, you can put me on your yahoo messenger buddy list and I will talk to you any time you need to. You have been through some horrible stuff!
Even if you don't want someone to talk to about this...take this advice from me and others who have responded to you:
You are a young woman...do not have sex with someone with out protection!!! Don't believe that this person or anyone is disease free no matter what they might tell you. If you are lucky you will get a lesser disease, if you aren't you will get a life long disease like herpes or a potentially life ending disease like AIDS. And believe me being pregnant before you are finished with your bachelors degree isn't going to be any fun either! There are lots of people here who can tell you that.
My heart goes out to you. I know how very difficult it is to be a young person in this country. OMG. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all OK for you. The best I can do is offer friendship.
2006-08-13 07:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by LongAgo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you dare take him back, and if he keeps calling and won't leave you alone get a restaining order. When you were saying no and he was still trying to take your clothes off... that was the precursor to date rape. You may think you love him, but how can you love someone who would ignore you and your wellbeing just to satuisfy his own selfish, misguided needs? Have nothing else, whatsoever to do with him... not as a girlfriend, friend, or even a casual acquaintance.
2006-08-13 01:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by crazyhorse3477 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOO!!!! after the way he treated you???
don't go back to him unless you want to wind up raped, pregnant, partially abandoned and partially with an abusive man who thinks he has ownership on you.
forget him, tell him you really need time alone... wait for him to cool off or find somebody else, it's the best thing that could happen to you. you need a real man who is aware of how to treat a lady and aware of any kind of responsibility from his acts.
2006-08-13 01:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by Nia24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he tried to do to you is called rape and is criminal. You must be proud of yourself for standing your ground and keeping yourself away from him. He obviously does not respect you and should you notice him stalking you, he needs to be reported to the police. Don't let youself get into a vulnerable position with him again, as he cannot be trusted.
2006-08-13 01:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by Dr_G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is it exactly that you love? The disrespect? Being Scared? His selfishness? the arguing? help me here am I getting close. Yeah these are the qualities I look for in a man
STAY AWAY FROM HIM
2006-08-13 00:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mtn dweller 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholics love alcohol, crack heads love coccaine, but it's a poison that is killing them. Love him, write poetry about his, start a blog all about him, keep him as a memory in your heart and a reminder of where you are now in your life. The human heart is emense! The capacity to love in infinate!!! Keep loving him, pray for him, but free yourself to love someone else who will return it to you with more love and not the poison. You must not see this one again, he will hurt you, he is your poison. But you can keep him in your heart. Good luck my sister. Be strong.
2006-08-13 01:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by amyaliceco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww girl. It'll be alright. You have to decide whether or not you want o be respected or disrespected. You have to decide whether or not you will tolerate abusive behaviors from men. You have to decide if this is normal to be scared when you are with the one you love?? When you are able to answer these questions truthfully.... you will better be able to make the correct choice to your answer. Make sure you pray. Not just for you, but for your boyfriend's behavior.
2006-08-13 01:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by tyrawooley 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK!!! If you would not have fought back, he would have raped you...do you really want a bf like that??? That guy doesn't respect you...he just wants to get in your pants. Find someone who truly respects you girl. You can do way better than him.
2006-08-13 00:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Curious_Camo_Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are doing the right things. keep it up and don't give in. he has no right to do that to you. i would be called rape. i wouldn't go. you could always call the cops. if he keeps up. send back the flowers to him. he will get the message. no man should hold down any one . no mean no. hang in their. and don't give in. stand your grounds. THUMBS UP!!!!!!!.
2006-08-13 01:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋