ok i am 17 years old and in the delayed entry program for the united states army (active duty) me and my girl friend are pretty serious for a high school thing and im kinda scared about going into the army not the whole going in thing but rather loseing my girl friend how do i deal with this situation i love her as much as i believe is possible i would do anyhting for her to be happy even if it means loseing her so she can move on and be happy bu yea how do i deal wit this PLZ HELP ME
2006-08-12 17:50:57 · 15 answers · asked by shotgun5ua 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
why don't you talk with HER about that i think you can make your decision in light of the facts that she provide you with and you can take whatever decision you have to together
2006-08-12 17:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by Dark Crystel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 17 and facing something very similar to you -- he is on the delayed entry program for the Marines and concerned about losing his girl. I will tell you the same thing I told him: The person you are right now is not going to be the same person you become once you are part of the military. It will take a really special girl to be able to stick with you as you go through this experience. Continue to keep in contact and see what happens. Your relationship might end, but that might make it possibe for the real girl of your dreams to come into your life. Or, you and this girl might learn that you relly do belong together. You can't change what time is going to take care of on its own. Good luck, though, and thank you for joining the military.
2006-08-13 01:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are only 17. You have a full promising life ahead of you and you need to seek out new and challenging oppotunities. Don't let anything or anyone hold you back. Love at this age is strong but fleeting. If you miss an opportunity to shape your destiny because of a young love, you have lost more than you could imagine. The phrase "If you love someone, let them go free. If they do not return to you it was never meant to be." comes to mind. If it is destiny she'll be there for you when you come back. But, honestly I wouldn't count on it. Live your life to the fullest and don't let anyone hold you back or make you feel bad about searching for something better.
2006-08-13 01:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by tbo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump her. You're both too young to be that serious. If you don't, you'll just go nuts wondering what she's doing. You'll be going to new places and meeting tons of new people. You owe it to yourself, and each other, to play around and grow up before you settle down. One more thing, make sure you don't end up getting ANYBODY pregnant! It would be the quickest way to screw your life up. Good luck in the Army.
2006-08-13 01:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you something i lost the woman i love and it has made me a miserable person for the last 3 years do what you can to save this relationship even if it meens breaking this delayed entry agreement
2006-08-14 11:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by wylted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw the Army-go join the Marines:it's not too late.
As for the girl friend. The military is the true test of any relationship, and the character of your mate or mate-to-be.
2006-08-13 01:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by planedws 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're getting ready to grow and change a whole bunch - presumably for the better. Get that done before looking at any marital ties.
2006-08-13 00:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by badbear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you have a right to grieve when you go into the Army (grief is not only for death, if you lose someone you care for you can still be grieving). If God (or whatever you choose to believe in) says that you will remain together, than nothing will be able to keep you apart.........Thank you, by the way, in advance, for keeping my family safe.........God Bless you all............
2006-08-13 00:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she really loves you than she will stay with you.
If she tries to make you not go, which is too late now, then she's obviously not ready for what you are doing.
2006-08-13 01:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about your plans and if things go well she might be even happy to know that you're going to serve your country.
2006-08-13 00:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋