Dear all women...how do i over come being shy???

Question

For some reason Im really shy in person when it come to talking to women...how can i over come this? Does it bother women when a man comes up 2 u and says hi cuz i dont like to bother people and i feel i might be bothersome to women...its not like im some fat slob...im in shape and am a nice guy and am funny just a lil shy...any ideas ladies??

Answer 1

Remember that you are important, and don't let being shy keep you down! Cnfidence is key. It doesn't matter if you had all the looks in the world, if you don't have confidence, then girls want be attracted to you.





This is a major dilema in many peoplewho are searching for that right one, or in some cases the wrong one. But the key thing to remember, is that no woman is better than any other. When asking a girl, pretend that she doesn't get you nervous, as to psyche yourself. In other words, start by- always be the one to start, if she ever starts, then friend phase has been established, and any chances of dating her has been destroyed- relating your questions to things that are relevant to the situation your in. For instance,

1. Crack a joke, or make a point about something she is doing, even if it is sappy. As long as she responds back in a smile or laugh, then advance on. But remember, never make a joke unrelevant, and never question. Girls hate men who question them. Just be smooth, and relate. Relation is important; it shows whther you are going to be compatable with her, if that makes sense to you.

2. Next make a general statement about things she usually does, relating of course to what she is doing at that moment.

3. Next give her a piece of personal infomation, relating to what you and her are doing at the moment.

4. Then if she continues to talk, then say that you would like to get to know her more, but don't be eager. Be swave, and relate to situations that and not questionares. Never ask a girl a general statement, only ask related questions with a situation in which you are in.

Important: NEVER let her know that you want her; never let her know that you want her; never be nervous, and if you are, play it cool; never be clingy; never be obssesive; always be confident; and take the lead. Lead her to date you, but never imply that it's a date. As long as you play hard to get, but at the same time talk to her, then she wont be freaked out.

IF SHE says no, then you know she's not the one

but remember that their isn't the "One", so don't get obssesive, be respectful of yourself

Answer 2

Your going to have to open up. Practice at home alone. Just set your mind to it. Plus everyone gets nervous. It's normal. Prepare yourself that she is going to blow you off. So if it ever happens you can say your lost well think it don't say it. The best thing to do is get over it get out there and start meeting women. You can't just wait around forever for a lady to come to you. Which I'm sure one will sooner or later. You got to think positive. No it doesn't bother me when a man comes up to me and says hello.
What you need to do is look around. Make eye contact. If you smile and they smile back then you found one that you should go up too. Chance are 99% after she smiles she's good to chat up. Now that doesn't mean some aren't bitches but they aren't worth 2nd thought you are better then that then move to the next. Get out there and don't be shy! :)

Answer 3

Look man im not a female but i can tell you this if you have balls use them. Being shy is a handicap many men have that will never get you any where sure somtimes we well get turned down by women but how will you know if you had a chance if you dont take it. But dont try smothering women they hate that and will leave you talking to yourself

Answer 4

I guess it depends on the lady. I like making new friends, I don't like being checked out. If your first goal is friendship, then most girls will be open to this, but no girl wants to be treated like a piece of meat. It's alright to be shy, not all people welcome being talked to by people they don't know, but the good news is this. If you try to talk to someone that you see, and they brush you off, the chances of you seeing them again unless you live near them or work with them, are pretty slim. Try finding some new people today, both male and female to talk to. It will help you over come shyness in lots of situations. :)

Answer 5

Let's talk man to man. If you want to get over being shy with women, just relax and go up there and talk to one. Better yet, practice this by talking to at least 8-10 women per day. You don't have to be attracted to them, just go up there and talk to one. Smile and be approachable. Laugh and make jokes. Make eye contact. What is the worse that is going to happen, she don't like you? Then that would be her loss.

The more women you speak to, the more at ease you will be around them.

Answer 6

I suggest you go to a public place, maybe a night club. Go around and talk to the ladies. Nothing serious just "hi how are you doing" and if they answer back and smile, talk to them. Have the nerve and talk to her. The only was to stop being shy is by doing what you are shy to do.

Answer 7

start with a smile, say something natural... don't say anything or approach anyone if it doesn't feel natural, it's better to stay quiet if you find that you are forcing yourself.

now... there are situations when things just flow... you suddenly find yourself talking with someone as ifyou have known them forever and things just feel right... that's the moment to project all your best qualities; ie if you are funny, smart, nice to be around, etc. just try it when things feel right, if you puch to much brain into the whole situation you may just sabotage yourself but to avoid this don't be a hunter but simply be a sincere human being.... nice women appreciate that more than anything, someone who can listen to them.

Answer 8

First of all, do you know what you are looking for in a woman? You can't just walk up to any woman. What are you looking for in a woman? Find out who you want to be with. Who do you want to have conversations with? I know a pretty face or body is important, but her character is much more important. You should look for a woman with vision, intergrity, structure and accountability. You should always carry the V I S A card =)

Answer 9

lol too cute.. just be yourself hun ..If she dont like you for u then u dont need her anyway ! Dont be shy aint nuttin wrong with saying Hi ..if she stuck up and dont wanna talk then forget bout her she prolly a B**** in a relationship anyway so she doing u a favor haha

Answer 10

I think irrespective of your looks, as long as your confident and not sleezy, then a hi/hello is always welcome. It may not lead necessarily to a number exchange but at least to a nice conversation... It's important to be yourself and be proud of who you are, just think that others would be lucky to have the advantage of gaining your acquaintance, without being too cocky...Good luck