we btoke up six times and hes askin me bakk agian but on the other hand my other ex boyfriend that i fell in love with before him wants me bakk..i love them both and i dont wat to do...please give me some good answers
2006-08-12 17:41:41 · 17 answers · asked by stranger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe not ur first bf.. breaking up 6 times are a lot... maybe u can try looking for other ppl that will is better for u ;)
2006-08-20 16:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to honestly evaluate why the relationships failed initially and determine if there is a logical answer which would lead you to believe that things will work out properly this time.
If your relationship broke up do to infidelty - why would you think that it would be different this time? If your relationship broke up do to excessive fighting - why would you think that it would be different this time? If your relationship broke up do to dishonesty - why would you think that it would be different this time?
You should also set the standards of what you want and expect from an ideal relationship and not settle for less. If you feel that open, honest communication is important, demand it in any relationship you are in and don't settle for less. If you feel that affection is important, demand it in any relationship you are in and don't settle for less. If you feel that loyalty is important, demand it in any relationship you are in and don't settle for less.
Make your list of things that you desire in an ideal relationship. Your list can include superficial things like "He will be taller than me", "He will have blue eyes"... but it should also have qualities that you are not willing to compromise with "He will be loyal", "He will be honest..."
As long as you are a good person, you will find a good person who will come close to the person you want in an ideal relationship - don't settle for less.
One last thing. Look at the stongest positive qualities of your last two relationships and look at the stongest negative qualities of your last two relationships. Now state those qualities in the phrase: MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO __________. If your negative list sounds totally ridiculous, it probably is. EXAMPLE:
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO is unfaithful to me.
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO cheats on me.
MY IDEAL MATE IS A MAN WHO always fights with me.
Don't sell yourself short. Find a person who truly compliments your life and avoid the same traps you have fallen for in the past.
Good luck and all the best to you!
2006-08-12 18:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from both. Take time for yourself and focus on school, volunteering, sports, working out---- something that makes you happy and makes you feel good about yourself... hang out with your girlfriends, and I am sure someone new will come along and than you will be ready to try a new relationship. Start fresh without any baggage.
You obviously have broken up with these guys before for a reason... it's just going to cause more heartache... move on. Don't recycle old boyfriends... it just doesn't work.
2006-08-12 17:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you won't like what I have to say. True love knows who they love. If you love more than one person, it is a very clear sign it is only infatuation. Take time for yourself. Learn about who you are, without a boyfriend. There is lots of time for finding someone later. You deserve to have a happy relationship, and that can only happen after some serious time alone defining what you want and don't want.
2006-08-12 17:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kendra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already broke up six times, then it will continue to happen. It is a pattern that you should really aviod. If you fell in love woth you ex, then go back with him. However, it's not which one is the one you can live with, but rather which one is the one you can't live without.
2006-08-12 17:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a track record like that, it's time for you to back off romantic relationships for awhile and figure out what it is you're really looking for. You're not ready for long-term with anyone right now. Give it a couple years and then try again. That's right, I said "a couple years". If you're too immature to wait that long, you'll never achieve that long-term, loving, monogamous relationship. Instead, you'll bounce from one guy to another just like a rubber ball...
2006-08-12 17:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and make a list of the good and bad points of both guys. Take a few days away from both of them with no distractions to really think about which one you would consider seriously spending the rest of your life with. Which one makes you happy, which one do you think about all the time, which one makes you smile everytime you think about him, which one treats you with love and respect you deserve, which one loves you for who you are and not who he wants you to be, you need to take a lot of things into consideration.
2006-08-12 17:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by herbie36f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the second guy or a new guy because the first one went wrong too many times. It may seem like he has changed and things will work out, but it won't work out.
2006-08-12 17:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by Samster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my ex's want me back to, my philosophy is "I've crossed that bridge and I'm not looking back." Keep moving forward, you broke up with them for a reason, I'm sure the reason is still there. Forget them and move on.
2006-08-20 13:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start fresh...Don't go back to your ex and if the one you broke up with 6 times is asking you back don't go
Start over and find someone who will be yours forever
2006-08-12 19:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋