Open Relationship? Yay or Nay???

Question

What do guys think of women that want to have an open relationship? I'm a realist, I know guys cheat, and I know it's going to take me an awfully long time to find someone who won't, and who's right for me. In the mean time I don't want to stay at home knitting all day - so what do you all think of "the open relationship"? By the way - I'm not a slut so don't make any assumptions.

Answer 1

Open relationships are very, very challenging to make work successfully. The ones I've been close to have worked for a short period, but then tend to fragment, with people going in different directions. I have a few sets of friends in polyamorous relationships, though, and they've been stable for many years. I think one of the reasons that polyamorous relationships work better than simple "open" relationships is that the set of partners is well defined, and well understood by everyone in the small group (one is a triad of two men and a woman, one is a quad, two men, two women). They're not "open" in that they don't invite others into their group, but they also don't conform to the strictly monogamous rules society likes to dictate.

In general, it's probably simpler to just sticking to calling it "dating" rather than having an open relationship. It's OK to date multiple people, even at the same time; it's one of the factors we use to distinguish people who are testing the waters from those who are trying on a single partner. We talk about 'dating' differently from "being in a relationship" exactly *because* there are different societal rules around being in a relationship versus simply dating.

So, don't get hung up on the relationship word. Go out, date people, just be careful and use protection; you don't know where else they've been, and what they might have picked up, and you always need to watch outself for yourself first of all. And be honest with the people you're dating, let them know up front that you're in a dating phase, and aren't necessarily ready for a committed relationship, but you aren't ruling it out if things go that way; by letting them know earlier on, there's less likely to be drama later on over misunderstandings.

Good luck with it, and never forget to always just be yourself! :)

Answer 2

Totally against it. But I'm very old fashioned in some of my views. I think if you have to resort to an open relationship you mind as well not even been in a relationship at all. Because if he is willing to go out and find someone and you are willing to go out and find someone as well, then why even be with the original guy? I mean you would have too many loose ends out there and is sex really all that important that you have to have a guy at home while u play with all the guys out there in the bars and clubs? I say just casual date don't get in a relationship where you see this as your only out. Just dump the guy and find someone better.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

My marriage has been open 15 our of 16 years, so it can be done; as long as communication stays 100% open in both directions (the hard part), you shouldn't have too much to worry about. Just be willing to stop if there are feelings that need to be worked out.


For us, having the option is good enough - we hardly act on it now.

Answer 5

Real guys don't cheat.
I think you've been in a or many bad relationships, but it's not true that all guys cheat. Open relationships never works.

Answer 6

Just add him to your list of sexual partners. Why call it a relationship because that's not what it really is? Sounds like you want to cheat too.

PS: Not all men cheat, just the ones you are seeking.

Answer 7

Nay. Set your standards high and have some respect for yourself. You deserve a faithful man, so don't settle for less. It's well worth the wait.

Answer 8

Yes read some tips and articles on dating and relationships

Answer 9

Make sure you agree on what is ok and what is not. If you don't set your boundaries before you start...someone will get hurt. Other than that what 2 adults do is up to them.

Answer 10

I admire honesty and love a women who can communicate and your doing that so you'll find what you want.