If I'm christian...?

Question

If I'm a chrstian must I be "subservient" to my husband?

Answer 1

You must love yourself first. And if in loving yourself, being subservient doesnt fit, then nope, don't do it!

what the hell do I know - its that exact type of quandary that chased me out of christianity in the first place.

Answer 2

Subservient is a loaded term. The Bible never says anything about you being "subservient" This makes it sound like you are less of a person, and that you just exist to do things for him. The Bible teaches that you should submit to him, which in simple terms means that he should be the leader. Every relationship has a leader, whether it is spoken or unspoken. Even with friends there is usually one person who has the most influence.

God has basic instructions, and when we follow the instructions, we are all happier, women, children, and men. When we do not follow the instructions, it leads to misery.

There are plenty of people including Christians who will try to tell you that letting your husband be the leader of the home is wrong and bad for you, but if you trust what God says, don't listen to them.

Answer 3

The bible says a woman should "submit" to her husband. This is so misunderstood in this day and age. Some people seem to equate this with being a doormat or something. Not at all! Remember how Jesus scolded the Pharisees about divorce? They could just give their wives a piece of paper that says "I divorce you", if she displeases him in any way! Jesus said a man needs to love his wife, as Christ loves the church. Have you ever seen a tug of war? You don't get very far, do you? Two people on opposite ends pulling with all their might. That doesn't work in marriage, either. The man needs to be the head of the household. And a true Christian man will not use this as a power thing, it's a responsibility, to put his wife and family first and be the spiritual "leader" of the home.

I think if done the way God intended, a Christian marriage could be one of the most beautiful partnerships on earth. Both people are to love one another and revere one another. But yes, a wife should allow her husband to "lead" and have the last word on things. Hopefully...he always seeks God's will on decisions!

Answer 4

This is one that really does throw a lot of people. The answer is not as simple to explain as many would think but I will do my best.
Firstly, according to the bible the man is the head of the home. He is the one who has the final say on things. However, he is not to be a tyrant and lord over all. The woman is the guardian of the home, she has full say over her home. Together they share the responsibility of keeping the home correctly. Although the man is the head, the woman is his help mate. They work together in harmony by cooperation and discussion. But when the man has made the discision the woman should then support that desicision and help him in all things. And the man should always listen too and consider the womans words and advice. They are not to go it alone.
It is after all a partnership. If they love one another there will be no question of who rules over who. They will not see things that way as they will be too busy working together. After all they say it takes two to tango. So the answer is that yes, you are to be subservient to your husband by loving obediance in a loving way. But he is also to be loving and considerate of you too.

Answer 5

Absolutely not!
"Submit yourselves one to another in the fear of God," (Ephesians 5:21) e.g., wives submit to husbands, and husbands submit to wives.

Submitting has real meanings and one of them is not “follow blindly”. For example, if you have a piece of information and submit it to someone say your husband, that’s not yielding the heart mind spirit and will God gave you at birth in the name of some archaic understanding.
If he is a good man, one worth believing in and wanting to share Your life with, he won’t make it a God issue.
It says submit… this word means... present, put forward, propose, tender, offer, suggest, and surrender.
Cruel men use the next verse to belittle their wives, which is also not allowed, if you’re going all whole hog on the Christian thing.
Besides, Christians never got the chance to see all of the holy books that were around because the men that canonized the few you do have gathered together decided many of the books wouldn’t make the cut. I personally feel it’s because the bigger picture doesn’t ask anyone, or tell anyone, that they are better than another person. They say basically, the Creator and all who are there love you and accept you, who can then judge you?

Answer 6

Yes, the Bible says a wife is to submit to her husband. But, God also commands that husbands respect your wives. This may seem to place men at a higher level than the woman, but, the Bible also says that the husband will also be held accountable for his wife and family and how they serve the Lord, just as a pastor is accountable for his congregation or a shepherd to his sheep. A good Christian husband would not ask his wife to do anything that goes against what God teaches or do anything that would disrespect her in any way.

Answer 7

A husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. If your husband loves you that way, he is looking out for the family's best interest. He has a great deal of responsibility to you and your family. God is an orderly God, and there has to be an order in a family. This doesn't make your husband a dictator. Christ was not a dictator. This is actually a tool to help your family. (It took me years to get to this point because it goes against the flesh.) The Bible actually says submissive. Think decision making-the buck has to stop somewhere. Example of a Godly husband: I'm sorry, but you cannot purchase that brand new Mercedes on our $25,000/year budget. Example of an ungodly husband: Look woman, you do whatever I say.

Answer 8

1Pe 3:1 In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any {of them} are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives,
1Pe 3:2 as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.

God commands that Wives must obey your Husbands. Not subservient, but a relationship built on respect and authority. Your husband must also respect you!

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong in being subservient if your husband is a good man and love you. So it's worth it. The bible words still apply today.

Answer 10

What the word says is A man will treat his wife so tenderly that her feet should not evan touch the ground. A man who loves and follow God should be the leader of the home and most women will not argue with godly dicision making. However men who insist on obedience ususally have macho problems and God has nothing to do with it, Pray and follow your heart but mostly pray to follow Gods will

Answer 11

THE WORD SUBSERVIENT HAS BECOME A MUCH HATED WORD BY WOMEN DOWN THRUGH THE AGES AS THEY NEVER HAD A TRUE UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT IT MEANS IN THE BIBLICAL SENSE. IT HAS ALSO BEEN USED BY MEN IN A WRONGFUL MANNER AS TO CAUSE WOMEN TO QUIVER INSIDE AT THE VERY SOUND OF THE WORD!

THE TRUE MEANING I BELIEVE AFTER MUCH STUDY OF THE SCRIPTURES IS THAT IT WAS MEANT TO BE A PLACE OF PROTECTION FOR THE WOMEN. GOD SAW THAT EVE WAS DECIEVED SO HE PLACED ADAM OVER HER AS PROTECTION. THE WORD I BELIEVE YOU ARE MEANING IS FOR A WOMAN TO BE SUBMISSIVE TO HER HUSBAND. AND IF A MAN LOVES HIS WIFE AS CHRIST LOVES THE CHURCH HE WILL NOT BE ABUSIVE WITH THE POSITION HE HAS BEEN GIVEN.