I'm unhappy with my boyfriend, he doesn't treat me badly or anything. I'm just unhappy. Should I break up with him? Or give it some time and see if it gets better? I love him, and I like talking to him and all, but he's a very quiet guy, and doesn't like to do many things either. Which can be boring, and which is why I'm not too happy. I would be sad without him though. I've been avoiding him for the last 2 days, because I don't know what to do anymore. Should I talk to him?
Opinions please.
2006-08-12 17:27:40 · 30 answers · asked by Staticx 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you think you really love him then have confontation with him. Open channel of communication is really very important in every relationship. Not unless you won't tell him, then how will he know your thoughts. You cannot expect him to read what's in your mind. Not talking to him and avoiding him won't help.If you have mutual love then you got to accept him as he is . Love is acceptance of someone to be part of your life to share with you in their own way of expression.
You found him boring and 'inactive' because he doesn't do many things. You are quite vague in this point. Anyway, I hope I am not wrong with my presumption. In this case I think you need to have self reflection to know if what you have for him is love or just physical attraction which made you frustrated as he was not doing anything. This guy must be thinking the other way around. Talk to him and if it turns out that you are not compatible with each other and your being with him continue to make you unhappy then I advise that you break up with him. What's the use of staying in a relationship if you are unhappy? There is no deep commitment involved yet so putting an end at an earlier time will be much better.Find your happiness and let him to find the right one for him as well. Both of you deserves to be happy.
2006-08-12 17:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ lani s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your unhappy break up with him. But yet the consequences are that you might never really know why he doesnt talk so much. He might seem like just a quiet guy but maybe theres something wrong. Talk to him ask him if everythings alright.
2006-08-12 17:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by age 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him you're unhappy, he's not going to want you to be unhappy... if the issue is him being more of a homebody and you want to go out, that is what girlfriends are for..if you want to go out with him then talk to him and compromise where-- so may nights a week you go out and do what you want and the others you do what he wants. Compromise is a key factor of any relationship and if you love him and he loves you then don't throw it away and try and make it work. Find out why he doesn't like going out..maybe he's got issues why he'd rather be at home, good luck!
2006-08-12 17:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him first. He seems to suit you more as an friend than a boyfriend if you feel this way. You may be sad and miss him if you leave him, but that is also what we feel when we lose a friend. By reading your question, I think that you and him don't have enough things in common or "chemistry".
I would talk to him, do things with him that he likes, and then if you still don't feel the connection, consider friendship as an option.
2006-08-12 17:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by Samster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give it a little more time. Only because he is a genuinely nice guy and doesn't mistreat you in any way. However, you might have to take a stand and tell him how you feel. Tell him how badly the relationship is stagnating. If it continues to be boring an unfulfilled, then do dump him. You may not have much in common.
2006-08-12 17:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy in this realtionship, by all means talk to him and tell him the truth. Don't just break up without giving him a reason. He may be just as unhappy as you are.
2006-08-12 17:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If You Feel Its Better To Break Up With Him N you Think That A Good Choose You Made Then Do It..
2006-08-12 17:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by ❀Mother Of 2❀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun I think you should talk to him Definatly.. Tell him how you feel and what u think. After if things dont get better after talking.. well then ur not in the best relationship and you should leave.. Tell him your sorry but you dont think things are working out. Dont be afraid to tell him.. Honesty Trust and communication are the 3 best things in a relationship.. talk to him and try to work things out with him.. Hope this helps and things go well for you. Wish you luck Katie*
2006-08-12 17:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by ♥OnCloudNine9♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to work out the issue first then if you're still unhappy break up with him and tell him the honest reason why. Communicate with him, tell him you're unhappy and why. After that is said both of you try to work out the issue. If it doesn't work out you know what you got to do.
2006-08-12 17:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat as you sweetie, but I talk to my bf about everything that goes on even the bad or miserable stuff. It helps because now he knows what is making me unhappy/ miserable and since he loves me he does what he can to change what he can. ( I am not asking him to change himself or anything, just time spent together etc.) It helps. You two need to talk.
2006-08-12 17:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by Littlefoot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋