When I am talking to girls that I really like I become really nervous. And can only usually have a conversation if she starts it with me . What should I do to be less nervous. Thanks for your help
2006-08-12 17:20:41 · 16 answers · asked by Pablo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you get nervous?
Because you're busy thinking about...what she is thinking and how can you possibly think of something fabulous to say when you are so preoccupied with what she is thinking about you.
Here is a great saying.
Its none of your business what others think of you.
Okay? Just be you. Ask her if she's from around here? People LOVE to talk about themselves! DON'T Forget that!
2006-08-12 17:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a major dilema in many peoplewho are searching for that right one, or in some cases the wrong one. But the key thing to remember, is that no woman is better than any other. When asking a girl, pretend that she doesn't get you nervous, as to psyche yourself. In other words, start by- always be the one to start, if she ever starts, then friend phase has been established, and any chances of dating her has been destroyed- relating your questions to things that are relevant to the situation your in. For instance,
1. Crack a joke, or make a point about something she is doing, even if it is sappy. As long as she responds back in a smile or laugh, then advance on. But remember, never make a joke unrelevant, and never question. Girls hate men who question them. Just be smooth, and relate. Relation is important; it shows whther you are going to be compatable with her, if that makes sense to you.
2. Next make a general statement about things she usually does, relating of course to what she is doing at that moment.
3. Next give her a piece of personal infomation, relating to what you and her are doing at the moment.
4. Then if she continues to talk, then say that you would like to get to know her more, but don't be eager. Be swave, and relate to situations that and not questionares. Never ask a girl a general statement, only ask related questions with a situation in which you are in.
Important: NEVER let her know that you want her; never let her know that you want her; never be nervous, and if you are, play it cool; never be clingy; never be obssesive; always be confident; and take the lead. Lead her to date you, but never imply that it's a date. As long as you play hard to get, but at the same time talk to her, then she wont be freaked out.
IF SHE says no, then you know she's not the one
but remember that their isn't the "One", so don't get obssesive, be respectful of yourself
2006-08-13 00:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about herself. "How do you like your job?" "What were you like when you were a kid?"
Ask her about her opinions. "What kinds of movies do you like best?" "What do you think of this war?"
Listen well, and chime in if you can, but don't worry about saying a whole lot. Most people love a good listener! And talk to girls as often as possible -- not just the ones you really like. With practice, you won't feel so nervous.
2006-08-13 00:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by llemma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a speaking class. Then start a convo with anyone and everyone around you...just small talk...you can start with buying stuff in the grocery store and always saying something to the check-out clerk..
My mother used to just start talking and people around her thought she was talking to them and so they would respond. Even these days when you hear someone talking loudly you respond to them, then you're embarassed to find that they are on their cell phone.
2006-08-13 00:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well comin from a gurl u should let her know ahead of time before talkin cauze then she'll think your not listenin! and trust i had that prblem my self cauze i don't talk to boyz cauze i'm afraid i'll say something sexaully or just plain stupid! So just let her know u r kinda shy okay! Your gurl Aleya!
2006-08-13 00:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by aleya402 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just act like u did b4 u were nervous... alot of guys do that to me too so im used 2 it. but just act normal or act how they do!!
2006-08-13 00:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm read some dating tips on this site to help you with it
2006-08-13 00:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just pick random stuff and if u feel like she wants you to shut up, then ask her if she does and if she says no then your confidence will go up a little. that always works for me
2006-08-13 00:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by stinky1990 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just say hi to her and ask her what she did over the weekend and go from there
2006-08-13 00:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u talking way to be nice. so there is comfort for that girl
2006-08-13 00:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by jas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋