Do any of you have daughters who are .............?

Question

7 years old and think they are 15 due to Disney channel, Bratz, Barbie.com. We went clothes shopping and everything I picked out was "not STYLISH enough", "NOT worthy".......whattttt?

I had to think back to ME when I was younger and I can't remember one thing that had such an impact on me. She is only 7 years old and can quote and sing songs from everything I mentioned above. She has alot of outside time......BUT.......WOW.....
anyone else going through this?

Answer 1

I am a 15 year old girl, so i figured that would be a different point of view for you. I also have a 6 year old niece that i have been spending more time with than her parents do (due to divorce, work, and other conflicts that aren't relavent). But the way i see it, barbie has been around forever. Every girl grew up with Barbie and it hasn't hurt any of them, though it is getting a little more rickay, I still dont have any problem with Barbie (yet). Bratz however are completely horrible in my point of view. There was once a Bratz doll (no, not just a bratz doll, one of those "baby bratz") that came out wearing a thong. I mean are you kidding me!! 5 year olds play with those things. That is sick! The show is not any better. It has quite a bit of violence and the girls are way too obsessed on the way they look. Not to mention the was they talk. I don't think i want Christa (my niece) using the words "like" and "totally" that much. Christa started picking that up, which caused me to start watching it, thats when i noticed all of this stuff that i didn't like and i eventually banned it.

Barbie has always been a little girls role model. Her clothes are a little revealing, but they are also a little far fetched. No body dresses like barbie and little girls see that.

I personally don't see a thing wrong with disney channel. Actually i watch it myself. It is a good family channel (unlike cartoon network and nick). The shows are somewhat edjucational, and pretty entertaining. But i can see where you are coming from with the fashion thing. But do you really want them to be wearing t shirts and jeans? They are gonna make the characters look good, just like every other show on every other channel. But the girls on that channel aren't obsessed with their clothes and seem to be great role models for young kids. They are girls that don't smoke or drink, they don't use foul language, and they are not sexually active. I find that very good for a channel that is often watched by teenagers.

And about their fashions, they show a variety of different things, so I can't see that making your daughter be picky about what she wears. And what is wrong with your daughter looking trendy anyway? As long as she doesn't insist on getting expensive clothing i don't see a problem with it.

I have got a couple pictures to show you what i mean.

in this picture raven is wearing a trendy outfit, but she is still very covered up. And i think that is a very cute outfit for a girl. Yes, in the show she does kind of make a big deal about her clothes, but that is because she wants to be a fashion designer when she grows up. Everyone has their passions. Raven is a good role model because she works hard to achieve her's.

http://www.scifi.com/sfw/issue299/raven1.jpg

pim has a somewhat alternative style, which shows that it is ok to dress with your own style. She also has an attitude, but in every episode pim suffers the consiquenses for being mean. This teaches kids that they can't get away with being mean.

http://www.dailyceleb.com/thumbs/tn.DC.325320.jpg

every girl loves miley, and i am sure you can see why.

http://www.amny.com/media/photo/2006-03/22581193.jpg

Now this is a picture of someone who is obsessed with fashion. People really do dress like this, so young girls try to also.

http://www.repubblica.it/online/cronaca/bratz/bratz/internet3dn730_4cxw200h313c00.jpg

http://bratz-world.diaryland.com/images/ppyasmin1.jpg

http://leilaak.jeeran.com/Bratz-Vio.jpg

this one is a baby and look at how she is dressed

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B0007KL796.16._SCLZZZZZZZ_SS260_.jpg

this baby brat is wearing a thong

http://a.abclocal.go.com/images/wpvi/cms_exf_2005/news/amusement/bizarre/dollthong-200.jpg

what kind of 6 year old girl needs makeup? This is bratz brand

http://ec1.images-amazon.com/images/P/B0006V2484.01-A3HDDZD5V5HUQV._SCMZZZZZZZ_.jpg

o, and how they are always talking about their boyfriends and kissing and stuff. But i really need to go, but there is alot more that i could say about Bratz, the tv show, the dolls, and the products

Answer 2

My daughter is 9 and we went and are going through the same thing with her. They are exposed to a lot on TV and we can monitor that but a lot more of it is society. Just because we don't let them see it at home they go to school and all the other kids are wearing and acting out what they see. You go into a store to buy clothing and even at that age the clothing looks like something I wore as a teenager. Even as a baby the clothes are more and more fashion and not for the better. It helped with my daughter when we blocked a lot of the channels from the tv but as I said she still sees it at school. When we go shopping for clothes I feel like all I am saying is no, no and HELL no. Now I go and buy the clothes bring them home and tell her this is what she got. She might not like it but she wears it and it saved me a migraine while shopping. I also have a 14 year old and trust me it doesn't get any worse. Thank God my youngest is a boy, Levis and a t-shirt and he's happy.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I never went through this with either my 8 year old or my (now) 12 year old, who was more concerned about running around the house doing Dr Zoidberg impersonations at the time. My 8 year old has spent a lot of time at barbie.com but has no barbies and does not play with dolls or want particular clothes.

Answer 5

Yes mine picks her clothes and only one rule applies. NO SKIRTS! Yeap, since she started grade school that is my main rule, so she knows that her pants can be with sparkles and shirts with slogans as "Parents for sale" as long as no skirts are on the shopping cart.

You need to balance it out, most of the kids that left home early say that it was because they felt trapped, so you need to see if your outrage really is that worthy. My daughter has a cell phone (firefly), dyed her hair tips pink, and she has things in her room from PB Teens, she has a barbie.com account since she was 4 and loves Brats dolls; but she also studies piano, is great in school and feels she is her own person. She feels comfortable talking to me as the little women she is.

We need to balance the act, we can't say no to everything, instead is better to find a common ground. Sometimes "because I said so" is not the best thing. My daughter and I have a great relationship and no Bratz, Cell phone, or Barbie had gotten our way...and be sure they never be. Because when you set the rules straight from the begining they adapt, but we need to be flexible and adapt to their trends sometimes too.

Don't worry, you'll find the common ground too is just a matter of understanding everyones needs.

Answer 6

Yes, I have a 6.5 year old. I went through that for a little while, but then changed my mind about what I let my daughter do and who I let her hang around. I don't allow my daughter to watch that crap called Bratz. I do let her watch Barbie because think of all Barbie has been in her life. There isn't anything that Barbie can't do. I think that the time you do allow her on the computer or watching TV could better be used doing something else. How about going to a senior center and visiting people without anyone, reading books together, or taking a scrapbooking class together. I know your daughter needs time to do "kid things" but you need to be more careful of what she is doing. Get involved with your daughter and her friends and let them hang out at your house, making cookies, craft projects, or having a slumber party. Kids only want what they see on TV, and if they aren't watching it, then they don't know. Or get your daughter into classes that are fun and get her mind and body moving.

Answer 7

My little sister's friends are acting much the same way. It's great that your daughter has lots of outside time so she can work off that hyper energy they all seem to have. But I would take a hard look at what you're letting her watch. My little sister doesn't get this way too often, especially not with clothes, b/c she hasn't been exposed to ways we won't allow her to dress. We don't buy her Bratz dolls. She pouted about this one for about a week, and she can play with them at a friend's house, but we won't buy her any and if she receives one as a gift we return it. They are WAY too sexual and sarcastic for a young girl to be playing with. Barbie's body is of course completely unrealistic, but since she's not even anatomically correct, and usually has a positive attitude (in her commercials and movies) and she's been a time tested toy, she has lots of these! We don't have cable, there's enough junk on TV without adding another 80 channels of junk. When we all sit down to watch, we watch DVDs of old TV shows. My sister LOVES I Love Lucy and The Brady Bunch.

It will be hard, and she will likely balk at first, but hold your ground knowing you're doing what's right for her and she'll get over it. You have to control more of what she takes in if you want to get a handle on the attitude and opinions coming out.

Answer 8

i have 3 kids and i'm very strict. i would tell them " THEN NO CLOTHES FOR YOU!!!" it's my money, my house, so my decision. she wants to buy her own, get a job and use her own money, until then, she go by what i get for her. she doesn't wanna wear it because it's not stylish enough? then she can wear a raggidy and torn all to hell kind of clothes outside, stylish enough?
my 5 year old who is now 9 used to do that to me. but i stick with my rule and my rule only, or no clothes, no food or anything else. so now i get NO COMPLAIN, WHINING OR TALKING BACK.
goodluck, girl. i don't know how much you spoil your girl, but if this is what you want, this is my advice. of course she will probably hate you, but don't let her. just explain how things are supposed to be and not.

Answer 9

Oh my gosh..I know what you are talking about...my step-daughter is 9 and the things that she knows are wants at 9 blow my mind sometimes. Hubby and I keep a pretty good eye on her because of all the things that she sees on t.v. We are really picky about what movies we will let her watch too!! We just want her to be a normal 9 year old and not try to grow up to fast!
It really blows my mind with these schools these days...back when I was in elem. school (I'm only 26!!!) when someone picked on you, you ignored them and moved on and it built character....now a days it's all tree hugging and lets all sing songs and hold hands!! AUGHH drives me crazy. Plus I think that 6,7,8,or 9 year olds are given to many choices in school...with everything from what they have for lunch to what they will "make" or "get" their parents to send for a school party! (we have literally had to go to the school and tell the teacher..."my daughter doesn't make decisions for our house...you should let us decide from the list what will be sent to school for the party!")
Give me a break they are kids....let them be kids!!!!

The cartoons you are talking about...expecailly the Bratz crap!!! No way....not at all!! Hubby hates them...and the Mary Kate and Ashley stuff...nope not allowed either!!! They just sent wrong messeges...expecially little girls. (example...stick your finger down your throught so you are skinny and dress like a street walker!!!)

I wish my Step-daughter could have grown up like the time was when we were growing up!!!

Answer 10

i know EXACTLY what you are going through! my daughter is 7 and doing the same thing. however, i am okay with it because, where i come from, children her age are quoting worse than that.....WAYYYY worse. just be happy that she is singing that and not the lyrics to "sexy back" or "whoop that trick" right?
as far as clothing goes, i let my daughter have a lot of say in ithat, after all, she has her own stlye.....only if it is not too expensive or inappropriate.