I recently lost my virginity, and I know my mom knows, or at least she has an idea, but I want to talk to her about it, and I'm not quite sure how to bring it up, or what to say...any advice would be great.
2006-08-12 16:39:53 · 19 answers · asked by Katrina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to her.....you mom would have lost her virginity too at some point in her life and it prob wasn't with your Dad or while she was married! Moms are humans too and while we don't particularly relish the idea of our daughters banging the first guy that says he loves her, this is the reality and i think its better to keep this stuff out in the open. After all if you can't trust your mother, then who do you have? She is prob wanting to say something to you too. Go ahead, bite the bullet and just talk. Maybe do it over dinner in a public place so she can't get that mad! By the time you get home she will have calmed down enough to talk it through rationally!
2006-08-12 17:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by lounursey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have three daughters, 21, 19 and 17. Basically, just tell her you want to talk. Tell her that you know she is aware of what is going on (as long as you are sure that she knows) but you just want to talk about it. Just a few words like "Mom, I know you probably already know, but I lost my virginity a few days ago and I really want to talk to you about it." You should be able to gauge her reaction and how much she is ready to hear and handle about the situation. Just remember she is your mother and will probably have a little hard time dealing with it, so don't force her into talking if she isn't ready.
2006-08-12 23:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? DON'T keep your mouth shut! What is she going to do ground you? Seriously go to her..say "mom, promise me you won't kill me..." and then tell her you made a mistake. By not telling her you're creating more problems for both of you. Hopefully she'll handle it okay...you can't change it...what's done is done...lets move forward and make sure you don't wind up pregnant or with a disease okay? I didn't tell my mom and my whole teen years she couldn't understand the reason for my rebelling. Only until I got pregnant at age 17 did I tell her everything. We shed some tears and I remember her saying to me "if only I would've known". We are lots closer now but it was really really hard to have the separation from my mother for all that time ya know? Good luck!
2006-08-12 23:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she already knows what do you want to say. It isn't easy for a mother to act like this is no big thing. We don't want our daughters handing it out to every "the one" that comes along..... It will be a sensitive issue so, I guess I would start out with, Mom, please don't be mad, I have an idea you know, so can we discuss this.....
2006-08-12 23:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ashiya S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you want to talk to your Mom about it. Have a serious talk, ask questions and take Mom's advice. Get out of the house when you talk you don't need that distraction.
2006-08-12 23:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she already knows what do you want to say. It isn't easy for a mother to act like this is no big thing. We don't want our daughters handing it out to every "the one" that comes along..... It will be a sensitive issue so, I guess I would start out with, Mom, please don't be mad, I have an idea you know, so can we discuss this.....
2006-08-12 23:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Tiny Jr. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and break the news to her being sure to make the point that you need to talk to her about it. She will probably be upset at first, just weather the storm. Mom's really want to talk to their daughters about sex, boys and life in general. I think if she knows that you want to talk to her about it and make her feel that you would appreciate her advise, she will be more that willing to sit down with you and have a real heart to heart talk.
2006-08-12 23:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are. This is a senstive subject. Sexual activity is not a sport. It should not be given away freely. Make sure you are protected from STD's and Pregnancy. My best advice is to not do it at all. Save your mother from the details. You know her better then the rest of us.
2006-08-12 23:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mtn dweller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on the equation you have with her. If you are not comfortable bringing up the topic then maybe you should think again about discussing it with her.
If you are determined to do this just try asking her about her experience the first time around and take the conversation from there.
2006-08-12 23:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by K. N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this same situation. I slept with my boyfriend (now my husband) and I knew I need to tell my step mom and dad. One day when my mom and I were talking I just told her mom there is something that I really need to tell you. ANd I told her, I knew she was disappointed but she really didn't make a big scene. She told me I needed to tell my dad and I told her I knew that but I just didn't know how. So that evening when he got home I told him there was something I needed to tell him. And with tears streaming down my face I told him. He said I figured as much. He just never said anything b/c he wanted me to come to him about it. He like my mom was disappointed but what could he really do about it. It was too late anyway. He just said that we didn't need to be doing that anymore till we got married which would be 3 months later lol. It will go ok. She will respect you more if you just go and tell her yourself. It will be ok. Good luck!!
2006-08-12 23:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by Ange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋