I had wanted a puppy and my boyfriend who I live with bought me one. It costed $650.00 and now I feel like I'm not ready to handle it. He works during the day and I don't work so I have be with the puppy and I will have to train it. We just got it today and I feel like its a mistake. I don't know what to do. He's mad at me and I know that I won't mistreat him or anything but I'm scared.
2006-08-12 16:13:57 · 54 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Why don't you call the breeder that you got the puppy from? I'm sure the breeder would be more than happy to either take the puppy back or help you find a new home for it. Taking care of a new puppy is alot of work, but in the end it can be very rewarding. Good Luck!
2006-08-12 16:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The reason why your probably feeling this way is because puppies do seem like a large load at first. The reason why yur probably scared about this is because your afraid that your boyfriend wouldn't understand your feelings and leave you. Give the puppy a chase to grow up and become mature. Once again puppies are hyper at first so don't worry about it. And for the training part, it's not that hard if you find a good video or book that teaches you know to.
Oh and your boyfriend will probably get over the the mad thing after he sees that your giving the dog a chance instead of just giving him the boot on the first day. Once again just wait a week or two until you decide about the puppy, that will give the dog sometime to mature and calm down a bit.
2006-08-19 12:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry your having trouble. This message is going to everyone. Before you purchase a puppy. You should ask the breeder for a puppy owner application. Mine is 4 pages long. I ask so many questions that it gets people to really think as to if they are ready to become a puppy owner. Things that new families like yourself forget to take into consideration. I would sit down with your boyfriend. And discuss all the options. You can contact the breeder and ask the breeder if they would buy the puppy back or you hang onto puppy while they help to sell the puppy. Having a puppy is a lifetime responsibility and should not be taken lightly. The average life span is around 10 years. Many breeds live even longer. Picture yourself at the age you are ad 10 years and see where you really want to be. You have a puppy and if you do not feel already you are a suitable puppy owner. Place that puppy with someone who wants the responsibility. Now is the best time for a puppy to acclimate into a new environment. They have feelings just like you. They have a heart just like you. And they want someone to love them unconditionally just like you.
2006-08-17 05:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by Gentle Giant Canines 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you are scared, but regardless, take some deep breaths and stop panicking.
I have had 2 puppies in my life, and once the initial excitement wears off there is some intense feelings of wow, this is a big responsibiility and a lot of work. This is normal, training and caring for a puppy can be overwhelming, almost like a newborn baby is!
I guarentee you though, that the weeks or couple months of initial training and getting used to the dog will go by FAST and PAY OFF. You will fall so in love with this puppy that you will wonder how you ever could have questioned keeping it! Dogs quickly develop their personalities, and loving loyalty to their owners, and this makes us as humans very attatched to them like a family member.
Remember hun, this is the first day! It will get easier, I promise. Start smiling instead of panicking, and thank your boyfriend for this thoughtful (and expensive) gift that you've been asking for. Give yourself ample time to bond with this dog, and everything will be fine, and once its trained they will be no trouble at all, just a blessing.
Millions of people have and love dogs, because they are great pets, rest assured that this challenging time will pass and be worth it!
Good luck.
PS, go to your local bookstore or PETCO and get a short, but informative book on training a puppy. There's tons out there, and maybe this will help ease your mind...to have some instructions and professional information.
2006-08-12 16:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by neverneverland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what is commonly referred to as a teachable moment. It's time for you to suck it up, girl, and take responsibility for your actions. Your boyfriend did not surprise you with this puppy - you asked for it and you got it, so find the maturity to face what you've brought about and do the right thing by both your boyfriend and your puppy. Find a couple of good books on caring for a puppy and follow the advice you'll find there. Spend some time playing with it, grooming it - that's a little life you've brought into your home and if you give it half a chance, it will reward your efforts with so much love, affection and loyalty that soon you'll be wondering what you ever did without it. Taking the puppy back when you are comfortable in the knowledge that you wouldn't harm it would be an incredibly immature thing to do, and I wouldn't blame your boyfriend one bit if he started looking around for greener pastures if that's what you decide to do. You can come out of this a much better person or a worse person - it's up to you. I sincerely hope you can find the courage to take a major step in growing up, right alongside your puppy.
2006-08-12 20:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising a solo puppy is not that bad ... don't be afraid in fact the little one is a god send to you believe it or not.
Your boyfriend is fantastic as he bought you a "friend" for those times when he can't be there ... run or walk to your local library and pick up a couple of early dog training books ..those should help you with the first couple of years :)
A Poem For A New Puppy Owner
Don't smell crotches, don't eat plants.
Don't steal food or underpants.
Don't eat my socks, don't grab my hair.
Don't rip the stuffing from that chair!
Don't eat those peas! Don't touch that bush!
Don't chew my shoes. What IS that mush?
Eat your cookies. Drink your drink,
Outta the toilet! Outta the sink!
Away from the cat box, it's for the cat!
And MUST you kiss me after that?
Yes, raising a puppy, is not for the lazy!
Though puppies are funny, they're also quite crazy.
But don't despair, though its toil and strife.
After three years, you'll get back your life!
So, let's go for "walkies", you can "do your thing"
And perhaps I'll get back my good diamond ring!
Author Unknown
2006-08-12 16:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Being scared when you become a 'parent' is definitely natural. I adopted my 'puppy' about 4 months ago and still have concerns. It comes with being responsible for another being's life and well-being.
I decided to keep my baby - 'cause I love him beyond belief. I can only do my best, I realized, and as long as I feed him, etc., and do my best otherwise, all he needs is love. The same goes for your baby.
To help ease some fears: I suggest you take a look online, in a library, etc., for training books and books on 'bringing home puppy' - and if you have a vet, ask him/her for advice/help/etc. If you don't have a vet, I suggest you get one to make sure the puppy's healthy, etc.
Get your boyfriend to help you - he's the puppy's 'daddy' - and since he got the dog, he really should help out. If you do most of the training, your bf should follow your lead, though, to prevent confusion.
Get to know other dog 'moms' and remember that you are the center of that pup's universe and the world revolves around you as far as he's concerned. He already loves you completely, and wants to make you happy. Take care of his needs and love him lots - it'll work out.
Good luck..I know you can do it..belly rub to the puppy.
2006-08-18 20:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by tydlywnks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you think you're not ready, you probably are not.
having a dog is a big responsibility, a lot of work, and can be pricy (vet costs, dog food, accessories etc.)
I got my dog when I was 14, and she's 3 now, and it is quite time-consuming, and sometimes you wanna go somewhere and you can't because the little bugger needs a babysitter, or you need to come home earlier than presumed because ther little bugger needs to be brought outside to do his business. (I had to cut evenings out short many times because of this)
Thinking about having a dog is a big thing, you need to think over for a while to see if having a dog would fit your lifestyle and life situations.
I'm not saying that having a dog is a bad thing, its just you really need to think it over, because for the next 10 years or so, you're gonna be taking care of him/her. Having a dog is a wonderful thing, but you have to be sure it's for you.
I would recommend that you get rid of the puppy as soon as possible if you're planning on not keeping it, because if you end up keeping him/her for more than a week, you'll be too attached to the puppy to get rid of it.
good luck, and I hope you make the right decision!
2006-08-12 16:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please, there is no reason to be scared. you should have thought this all out before you even suggested getting a puppy. they really are not that hard to train and the love you get in return is well worth it. what kind of puppy is it? i hate to say this, but its people like you that dont think things out before they go get an animal. then it doesnt work out and off to the shelter they go. and the money that was paid for the animal is the least of it. im worried about the animal. just stck with it and train the puppy. if your home all day you need something to do with you time anyway.
2006-08-20 03:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by cathi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey you will learn to love it. Getting it trained isn't as hard as you think. Just give it a lot of love and feed it a regular times keep water out at all times though. They need plenty of water. When you feed it Take it for a walk out side and stay with him til he does his job, and then you can bring him back in and play with him. Get him some doggie toys so he doesn't get bored. When they are puppys the sleep a lot so you will have some free time to collect your self. Enjoy your little frind. he will be your most trusted and loyal friend of you life. Good luck with the baby.
2006-08-20 14:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋