I just happened to come online.... and saw pics of my ex with his arms wrapped around another girl.... it took me totally by surprise.... and it hurt worse than I could ever imagine... it's like he took my heart out, stepped on it... and then handed it back to me... bruised and torn... I don't even know if they're together since he happens to have a lot of girls as friends... and I don't know how I'd talk to him about it... since it's not like we're together any more , and I don't want to be either... it just totally was like a kick in the face... how do I deal with it??
2006-08-12 16:00:29 · 27 answers · asked by shortchic070307 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've been apart for 3 weeks...
2006-08-12 16:17:59 · update #1
That sucks. I'm sorry you had to come across that.
But unfortunately you just have to feel the pain and learn to deal with it. It doesn't fully go away. And the closer you get to true love...I hate to say it only hurts more. But you get closer to the real thing every time so that should give you hope that one day you will find someone who will make all the others seem silly.
p.s. don't let all these people tell you to "just get over it" .we all know it's not that simple.
2006-08-12 16:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by sofun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this become a major issue.. just move on, life is much more than this.. of course it hurts, but it won't kill you.. you lived before you met him and you will continue doing so after him. He was just a tiny speck in the spectrum that you life is, don't allow this to get you down.
You have the power to choose what brings you down and what doesn't.. don't let this be an excuse to wallow into self-pitty and feel sorry for yourself.. you are strong... this is just an experience, and you know what?? if didn't kill you, it will make you stronger.
Keep a stiff upper lip, there are worse things in life... this is not bigger than you... you are bigger than this, as for you can learn from this and instead of feeling all victimized, you can look at it with strenght and decisiveness thinking that now you know better.. you have learned something new... and when faced by something similar again, you can always say.. oh well!!! NEXT...
Good luck!!! I wish you the best... and remember, if something makes you feel bad is because you gave it permission to do so....
2006-08-12 16:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by goddessofchaos50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i`ve been in the same situation. my first bf, after breaking up, was kind of the type that like to hang out w/ girls cause it makes him feel all you know. it took me like 2 months to get over him, and i must tell you those two months were hard =\ all i can say it.. try not to let it get to you, cause after breaking up, that guy is no longer worth you being sad about. move on& soon you`ll find someone unlike him; someone who won`t dare break your heart, a person who `d care for you and for you to fall in love with. i know i have.. it may take time; but trust me one day you`ll look back and be like why was i all yeh about HIM!? [meaning your ex] so just try not to let it get to you, i know it`s hard to but try your best. and he`s not good enough for you if he`s like that(=
2006-08-12 16:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by scatteredth0ughts_ x 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By doing something you should have done long before you began dating, GET YOUR OWN LIFE. If you have one then when this stuff happens it is just an ouch instead of a heart stomping event. It doesn't mean you love people less. It just means that they are not the only positive thing in your life.
2006-08-12 16:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ouch! It does hurt. Not sure i can explain why but I can tell you that you need to get over it before it turns into something ugly.
Baby yourself, go out with some friends, definitely try to go on a date. Move on. Good luck.
2006-08-12 16:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by jaybird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been apart?
Honey, take it easy, it gets better in time, and when you find new love.... it'll hurt even less.. until it Will go away.
It's normal to hurt, you feel maybe confused, though you seem to know you were right to brake up, you never meant to send him into someone Else's arms,,that's kind of like he hurt you and all and then moved on, you move on too girl!
Good LUCK
2006-08-12 16:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes he is yr ex and he can see who he wants. sounds like yr not totally over the breakup yet. it does take time sometimes. there is nothing you can do and revenge would be a childish thing to do. how you got the pics i dont know but dont bother looking at them again. more advice on breakups that might help on this site
2006-08-12 16:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did he email the pics or did you search him out?
The best thing you can do is move on. He found someone after you two broke up, now you should do the same. Living well is the best revenge.
2006-08-12 16:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it shouldnt be a kick in the face if hes your ex! grow up and get over it, he has nothing to do withyou now, thats like seeing me with my arms around a girl, it shouldnt matter
2006-08-12 16:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by Matt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Outta sight, outta mind.
Grieve properly, and then find other things to do with your life. The more you focus on that, the more it's going to hurt. Life goes on.
2006-08-12 16:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋