they got the divorce in december of 2005. every time they ask i tell them im fine and to to stop asking. what shood i do?
2006-08-12 15:39:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that maybe they are concerned that the only response is "i'm fine" Children are remarkable creatures that they can pick and chose what emotion is best for themselves. By saying you are fine all the time and not talking about the divorce they are probably worried that there is something that you are not telling them. The next time they ask say something like Yes the divorce bothered me and it is hard to get used to this situation but I know that this is what was best for you and dad and ultimately me so I deal with it. No children do not want their parents to get divorced but I know that it was the right decision so I am making the best out of it but by you always asking me if I am ok doesnt help me to become better with it. It only keeps me from moving on. So please I promise if I need to get something out about it I will come to you but until then please stop asking.
This will allow your parents to know that while there may be concerns that you have that you are just that ok. It also will reaffirm to them that they have a good enough relationship with you that they do not have to worry and I think that that is what is going on. They are just worried. Maybe ask them if they need to talk.
2006-08-12 16:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Charisma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I kinda know where you coming from because I have a husband who also picks his nose whenever and where ever. Yes it is gross and should be done it private but hey we do have to remember they are men and they don't really care where they pick their nose or scratch the nether regions. On most of the stuff you are asking about, yes you are over reacting just a bit. My husband and I have had days just like you have and it really killed the mood, but after you apologize to each other and do some cuddly, make up sex is the best. Also today is Valentines day, so really go show your significant other how much you really love him and don't let this petty stuff get in the way.
2016-03-26 23:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are concerned about you-- which is better than alot of parents who divorce.
Sit them down (alone or together, whatever is easier) and tell them that you are OK with the divorce and that you promise to let them know if you even have a problem with it. If you bring it up this way, before they ask you again, they will feel much better about it.
They may still ask you occasionally, but try to remember that they are doing it out of love, even if it is annoying.
2006-08-12 15:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they just got divorced, then neither of them are seeing you like they used to. They probably don't feel as close as they once did. Just keep assuring them you are fine and you know, don't start doing drugs or letting your grades go. Those are listed in the signs that something is emotionally wrong.
2006-08-12 15:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well divorce can mess a kid up and they are just worried about you. "I'm fine" response has a lot of stuff one can read between the lines. I'd get it over with and sit down with your parents and have a frank discussion- yep, one of those ones with a lot of "I feel" statements. You could get your parents off your back and maybe be able to get some stuff out yourself.
2006-08-12 15:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all good, my parents broke up in jan of 05. they just wanna make sure your not going through a rough time. Ive heard stories of kids killing themselves over their parents divorce. theyve probably heard the same and out of sheer love want you to be happy. next time they ask you should probably put a cheery smile on your face and tell them. "im great!"
2006-08-12 15:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by dark_desparado66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea like jessica said just be real with them iight!! tell dem how u feel cause i mean my momma is not wit my real father and sumtimes my step faather make most of the decisions and I had a problem with that so I talked 2 my mither bout it and close family members just let yuor feeling out!! or else it will just build up inside!!!!! HOPE I HELP AND E-MAIL Me IF U NEED ANYMORE HELP!!!!
2006-08-12 15:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They love you and are worried about how their divorce affects you. After awhile, if they see you're doing OK, they'll back off asking so often.
2006-08-12 15:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they love you and they are worried about you and your feelings. divorce is hard on the parents and the children. they are going to keep asking you. be glad that they love you so much and care about your feelings.
2006-08-12 15:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by bumblebee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they're going to keep doing it for a while, because they feel guilty about it, and maybe they're not secure in their decision... You could try to write a letter to each of them, explaining how you feel about it and that you'd rather not have it brought up every time you see them. They probably don't even realize they're doing it.
2006-08-12 15:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by cynthetiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋