the bride and groom are on disability and my niece has saved money from working. her mom handles her money and insists she has to buy the alcohol to thank the guest. she and her future husband are both paying for this out of their own money and are paying for a catered reception and the whole wedding as a matter of fact. how far is enough for saying thanks to the guest?
2006-08-12 15:29:36 · 40 answers · asked by iskrupansky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I do not think that alcohol is mandatory at receptions. I would stay away from it and offer punches, juice, waters, and other drinks.
I have been looking into that for my own wedding in march and have found that most receptions that happen in the evening the guests pretty much expect alcohol to be there. you can have a cash bar, but some might think that is tacky (i dont).
You can switch up your reception to happen earlier in the day when guests wont be as tempted to let it all go and get wasted at your expense. Not only will you save on not having the alcohol, halls and caterers usually give good discounts for receptions that are brunch or late lunch. And if it is right after the lunch hour you only really need finger foods.
I say if you dont have the money about it, dont worry and if someone wont come to your wedding because there will be no liquor being served, they dont need to be there any ways.
Buying drinks isnt the proper way to say thank you- a note card is. If the mom wants to thank everyone with liquor i say she buys it herself.
2006-08-12 15:37:55 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I recently went to a wedding for my husbands cousin...at the reception they had a cash bar but gave each guest a ticket for 1 free drink..those who didnt drink gave the tickets to the drinkers I though this was a great way to include some alcohol in the wedding but not have to pay for it as it can get very pricy.
The other option is to find a reception hall who will include the drinks with the meal some times its not all that much extra If I remember correctly at my wedding it was like $10 extra for the alcohol included. Good Luck!
2006-08-12 19:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, alcohol is not a requirement or must have at a reception. As a matter of fact, a lot of people are doing away with because of the cost. Unless of course, you got a money tree growing in your yard, but no they can have nice dinner, and if they want to give the quest a little favor to take home, and that doesn't have to be expensive either. Weddings are getting way out of hand, before to much longer you will be paying the quests to come! So, I would rather see this couple save that money, put it in the bank or use for the honeymoon...instead of seeing people drink it up, and some people have a nasty little habit of getting drunk and then ruining the reception...that's always fun...lol....please tell your neice that isn't something she has to provide.....Good luck on the wedding, and I hope it is everything that they had hoped for. God bless us all................
2006-08-12 17:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't serve alcohol at my reception, because neither my family or my husband's family drinks. I figure those guests who came that drink could do without their alcohol for a few hours. I also didn't want to deal with drunk people there, ya know? I think if the bride and groom don't want to pay for alcohol, then they shouldn't have to. After all, it is their wedding.
2006-08-12 16:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I won't think its neccessary. Of cos having alcohol in parties do help to boast up the atmospher. But if you can't afford it, don bother. It is not a must in any religion in this world. You can thanks your guest by presenting script of thank you. show the guest that the couple are very thankful for their presence. Or perhaps, the couple could hand made some thank you card or some little handmade things(etc homemade mini cupcakes, cookies) I am sure the guest will appreciate more rather then alcohol. Cheers. Anyway, congrate on the upcoming wedding
2006-08-12 15:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by flo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, alcohol is never required if the hosts choose not to serve it.
However, I can't tell from your wording if you are talking about setting up a "cash bar." Please do not do that-- that would be rude. Anything provided at a private function like a wedding needs to be provided by the hosts, not pass the cost on to the guests.
The guests ACCEPT whatever the hosts choose to provide, even if their favorite drink/food/alcohol is not being offered. The HOSTS pay for everything they have chosen to offer/serve. That's what etiquette is all about- everyone fulfilling their roles properly.
2006-08-13 08:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol is never required if the bride and groom dont drink. Who iis paying for the reception? You might consider paying for the reception yourself. That way, no conditions are placed upon you.
It kind of reminds me of my first marriage. My husband's family were southern baptist, and my parents were christian (in the loosest sense of the word). The reception was kind of like a high school dance...My family at the bar drinking and slapping each other on the back, while my husband's family sat across the way eating cake and drinking punch. I should have known our days were numbered...!
2006-08-12 17:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, as a wedding consultant there are no more traditional weddings now a days. Everyone chooses different arrangements. Options: 1. no alcohol 2. Provide wine only (cost is low) 3. Provide a CASH Bar for those who are interested in purchased alcoholic drinks. Alcohol doesn't thank the guest, your kind thank you notes do. Enjoy your special day and don't worry about your mom.
2006-08-12 16:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by shizzlechit 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alcohol is not a requirement for them. Have a No Host Bar, where guests can pay for drinks themselves. Sometimes they can provide just Champagne for a toast. Alcohol can get very expensive, whether they will be charged per drink or have a guarantee. I am sure the guests will understand that they are not wealthy and would not expect it.
2006-08-12 20:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by debra l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guests should always be provided with free alcohol. This doesn't have to be a full service open bar, though. Free beer and wine and then cash mixed drinks is perfectly acceptable. People like to drink at weddings. Its not so much a gesture to thank guests as it is the right way to throw a good party. A dry wedding is like hosting a dry New Years Eve party.
2006-08-12 17:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋