2006-08-12 15:26:45 · 14 answers · asked by Valerie G 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Try talking to your mom about how you feel, if you haven't already. Maybe there is something about this guy you see, that she doesn't see or know.
Make sure you are not feeling bad out of jealousy.
Remember that you don't have to accept him as a father, especially if you are a grown up.
Remember that your mom has to make her own decisions.
2006-08-12 15:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lexicon.... maybe she was needing spiritual advice about the matter. Don't be rude.
My mom married her 3rd husband, a while back. From the very beginning I didn't like him, I know this might sound bad, but I still don't. He's abusive to her, and walks all over her. The bad thing is, she doesn't like to be alone, and he came at a very vulnerable time, so she feels like she is stuck.
My mistake from the beginning was that I didn't tell my mom how I felt about it when she asked me. I had the chance to tell her that I had a bad feeling about him, but I didn't because she said that she was happy.... and I didn't want to ruin that. But now, I wish I would have.
I think you should talk to your mom. (It could be that you think he is trying to take the place of your dad.) JUST BE HONEST with her and tell her why you don't like him. I mean after all, you would have to live with him too. This way you can get everything out in the open before the big day, and find out what your mom really thinks of him. You never know... not all guys are like the one my mom got. Who knows, you may find out something about him, and have things completely change.
No one knows.
2006-08-12 22:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by zrose86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start looking for the good in him instead of the bad.
Only you can decide if you will try to make this easy or hard.
Making it hard will only succeed in making it harder for you to reside in the house peacefully.
You have free will, use it and make the best of the situation because there is no way that you should make others lives more difficult just because you dont get along with someone.
You do not mention if you live in a Christian household. I say this simply because many times Christian women get remarried for reasons beyond what you may know about. They are doing the best they can for their children given the situations that they ended up in.
2006-08-12 22:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to y our Mom about how you feel...talk...not yell. Let her know what bothers you about him. If you are a minor, keep your distance from him if you feel he is abusive. If he is bossy.... you and your Mom and he need to come to some kind of agreement before the wedding. Is she marrying him for security,money, love or sex? Take some time and pray about how to approach the issue with your Mom before you talk to her. Ask God to guide you and give you wisdom. Remember, that you will not always live with your Mom...but he will. One day you will leave home and be out on your own... off to college or getting a job and your own apartment. If its not too far off, just be patient unless she is doing this wedding for the wrong reasons...
2006-08-12 22:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her you don't approve and why? if so, then i am sorry your mother is more concerned about the penis than you. Trust me I love my mother but my step-dad was a complete dick to me and my brother and I was so mad at her for a while. I love her and we are good now that my SD has become a decent person.
PS I was only 3 when they married so I had to deal with 2 dads that didn't want anything to do with me. Crazy!
2006-08-12 22:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you.
You can't medel in her affairs (or will you extend that to her and does she have a BIG say in YOUR choices!!!!).
You, by now, have the right to tell her you want him to have LIMITED say in your life.
You should obey her, respect him to a degree, but not blindly obey unless he is simply enforcing HER edicts.
If you're over 18, maybe it's time you got a place of your own and had your own life.
2006-08-12 23:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom about and pray but tell ur mom if ur getting another devorce dont marry this guy marry a guy that ull stay with forever and if they do stay i love forever u have to just be happy for ur mom that she has someone she loves
2006-08-12 23:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by george 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray
2006-08-12 22:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by joy-ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are and whether you still live at home or not.
Tell your Mom that you would not have picked this man for her, but you will try to be decent to him because it is her choice not yours.
2006-08-12 22:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay low until you get 18 then move out.
2006-08-12 22:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋