I'm a Christian girl going off to be a freshman at a very liberal college in 2 weeks. I want to grow even closer to God and I'm also about to embark on a very long, hard, long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. Any advice?
2006-08-12 15:15:07 · 22 answers · asked by bachlava_9 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Keep in the word and keep in prayer. Find Christian friends. Do not compromise yourself or your beliefs.
In this new experience, your relationship with your boyfriend may not be foremost. If you're going to college, concentrate on learning all you can, pray for God's direction in your life. Don't let people who do not understand the walk of a Christian knock you off course. Stay true to the calling of Jesus, and lead a pure life.
And, have a wonderful time!
2006-08-12 15:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by christian_lady_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay close to God, read your Bible everyday, pray harder than you ever have, and don't let temptation get a hold of you. You may be the only one to stand for what is right. Don't let that discourage you, let this bring you closer to God.
Long distance relationships are the hardest of all relationships to keep, but with the help of the Lord you can do it!
My final advice would be to talk to your pastor.
2006-08-12 22:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by soccerdude89 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but long distance relationships hardly work. I know people say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it also causes the eyes to wander. My best advice is this, to grow closer to god; join the bible group at the college you will be attending. There is usually at least a dozen to choose from. To be closer to your boyfriend, communication. Call him, write, email send pictures and do it often. With out reminders of your relationship and them being current his eyes or even yours will start looking at someone else. It happens but can be prevented, it will take lots of work. Here is a red flag for you, if your communication ratio to his responses is greater than 2:1 (two from you and one from him (guys don't like writing much)) then he is losing interest. Also DO NOT TRUST any of your girlfriends that will be left in the same town with him. If he said that he and a girl friend of yours and a friend of his went out, then contact the girl and grill her and make sure she isn't making moves on your guy. It happened to me with my husband!
Good Luck.
2006-08-12 22:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by ldyrhiannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get closer to God is to realize that all are his children and none of them should be judged. If you see yourself as a 'Christian' pitted against non-Christians, atheists, liberals, etc. who could all potentially compromise your faith, then this IS moving away from God. Instead, if you saw all people as in this same mess together and that any idea or statement -- regardless of whether it supports your christian faith or is in direct opposition to it -- is ok ... that it's the Love underneath all the negativity and differences that can be found if it's looked for. If you brace yourself and react strongly to opposing ideas and feel a need to 'defend', this is just increasing the separation between god's children which moves away from him. In each situation, just ask God to show you the Love. If you think you need to defend God or your faith, stop and quiet yourself and ask again. As for your boyfriend, I don't know -- phone calls, letters ... but not overboard? All this of course is just my 2 cents.
2006-08-12 22:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are going to have to be very stong in your convictions.
I would say first and foremost, find an on campus Christian student group and align yourself with them. If they are simply to liberal and not living in a true Christian manner, find a church in the area that is.
You will need to replace the family that you are leaving with a family where you are at, and church is family.
As for the boyfriend, think of this as a trial in which you will discover if God placed you together or has planted you in a new place for even better things to come.
You will discover that you will be considered "different" by many. Stay strong and true to your upbringing. Stay in prayer and in the word of God to help you on this journey. Good luck and Godspeed to you.
2006-08-12 22:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by cindy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I got to a very liberal college, but there are still many religous groups and activities on and around campus, so holding onto, or growing in your religion shouldnt be a problem.
As far as your boyfriend goes, thats a personal issue. People grow and change quite a bit in college, so just keep that in mind.
2006-08-12 22:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by Will C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! the chance of a lifetime, you might just get some exposure to critical thinking, research, logic and many other useful ideas. Take advantage of this opportunity it might change your life. By the way how do you go about getting closer to God in a liberal college?
2006-08-12 22:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Paul S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea, loosen up and have a little fun, life is too short to care about being all proper and good all the time. Sometimes it's good for one to be bad once in a while. And I'm not sure what the point of mentioning the "liberal college" Are you afraid you'll be surrounded by a bunch of pot smoking hippies or what? Cuz not everyone that is liberal is bad you know, they just have a different point of view. Maybe you should get to know them before you judge.
2006-08-12 22:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All campuses have a Christian organization. Find it and join it, make a friend in it and go try out churches near campus. Pray and read your bible daily. There are many email devotionals you can sign up for my favorite is The Upper Room. Also pray about your relationship tell God your hopes and fears and thank Him for all he has done in your life!
2006-08-12 22:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by hazydaze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth is, you need to get into fellowship as soon as possible so your sisters and brothers in Christ can keep you in prayer.
I suggest a Home Group.It will keep you accountable. Continue your private bible study and regular prayer.
Most of all pray and ask God to go with you to college. Seek His presence daily. He won't let you down.
2006-08-12 22:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋