This was 2 years ago. i met this girl, we fell in love. She told me she wanted to marry me. Weeks after that, her dad died, just like that. I told her that I would get her get through it, and I did. I was at the funeral home everyday, spent all my time with her and her family. This was right before the holidays, and I tried to make all those "firsts" without him a little easier, like Thanksgiving and Christmas. When she graduated college, i had an artist paint a picture of her and her dad, she said that was the nicest thing anyone had ever done for her. I got her a job where I work. I was away for her graduation party, but flew back early to be there, she totally ignored me the entire time. She went from saying if it wasn't for me, she couldn't have made it through that time. But then she changed, got distant. Then eventually she told me she needs to move on with her life, and she can't do that with me in the picture. But I still love her. But seeing her hurts still. What can I do?
2006-08-12 15:07:10 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm afraid that you just cannot make someone love you. Her feelings have changed, and although she appreciated what you did for her, that isn't love. It will hurt, but you have to get on with your life, and in time you'll feel better, and the right girl will come along - and you'll KNOW it.
2006-08-12 15:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by theophilus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that, and I know you're hurting terribly. You have given her your heart and she's broken it. First of all, don't blame yourself. It was nothing you did wrong. Maybe you were just too good to her. She took advantage of your kindness, love and concern.
Maybe she just needs some space. I know it's tough, but she could be going through some kind of mental anguish herself. Or she may be afraid of commitment, although this is more common among men than women. Give it a little more time, and maybe she'll come around.
And maybe she won't. In that case, just pick yourself up and move on with your own life, dear. You sound like a wonderful guy that any girl would be proud to have as a lover or husband. There are lots of nice, lonely women out there who crave the kind of attention you're willing to give. Don't give up. You have a lot to offer someone that will appreciate your love, and give back to you. Good luck!
2006-08-12 22:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "this was 2 years ago and that even now you still love her "but seeing her hurts still." What can I do? Don't see her.
Move on with your life. She told you she needs to move on with her life and that she can't do that with u in the picture. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't love you do you? You were there for her during a very painful time in her life which is a lot more than a lot of guys would do. You deserve someone who loves you as much as you love her.Good Luck
2006-08-12 22:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is move on. It's hard but you can't make someone be with your that doesn't want to. Try to go out and find some friends to hang out with. You will be over her in no time. Good luck.
2006-08-12 22:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋