Do you call the police on a 7 year old for playing doctor with a 4 year old?

Question

father of the 4 year old called police and said his son was molested

all clothing was on. the 7 year old girl was laying on top of the 4 year old boy

the fathers are brothers

Answer 1

I think the 7 year old should be incarcerated until 21 and then placed on a sex offender registry. Oh, and the offenders family should pay for the lifetime of therepy the little boy will need because of the trauma the incident undoubtedly did.

Answer 2

wow what an overreaction, kids play stuff like this there was no malice in it, does the father of this 4 year old truly think that the 7 year old was intent on causing such controversy? there may be an age gap but for gods sake the 7 year old is only young, it just happened to be a child of 4 years old that she was playing doctors with! the police definitely did not need to be involved just a little talk with the children from their parents that's all!

Answer 3

No, but it definately deserves a conversation with both. Kids are curious, but use it as a learning opportunity, not a punishment. Explain to the older child that it isn't appropriate and that although they are curious and things may even feel good that people should never touch them in that way. If they are curious then they need to ask mom or dad and that its ok to be curious and have questions but there's a right way and a wrong way to get their answers.

Answer 4

In the past, it would have been considered a normal thing, the parents would have talked to the children about "private areas" and they would have went on living life. Now, nothing is safe. What would they do to the 7 year old? Send him/her to jail? Then what, they'd be raped by the next in line, and everything goes to pot! What did the cops say, btw?

Answer 5

I think that was going a bit far, but steps definitely should be taken to get the child some counseling. I would be more concerned as to why the 7 yr. old knows this type of thing to begin with.

Answer 6

Wow. I don't think I would agree with that father. I think it would have been best if BOTH SETS of parents got together and had a talk with the little ones. At such ages, they are exploring and trying to learn. We need to be the ones that control this learning by teaching them how to appropriately handle their curiousity.

Answer 7

Sounds like an over-reaction. I hope the police handled it appropriately. Sometimes any report like this has to go to Child and Family Service, but with the stuff they see, they'd probably close the case pretty quickly.

Answer 8

IT DEPENDS ON HOW FAR THE LITTLE "DOCTOR GAME" WENT !!!
EVEN WITH THE CLOTHING ON...SOME INAPPROPRIATE PLACES COULD HAVE BEEN TOUCHED...THAT IS WHAT YOU NEED TO FIGURE OUT FIRST !!!

Answer 9

No, I wouldn't have done that, because all clothes were on.

Answer 10

Okay....Let me introduce myself. I am the son in this entire situation. I am the father of the 4 year old boy and the Uncle of the 7 year old girl.

My mother claims to show no favortism, however, her post is completely wrong and impartial to the actual facts that have occurred over the past few months.

Yes, I did tell my son that the hamsters were having sex. I am not going to lie to my children nor am I going to sugarcoat things for them in life. Life is hard, it is complicated, and it isn't always fair but with good morals, hard work, and a common sense of right and wrong they will make out just fine.

This is the stance I will take when raising my children.

Let me also clear the air by stating that I was not sexually abused when I was young, nor do I believe that I need help because of the way I reacted to this situation.

Here is what has happened:

Two months ago I reluctantly let my son sleep over my mother's house with my niece because she, my niece, is completely uncontrollable and never is disciplined.

But I let him sleep there anyway, trying to give it a chance. The next day when I asked him if he had fun, he said he couldn't tell me because he wasn't supposed to.

Naturally as a parent, my stomach sank. I thought of the worst situation possible. After asking alot of questions my son finally told me that my niece pulled down his pants and then took off her pants in her bed and she "rubbed her pee-pee" on his.

I completely lost my mind. Why were they sleeping in the same bed together? Why did my mother allow this knowing that my niece has had some sexual behavior issues in the past?

My niece was pulled out of school for publicly masturbating after being told over and over again that it was unacceptable. My neice made a statement claiming that my niece's mother grabbed my niece's hand while she was sleeping and began rubbing her hand on the mother's breast because she was having a dream about sex. Now let's talk about a little too much information!

So this is why I was reluctant to let my child sleep over her house with my niece.

The hamster talk with my child took place after the first incident. I only had this discussion with my son because the school system told us to approach this type of situation honestly and openly. They know what they are talking about, they are professionals and parents. I trusted their advice.

After the first incident with my niece, I did speak with my mother and my brother concerning the situation and my mother scared the living daylights out of her by telling her that I was calling the Police Department and that my niece was going to jail. I NEVER SAID THAT.

I tried to reach out to them in hopes that they would get my niece some help. It is obvious to me that she is being molested or being exposed to some type sexual activity that no seven year old should be exposed to.

My mother blamed the NJ Division of Family Youth and Services for her problem. She then said that perhaps it was the school system for not following through with their case. Not once did she say, " We should get her some help." Wouldn't you want to know if your daughter were being molested?

By the way...my brother has joint custody with his ex. My niece shares two homes.

Anyway...I had a conversation with my son. Explained to him that what my niece did was wrong and that if that ever happened to him again by ANYONE, he should not be afraid to tell mommy and daddy immediately.

A month or two later. My wife was asked to watch my niece. She accepted.

I was upstairs sleeping because I was not feeling well after work and I heard my wife scream. I ran downstairs to find my wife in tears and she began to explain to me the situation.

My wife had to go to the bathroom. When she came downstairs it was silent. She walked silently figuring they were getting into something they shouldn't have been and when she came around the corner she witnessed my niece on top of my son. She was kissing his belly with her hands on his shorts as if she were going to pull them down to perform oral sex.

I exploded. This was the second time it affected my family, and as any parent, I will protect my children at any cost. I really feel that this all could have been avoided if they would have gotten her the help she needed in the first place.

I asked my son what they were doing and he stated that my niece told him that they were going to make a baby. My son did not initiate that conversation. He is four years old. He saw hamsters have sex. He did not see people have sex, nor did I ever have that type of conversation with him. Right now he is too busy learning T-Ball and watching cartoons than worrying about sex!

Yes. I did call the Police and I personally feel that this will be the only way that my niece gets the help she needs. And the Police did not say that it was just kids being kids. What they said was that my niece was probably being molested too and that is where she learned this type of behavior.

My son was exposed to this type of behavior twice now and if I let him continue to think that it was acceptable than that would leave open the possibility for him to perform the same actions on my two year old daughter. That is one chance I do not want to take.

I am a parent. I intervened. I did not ignore this situation. I will not feel bad about it either. I did go see a therapist after the first time and he told me that if the behavior continued that I should report it. I did.

I spoke with my son once about it after the second time it happened and I am not going to bring it back up. Chances are he has forgotten it by now. I hope.

I am angry with my mother and my father and I probably will never speak to them again after the way they have reacted to this and then to go as far as posting my business on the internet in haphazard fashion without telling the complete story completely crossed the line.

I do feel that I need to shelter my children from their grandparents. If they couldn't see that one grandchild was in danger, then how can they actually be there for three?

I used to work with Juvenile Offenders who sexually molested family members. I have seen both sides and I am aware that the molester is a victim also, but as a parent...how am I supposed to protect my kids if I keep exposing them to this type of behavior?

All I want is for my niece to recieve help. I don't know if she is being molested and that would crush me if this were the case. It would also eat me up inside if that is, in fact, the case and my parents or my brother ignored this for so long.

I am just suprised that I am being made out to be the bad guy for trying to protect my niece and my son.