My lil girl will be 2 in November and she will be going to daycare within the next few months and I am scared to death. I am a 1st time mom and I am not looking forward to her crying and being without me. Any tips or advice?
2006-08-12 14:45:52 · 16 answers · asked by jerneemomma04 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know exactly how you feel. You have time to ease yourself and your daughter into it. That's what I did with my son. I found a wonderful school that not only lets you hang out but encourages it. At first I started him 2 half day's a week. The very first day I stayed in the classroom the whole time and was able to see how the teacher ran the class. The next day I left the room while they went outside to play and I had coffee with the director of the school and got to know her. By the third week I was able to drop my son off stay for about 15 minutes until he got settled in and leave. He cried a couple of times and so did I but within 2 months time he was going all day long and telling me to leave.That's when I cried and felt like he didn't need me. Best of Luck.
2006-08-12 19:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by mom_2scotty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's so funny that you ask this because my daughter is 15 months old and her first day of daycare was this past thursday. I wanted to cry when she started crying but I had to leave her. The director told me that it normally takes kids about two to three weeks to get used to everyone. Try to visit the day care as much as you can. Before my daughter started going to school I would go when I had free time if only for an hour so that she could get a little familiar with the school. I am also a first time mom and I can tell you that it will be hard at first because it's hard on me right now. There is no easy way.
2006-08-12 21:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way. This will be heartwrenching for you and she will cry. However, there are things you can do to make it a lot better. First, for your own sanity, make sure you have checked and re-checked the references on the place. The Dept. of Health can give you information as well. Also, try bringing her for an hour or so for the first few days so she gets used to the concept, and so she knows you will come back for her.
When the big day arrives, make sure she knows that it's ok to be sad, you're sad too -- but that she will need to stay there. You have to be prepared to walk away while she is still crying. Then you can have an inevitable cry in the car after you leave.
In a couple days, she'll be crying when you come to pick her up because she wants to stay with her friends. Then you'll be crying for the opposite reason!
2006-08-12 22:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by I'm_Bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have found that you cant make a big production let her know in advance she will be going to play with some other children and that you will be going to work when the time comes to drop her off tell her bye give her a kiss and leave if she sees any hesitation from you she will see it as a bad thing you are doing and she will cry and carry on but if you are calm and controlled she should be too it is amazing how kids pick up on their parents feelings and make them their own
my little girl is almost 3 and has been going to daycare 2 days a week for a few months so i can get errands done and to get her used to being around other kids its good for them to be independant of you and for you to be away from them too just be sure to take lots of time to pick a care provider you are comfortable with leaving her with it is rarely the first one you try but they are out there
2006-08-12 22:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by aarika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mother has run her own Daycare since I was little and I tell you the worst ones are the mothers of first born children. We watch these little ones coming and they aren't doing too bad but the mothers look like they need a tranquilizer. It starts with you Mommy. Talk about it in a positive way. smile about it. When you bring her to Daycare...be short , sweet, to the point...don't linger and stress out the poor child. Say Bye honey, have a fun day...Mommy is going to work. Quick hug, kiss then get out. If you dare show stress in front of your child, it's on your shoulders for upsetting her. Time to think of her not yourself. Even if she cries, the Daycare is used to that and I bet within minutes she'll be running and laughing with the other kids. Then when you arrive she'll also be thrilled to see you.Good luck:)
2006-08-12 23:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by Zoey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could visit the daycare a few times and stay with her so she gets used to the surroundings. On the first day, stay with her for about 5 minutes, try to get her entertained in something, and then give her a kiss and leave. The teachers deal with this type of thing all the time, so they won't panic. 90% of the time it's the parents who don't want to leave, not the kids not wanting the parent to leave. Good luck
2006-08-12 22:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me see, first you will make it worst by you letting them know you are upset.
Next don't keep saying good bye. You will cause the child to cry and cry more than needed.
next understand the child will cry, but in about 4 minutes they will be playing with the other kids and not even think about it.
so you walk in, tell the child good bye and make sure they understand that you will be back after work or where you go.
They more you push her to miss you, the more she will cry.
Use some sitters during the time before then so the child gets use to having you gone for shorter periods
2006-08-12 22:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an only father of a 15 month old. I would scared to death to drop him off, he just started 3 weeks ago. Trust me, its way worse on you, she is fine, playing, singing, laughing, eating well sleeping better at home- I find and so much more.
The only way to do it is to show her around, introduce her to the toys, tell her you are leaving but you will be back and simply put her down and walk out. she will cry! but only the first time that much, it will get better and she is happy!!
2006-08-12 22:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by desire to inspire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to people who say it is just mean. Good grief what are you supposed to do? Just be strong. It is never easy to leave your baby anywhere for the first time. You just have to be strong. Drop your little one off, let her know you will be back later, give her a kiss and leave. It is very hard but with more time it will become easier and easier. Just make sure you are consistent and know that you are being the best mom you can!
2006-08-12 23:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by hechicera_de_la_alma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk good things about the daycare, kinda let her know in advance where she is going to be going...talk to the center director and see if u can meet her teacher, or see if you can introduce her teacher to her sooner than when she is going to start. see how she reacts to that. kind of a "get her ready" . let her know that you will be seeing her when she gets picked up. see what activities she will be doing around the time you are going to be picking her up around...that way she can associate the activity to when you are going to pick her up. for example. if she is having snack or when its class reading time when you pick her up, the next day let her know..."i will be picking you up around snack time, or reading time" so she knows around when its close to seeing mommy again, something for her to look forward to. its not a bad thing, it doesnt take long for children to adapt when they are that young...not saying its going to be easy at first....if she does better then some days....let her know. thats what teachers are there for too...to make the children feel comfortable with them and the other children. good luck
2006-08-12 23:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by shortlilkorngrl929 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋