I have two grown children. Right now the oldest is living at home with me, At what age should she be out on her own. She is 23 years old?
2006-08-12 14:42:38 · 26 answers · asked by HastyBabe 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't want her to move out. I love having her here. I was just wanting to know what other people thought was a good age for adult children to move out on their own.
2006-08-12 15:21:51 · update #1
I moved out at 17 but females don't have that option,maybe at 21 but Ithink they should have a roommate and a good job
2006-08-13 05:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by GIDDYUP 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well does she work for 1? If she is working there is no reason that she should be living with you at all!! My mom's neighbor's kids still live with them and the oldest is 28 which I find very immature at his age, and the youngest just graduated but the middle child is about 25 and she still lives there too!! I don't know why these parents in these type of situations don't speak up and kick their kids out to teach them responsibility in the real world!! I would if it was my kids and they were those ages. I can see certain situations like if she was living with a bf and had to move out because they broke up or she has a child and doesn't have anywhere to go but I am 26 and I don't even want to live with my parents NO WAY!! I like having my freedom too much and not having mom and dad knowing everything that is happening in my life.
2006-08-12 14:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by chrissiewild79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ridiculous that one would put an age limit. It all depends on the child, the parent, the circumstances.
If the child is 22 and going to school to become a doctor, why is it horrible for him to still be living at home?
If the the child is working, paying rent, and not being serviced by the parents but looking after themselves and being respectful of the parent's house rules and they all agree and get along, why do they have to move out because they are a certain age?
The earlier you send them out, the better the chance they have in getting into trouble since no-one is looking out for them and these days, it's just too easy to go down a wrong path.
2006-08-12 15:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the child
Right now I have an 18 yr old living on her own, and her two brothers are at home. The oldest is 24 , moved across country 4 years ago and then went to Iraq. So we are thrilled to have him home. Turned his room into an apartment. He has Independence and we have him around.
Count your blessings !!
If your daughter doesn't move out - see if she wants the privacy of an in-home apartment and the bills that go with it. It may give you both what you need.
2006-08-12 14:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by Akkita 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was working at 16 and out of the house at 19. But I moved from my mother's house to an apartment with a boyfriend, so I wasn't technically on my own. But I think 20 is a good age.
2006-08-12 14:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by chrystallec 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should she move out on her own? Her rent is paid, she doesn't have a light bill, phone bill, water bill..... I moved out when I was 17. My baby sister moved out when she was 19. I suggest they have their life in order, but, they need to assume the responsibility of a household. It's actually surprising, that is more of a man thing (to stay at home with momma). Most females want that independence. Does she know how you feel? If you have already talked to her about moving out, then you have no choice but to give her a certain amount of time to move. You don't want to be the excuse for her to fail, of course, but if she continues living with you, she will never know what she can accomplish. I would say once college is finished... it's time! God bless you both.
2006-08-12 15:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's 23 and you both enjoy living together than I suggest you keep living together. However, she should put about $750.00 away in a locked account per month.
That would be about what she would pay on cheap room and board if she were on her own and when it is time she will have a down payment for a home of her own.
$750 x 3 years = $27,000
$750 x 5 years = $45,000 (not including interest)
2006-08-12 21:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by anthrotistic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think kids should be allowed to stay with their parents when they are trying to achieve a higher education, ie college degree. If they are going for the next level, they should be able to stay. But once they have achieved their degree, I think they should start paying rent to the parents and then have one or two years to save up enough money and to get a good job and move out on their own. Good Luck.
2006-08-12 14:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess it depends on the child and how ready you have prepared them for the real world. Anytime they can support themselves after 18 I would say. A college student may need some extra support for a few more years. If they haven't left by the age of 30, you may have taught them to depend on you. I think by then, it gets harder to get them to go quietly and on their own...and, they will probably try to come back if you do manage to get them out!
2006-08-12 14:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sweet♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son moved out when he 22. I never asked him to or forced the issue. He works for a living and made sure he could support himself. When he lived at home, he paid rent, did chores and I had no problem with him living at home and didn't care what others thought he should do.
2006-08-12 14:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 23 years old she should be on her own.
2006-08-12 14:52:30 · answer #11 · answered by oceanjen2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋