For me, it was forgiving my father for being an alcoholic, and for being drunk the last time I saw him. After he died, I only felt remorse for not making peace with him when I had the chance. I feel ashamed to this day for holding a grudge against him.
2006-08-12 14:40:00 · 25 answers · asked by Incorrectly Political 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Not me personally, but I saw a show about Corrie Tan Boom (sp?) a Christian survivor of a Nazi concentration camp and she talked about the struggle of forgiving a Nazi soldier that was at her camp that committed horrible, brutal acts and was asking her for her forgiveness. She was able to through the power of Christ, but I can't imagine how hard that would be to do. I have tons of respect for her!
2006-08-12 14:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Vladdy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
#1 When I went to my step-mom's house for Christmas ... we made peace at the same time, and WOW did it feel great.
#2 Forgive my "Ex" for being a suspected pedophile. Guess first, I got my nose out of snooping. Second, I came to the conclusion that he is messed-up major (and to stop blaming me) ... although he's messed-up major doesn't mean that I deserve revenge upon him but rather, he deserves my support as a FRIEND (vs boy-friend - big difference) ... and I need to stop putting my expectations on him so that I can co-exist with him and help him overcome his shortcomings. However, not crossing any legal lines with supporting him, as I do not support the harming of children. Very fine tight-walk I'm doing, but this is where I am ... hope i find a safe resting place soon, as I'm getting soooo tired. Guess it's still a work in progress ...
After all forgiveness cannot be complete unless someone sincerely asks for forgiveness and the other person sincerely grants forgiveness ... sometimes, a penitence is needed to show forgiveness!!!
2006-08-12 15:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was talking about this to my husband the other day, it seems God has really blessed me with the ability to forgive. I have never struggled with it . And I have had major things happen to me in my life time. I may have choosen to remove some people from my life just for my own good or health but I truely have forgiven them. Forgiveness really is just releasing something from yourself......not holding on to it any more.........it is not saying the wrong doing was okay or just.........its simply letting it goooooooooooooooo.
2006-08-12 14:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by KITKAT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have forgiven 3 men for raping me and have also forgiven 5 boys for sexually abusing me as I grew up as a teenager in a small village. To NOT forgive them would only hold me back and I have so far to go without dragging them on my shirt tails behind me. I have also learned lessons from these experiences that I have been able to pass on to young women who are coming into their prime in order to prevent them from making the same mistakes as me.
The partner who has beaten me and humiliated me.... I cannot find it inmy heart to ever forgive and I doubt I ever will as he had ample opportunity to "come good".
2006-08-12 16:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by debisioux 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly .......i've got in no way had a difficulty with forgiveness for a honest apology.... once I hit upon some thing...decrease than honest...I reciprocate...and do not forget approximately... as for the toughest situation.......properly ......i'm nevertheless engaged on that ...forgiving myself... touching directly to an exceptionally tragic vehicle twist of destiny 40 5 years 5 months sixteen days in the past......
2016-11-04 11:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing to forgive is your own sins. The hardest person to forgive is yourself. You wouldn't think so but it is true. Most of the time we actually never forgive ourselves for sin. We just shrug it off and pretend it didn't happen. But that is not forgiveness. We need to forgive everyone, including ourselves. God forgives. So can we.
2006-08-12 21:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by ManoGod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My then-fiance for leaving me for three months for another girl... now he is my husband over a year and we have a great relationship and a daughter on the way.
I would say my cousin for molesting me 3 different times when I was 10 years old... but, I never really "forgave" him. I just never brought it up after it happened. I still see him a lot. I never spoke a word of it to him. I just denied it really happened, let myself believe it was just a dream. It helps to believe that when I see him hanging out with my brothers.
2006-08-12 14:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My last girlfriend lied to me repeatedly indicating she was not cheating on me. When the truth finally came out the reality was that she was turning 'tricks'. Yes, she was a prostitute. I walked away. To walk away is to forgive. It was very sad. To some degree it still is. But I did forgive her.
2006-08-12 14:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving myself.
2006-08-12 14:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was hardest to forgive the person that sexually molested me. But I'm glad I put that behind me. Because it was eating me up, and it cost me a lot in therapy bills.
The bottom line is that forgiveness not only benefits the person who wronged you, but also benefits yourself.
2006-08-12 14:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋