i have been in a relation ship for more then 3 years toward ther end of the relation ship my boyfriend became violent and i had to say goodby,it was about 1 week later and he snuck up on me and slaped me and stole my purse,i had him put in jail ,,,now he face very severe charges and i feel so bad for him ,,,my question is why am i feeling so bad ,,,i still love him but i know we can not b together,,,please help with your best advise
2006-08-12 14:33:43 · 30 answers · asked by firecracker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did the right thing. Violence only gets worse. If you had married and had kids, he would have beaten them too.
Maybe he will get the help he needs.
Whatever you do, don't take him back. If you feel like you're going to, seek counseling for yourself.
2006-08-12 14:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably feel bad because you spent a long time with this person and had a lot of feeling invested in him, and now that is over. You might be feeling betrayed, or angry that he would treat you so badly, or you might have some guilt over the fact that you had him put in jail. At the end of any relationship there is bound to be some pain, but you did the right thing, so stay strong and you'll get through it. Good luck!
2006-08-12 21:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by peaceful_sorceress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take him back, whatever you do! If he was abusive, he won't change. You were lucky to get out of that relationship with your life--if you go back to him, we may be seeing your family telling your story on a talk show. My mother was in a similiar situation and I've had friends who've been in abusive relationships, so I can understand how difficult this is for you! It's natural for you to feel bad--- you feel like crap because it's a crappy situation.But you did the right thing by ending it with him--stay strong, and if you can, try to seek out some counseling.It might help what you're going through. Please take care!!
2006-08-12 22:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, move on. Why do you want a violent boyfriend. Can't you see he's a coward? He slapped you and snatched you purse. Do want to be loved or hurt? You are simply asking to get hurt by this guy again. Move on. You can do way better than that. I wish you my very best, girl. Good Luck!
2006-08-12 21:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he hurt you doesnt mean that you dont care for him steal feelings dont just come and go like that. the important thing is that you were smartest thing by breaking up with him and i have a feeling you are smart enough not to take him back. the best thing happened when you put him in jail now he knows you are not gonna play that game ,please follow through and make sure that he gets the therapy he needs to help him. sometimes therapy helps and sometimes it doesnt, but you did all you could for him by making him accountable for his actions... so sorry it hurts your feeling, hope you feel better soon because you are doing the right thing. he could do this to someone else..
2006-08-12 21:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to be mad at someone you love...but you did what is right. You don't need a man slappin you around. And if you didn't stand up for yourself he'd either still be beatin on you or some other poor girl who didn't have the balls like you did to end it. Try not to feel bad. No girl deserves to be hit.
2006-08-12 21:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok no girl deserves to be in a relationship were your partner will abuse you like that. That is just bull ****, you deserve way better than that. Dont feel bad for putting him in jail that is were he belongs. You may always love him no matter what, but trust me you will find another love and it might be the right one.
2006-08-12 21:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey don't feel bad. That just means you have a conscience. But you have to ask yourself did he feel badly when he slapped you in the face and took your purse. I'm guessing no. So you shouldn't feel badly for putting his *** in jail. Bravo for standing up for yourself a lot of women out there don't and they end up dead because of it. Good luck.
2006-08-12 21:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your situation is pretty difficult.
it is pretty because you got out of a relationship that turned sour.
it is difficult because you still love the guy and your heart breaks when you see him suffer.
you said you still love him but has already accepted the fact that you cannot be together. That is a start.
let the case take its natural course. do not interfere. let the people know and prove to yourself that you don't want somebody whom you love and whom you thought loves you could hurt you.
2006-08-12 21:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone ever said love was easy ,they don't know love .I feel you made the right decision,to cut this guy loose .know matter how much you love someone ,you can not change that persons character.It sounds as though to me this person has a deep aggression problem ,and very dominate.Do the right thing and find someone that appreciates your character.
2006-08-12 21:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by emtygun 45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't EVER settle for someone who physically strikes you! I know you still love him, but you deserve so much more than that! Don't ever feel like there isn't someone better for you out there - because there is! You need to realize the value in the woman that you are, and how much you have to offer to someone who is worthy of your love. That person will value and worship you, and treat you as you deserve to be treated - don't settle for less.
2006-08-12 21:43:05 · answer #11 · answered by jasmine828_34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋