We are renewing vows then; our 18th anniv.; when to send save the date cards; when to send invitations....please
help with any other advice.....this will be the wedding we never had...
2006-08-12 14:33:36 · 18 answers · asked by LYNETTE L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Send Save the Date cards about 4 to 6 months ahead of time. Mail the invitations about 6 weeks before the big day.
2006-08-12 14:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Fall Down Laughing 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you finally get to have a wedding of your dreams. Once you know who will be invited, tell them in person so they will understand why you are doing it and so they'll get excited for you. Otherwise they may see the invite and wonder why you are doing it. Renewing a persons vows is becoming more common, so most people will really like the idea.
I would send a save the date before Thanksgiving next year (11/2007) that tells people the basics: who, what, where, when, and why. It can be as simple as:
Come join (you and your husband's name) for the wedding they never had)! The (last name) will be renewing their wedding vows at (time) on Saturday, February 23, 2008 at (place).They would be honored by your presence.
Then send the invites out the first week in January. Assemble them on New Years (when you have the time to) and then get them in the mail by 1/10/2008 so you can have RSVPs back by Valentine's Day.
Good Luck!
2006-08-13 10:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you having a re-run wedding for? That's really not approriate.
Married people do not have weddings. Renewals of vows should be done privately or with only immediate family, without a big hubbub-- not be a reenactment of a previous ceremony, but this time with a fancier dress. It's a sacred vow, not show business that you can take on the road for repeat performances.
If you want to celebrate, throw a big anniversary dinner-dance and invite everyone to share your joy that way. That would be much more appropriate than a tacky rerun-wedding spectacle.
Send out save the dates for your Anniversary Dinner Dance 6 months in advance.
2006-08-12 14:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Send the save the date cards about 1 year before and let them know that you are having a wedding renewal celebration and would love for them to attend. But don't wear a wedding gown, but wear a very nice dress, have your husband in a nice suit and ask your children (if you have them) or your previous maid of honor and best man to stand up with you again.
2006-08-19 04:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ENTIRELY appropriate to have a wedding you never had...ettiquettegal needs a reality check. miss manners is nearly 100 years old and operates on 1940's thinking. I do think it's inappropriate to ask for gifts of course - but asking your friends and family to join you as you rekindle your vows in a ceremony that you want is beautiful. Send your save the date cards 4-6 months in advance - and the invitations 6weeks out. Enjoy your special day! :)
2006-08-19 06:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by shimmerplanet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Customarily you send out save the date cards 4 to 6 months before and the invitations are sent out roughly 3 months before. Have a wonderful time on your special day! I am getting married next August to my very best friend! I hope u have another wonderful 18 years together!!!
2006-08-19 08:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by bootaboutit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally, if yours is a destination wedding, or your wedding will take place in a location other than the city in which most of your guests live, it’s a good idea to send a save-the-date card as early as 6 months before the date of y our wedding. This is also true of couples whose wedding will fall on a holiday weekend, as holidays are often planned far in advance to allow for travel. For international guests, it is a good idea to send save-the-dates this early, as mailing times are often much higher for mail sent to foreign countries. If your wedding will take place near where the majority of your guests live, then approximately 3 months before the wedding date is plenty of time. *Keep in mind that it is vital to have a final draft of your guest list before sending out your save-the-dates. You don’t want to send a save-the-date card to someone who will not be invited to the wedding
2006-08-19 04:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by kikasman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send the invitations at lest 2 month before the big day and the date cards 3 weeks before the big day.
2006-08-18 05:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by mzlynn_111105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is send the cards out as soon as you have confirmed your date with the church/officiant and the reception venue. This will give your guests additional time to make arrangements on their end.
You will need to send the invitations out 6-8 weeks before the wedding with a RSVP date of 2-3 weeks before. This will give you enough time to turn in the final counts to the caterer.
Good luck!
2006-08-12 18:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
About six weeks in advance for invitations and about 2 - 3 months for save this date card. Congratulations!
2006-08-19 01:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by lady love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋