I thought that I had heard, according to etiquette, that only 1 gift is appropriate.
2006-08-12 14:14:01 · 22 answers · asked by amanda_loo_hoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Perhaps a trip to www.etiquettehell.com would clear things up for you!
Being that you are invited to two events, a gift is appropriate for both events. You determine the scale of gift you want to give. Typically, I usually buy something off the registry for the shower and give a check at the wedding in a card.
2006-08-12 15:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding and the shower are two different events, so you need two different gifts. Usually, a gift from the registry is given at the shower. Most people give gift cards or money in a card for the wedding itself. Its best if the wedding gift is the equal to how much your dinner might have cost at the reception, but this is only a general rule because it's hard to guess how much people paid for you and your date (if one was invited) to eat. I've never heard of someone coming empty-handed to either a wedding or a shower.
2006-08-12 17:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can gift them twice if you want to, but giving a shower gift only is appropriate, too.
But you cannot attend the shower without bringing along a physical gift. By etiquette, that is the ONLY type of party where a physical gift is requred from everyone attending.
Edit: I just came back to your question and have read the other answers below. I can't believe the bad advice people give out on here, when they evidently know nothing about etiquette and have never read an etiquette book. Please buy a reliable, published etiquette book from a well-respected author, for the future. It's always useful to have on hand to refer to. Don't rely on the Internet-- it's like the blind leading the blind, around here.
2006-08-12 14:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my understanding, people have a wedding shower to receive all of the things they put on registry, that way when the wedding comes they don't have to bother with carrying all of these boxes of presents home. but if they wanted they can still have a table at the wedding that holds extra gifts they didn't receive at the wedding shower, in case someone couldn't purchase something by the time the wedding shower came. alot of people do bridal showers where there girls buy the bride to be naughty lingerie and all of the wedding gifts from the registry are given at the wedding and placed at the table. it depends on the couple and what they want to do, but i think one good present is good enough.
2006-08-13 19:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by married1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you buy something from their registry, then that is THE GIFT. If you just buy something special for the bride, like candles, lingerie or any other personal item, then yes a second gift would be the proper thing to do. Shower gifts may only end up being for the bride, and the wedding gift is for both bride & groom.
2006-08-12 20:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by debra l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding shower gift is different than a wedding gift. I always though the wedding shower was more like for the bride and the groom to use in the honeymon.
2006-08-14 12:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope, if you're invited to a bridal shower, it's still appropriate to get the bride and groom a wedding gift as well. Mainly because bridal shower gifts are usually intended for just the bride, while wedding gifts are for the couple. However, if your financial circumstances dictate that you only can afford 1 gift, I would take one to the shower, and send a nice card congratulating them on their marriage.
2006-08-12 14:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say 1 gift is plenty! I've never heard of a wedding shower. When someone gets married, and you are invited to the wedding, you give them a gift. It sounds like the more party they give, the more gifts they receive. You do whatever your budget allows. Give them a toaster and call it quits.
2006-08-12 14:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by Carmen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette depends on what you have read/heard and from whom. I personally felt guilty if a friend purchased a gift for the shower and the wedding. They are both to celebrate the same event. Do what is appropriate for your budget. If you feel you must do both, do something small for each event.
2006-08-12 14:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by teacherg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are invited ot it, you are expected to buy a gift to take to it. Sometimes there is more than one shower. Usually different people are invited to these, but those in the wedding and very close family may get invited to both. They buy a gift for both. If there's a bachelorette party, you buy a "gag" gift for that. And you also buy a gift for the wedding. Sorry to give you the bad news.
2006-08-12 14:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋