My boyfriend and I broke up about 6 weeks ago. We had a great relationship going on and always have gotten along. He has been burned in other relationships and was once engaged, only to have his fiance cheat on him. I think he fears commitment. He said there was something missing, but he didn't know what. He didn't want to break up,but I was so confused and hurt that we ended the relationship. We've continued our friendship and he remains one of my best friends.We still e-mail each other daily and text each other. I know I can turn to him for anything and he can do the same When he hugs me I know he still wants to kiss me. But we talked about getting back together about 2 weeks after we broke up and he said that he just isn't ready and wasn't sure. He cares about me...that much I know. But he still likes to get together with his college buddies and I think he doesn't quite want to grow up. What does everyone think on this? I love him. Do you think we could end up back together?
2006-08-12 14:02:26 · 10 answers · asked by hawkeye4282000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if you have a eye from a hawk you should see that he has a lot of feeling for you. but when a man has been hurt he fears being hurt again and it will cause him to be reluctant when it comes to comitment. just give him time, and continue to show that you will be there for him, its just he has been wounded and you have to give him time to heal!
2006-08-12 14:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is commitment-phobic. He's comfortable with the daily relationship you have now, because it carries no committment. I've been in a similar situation as you, and believe me it hurts. It hurts because it's like a rubberband, as soon as the rubberband drew us closer, he ran, and when he ran, so did I - because it was "over" for the moment. As soon as re realized that I was gone, he would do everything he could to get me back close - a zone he was uncomfortable in. It was a very painful process over and over. I am very good friends with him now - many years later, but that was only possible because I let go of the feelings I'd had for him. He values our friendship, and values my opinions - I'm the first he'll call when he needs advice because he respected me then, but he respects me now even more. He was just completely unable to be close because of who he is - and that's something I need in a relationship, and that's why I ended it years ago. Find someone who is more compatible with who YOU are, and don't settle for anything less1
2006-08-12 21:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by jasmine828_34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Brush him he is not being real with you nor are you with yourself, He said he wants to be on his own well let him be, so you don't become a victim to his "what if's and maybe's" .
There is an old saying but true set him or her free and if they return it is meant to be if not well your not going to be continually living in hope.
Respect yourself girl there is somebody out there that has got there **** together and not a bag full of issues that will treat you with the respect and love you deserve.And more importantly you are taking control of your life.
Good luck
Adrian
2006-08-12 21:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Adrian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to let go of the past relationships. It is never good idea to bring the old relationships in the present relationships. Sounds like he fears commitment but if he is not ready to be with you. Then focus on your life and you will find someone else who won't fear commitment.
2006-08-12 21:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by maxunn1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hummm....relationships are so confusing these days...but I honestly think you should move on and stop pondering on that situation, I think if you just sit their wondering if he's going to come back to you, most likely ur waiting ur time. I do however, think you should talk to him, let him know how you feel, and if he feels differently, you need to definitely move on. Life is to short to ponder on one situation that makes you sad all the time...continue living your life hun and meet new people....who knows maybe ur better off without him....good luck
2006-08-12 21:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by SuzzyLou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey to be friends after havin a relationship is mature, you still in love with him or do you love the idea of being in love ? that's a tough one ..... be happy you have a Friend for live keep it that way and accept the way he is . that's what he is secretly telling you
2006-08-12 21:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by yvette b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE DID, YOU WOULD KNOW IT AND YOU WOULDN'T HAVE TO ASK.
HE IS NOT READY TO THINK ABOUT MORE THAN HIMSELF RIGHT NOW.....HE IS STILL CARRYING BAGGAGE AND IF YOU GOT INVOLVED, YOU WOULD THEN END UP PAYING FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S "CRIME"....
HE STILL SEES HIMSELF AS A VICTIM OF SOMETHING SOMEONE DID.....THAT IS HIS CHOICE.
UNLESS YOU HAVE SOME KIND OF SAVIOR COMPLEX, MOVE ON TO SOMEONE WHO YOU CAN BRAG ABOUT TO YOUR FRIENDS......
2006-08-12 21:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if you wait a little while longer he will want to get back together with you
2006-08-12 21:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when do they ever grow up, girl go get your man
2006-08-12 21:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by R J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he might want u bac but u should be sure
2006-08-12 21:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋