hi,
sorry I didn't get back to respond about my sons father, father hasn't called to see how son is doing . my son was molested on 6-25-06, last time father called was 6-29-00. father is defending cousin. what do you think about that?
my son has always been very afraid of his father.
I went to see a lawyer before to try to take visiting rights away, lawyer said it would be very hard to take rights away, that something bad had to happen to do that. at that time i didn't like the fact that father had 2 pitbulls in his house. the father is a real jerk.
and now he's really proving it.the guy that abused my son is 16 yrs old, old enough to know better , the guy is a mature 16 yr old.my son is really showing signs of emotional behavior. my son has alot of fear of men now. is also over eating, has gained about 10 pounds since he was molested monday i'm taking my son to the psychologist.
mean while i can't sleep. i could just imagine what my baby went thru. and never said anyting.
2006-08-12 13:51:19 · 23 answers · asked by Mary T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If its true and he was molested then the father could face criminal charges, especially if it could be proved in court.
2006-08-12 13:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by cbatb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friend reported that her son told her his dad molested him. The cps worker said she was abusing him by making him go to a doctor to be seen for possible sex abuse. The guardian ad litem says son will live with dad!!!!! The system is sooo f'd up. This is happening in Maine. If you can't prove it, no one will help. Thats been the experience here. My friend has spent 70,000 for lawyers that do nothing! She is a victimized again! People get scared, can't imagine someone would do such sick things, so people just turn a blind eye. Sooo many kids are being sexually abused and the teachers, lawyers, police, cps don't even know how to address any of this. Real problem. sorry to say the truth, and the truth sucks.
2014-03-29 17:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by MissT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget lawyers, call the police, molesting isn't no joke, it's more serious than rape. It can cause so much emotional devastation you wouldn't believe, and it can last a long time, the child will feel like it's his fault, especially because of his age, he may feel that he was old enough to make it stop but that isn't true, keep assuring him that it wasn't his fault, in the law's eyes, he is still a child. Keep a close eye on him, he could be suicidal, try to spend time with him as much as you can. God will deal with the father if the law doesn't. I wish the best for your son, and it will be hard not only for him but for you. God Bless you both, justice will be served, don't give up trying. The father will get what he deserves.
2006-08-12 13:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by rulerofvenus21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) Get some counseling for you and your son. You need to fix the terrible emotional scars that this has left on you both.
2) Go to the police and file a report. Now.
3) Get a better lawyer, your current one seems to be an incompetent money-sucking vampire.
4) Don't let your son stay with his father anymore. Or at least wait for a long time, until this thing resolves itself fully.
5) Explain to the father that his cousin also needs counseling.
6) Explain to your son that what happened is not his fault, that what his cousin did was extremely wrong, and that you will protect him and be there for him. Be as supportive as you can.
It's a long and difficult to-do list. But have courage and you will be able to get through this alright.
My sincere best wishes for you and your son. Good luck.
2006-08-12 14:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by Firefox 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Intervention is crucial now for your son. Many children who are molested grow up to be molesters themselves. Please find a child psychologist who has experience with this kind of thing.
File a Police report. They might not be able to do anything but you need the paper backup if you decide to press charges later on.
Talk to your lawyer again and see what he recommends now.
Since it's been two months it's a little late to get a doctors examination so you could have his report. However, I suggest that you take him to the doctor anyway. Maybe there will still be signs of the abuse.
Do what's best for your son.
2006-08-12 14:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your son's father is defending the molester, you need to see a lawyer immediately after taking your son to a psychologist. Also, have you taken him to a doctor? I know it's a harsh and horrible thought, but you should get him a physical examination to make certain nothing is damaged, and also a complete STD workup. If you tell them at the doctor's office what happened, they will know to be very gentle and compassionate, but you cannot neglect this for fear of hurting him more.
2006-08-12 13:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Nited1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats so sad. Your son will need a lot of counseling and he still will probably never forget what happened to him but at least it will help him to move on with his life and maybe grow up and help other children with similar situations.
As for his father, he will regret allowing this to happen to his own son. What goes around comes around. I sincerely hope you reported his nephew to law enforcement so that this doesn't happen to any other children. God Bless you and your son.
2006-08-12 13:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god that is tragic!! Did you contact the police? You need to do that NOW if you didn't!! Make sure to get a protective order for your son from that monster!! No judge in their right mind will let him be unsupervised with your son after all it happened in his care!! You need to make it a point for the law to be involved for other children's safety also!!! You are doing the right thing getting your son help I pray for his future. God bless
2006-08-12 14:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by pennyluvr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he needs someone to talk to!!!!!!!!!! someone that underdstands and alot of time a parent figure isn't the one try an uncle that he getts along with or an older brother once he talks then call the police!! take it from ther thats somthing that is very hard for a kid to talk about right now he doesnt know where to turn and its building upsomehow someone gotta get him to break down and know it ok to do so
2006-08-12 13:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by dennisberger1977 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old is your son, that is a very important factor. and second its the cousin not the father who molested the son, therefore you take the father to court and you loose and that can eventually persuade the court to find you mentally unstable too take care of your son. you are accusing the wrong person, your main target should be the abuser not the family member! please redefine your ? and post the age of you son.
2006-08-12 13:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
omg, I cant believe your on a yahoo chat board with something as heinous as that 1)please call the cops and make a report
2)call the judge and your lawyer and make a report
3)get a report from a doctor
4)get a restraining order against your husband and cousin (until it is decided who actually molested your child)
5)get some counseling for both of you
2006-08-12 13:55:38 · answer #11 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋